Glamour_Girl Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 Hi All, this is something that has been driving me crazy recently and i need some advice on it. i have been with my boyfriend for over a year and hes the best guy ive ever met. A few months into the relationship he told me about something that had happened to him a few years ago. when he was living in another country he had a one night stand with a girl he met in a bar. he said he was so drunk he didnt know what he was doing and cant remember much about it. there was no relationship at the time and they didnt start anything after. however she got pregnant afterwards..... its a long story but he persuaded her to keep the baby and when it was born, he raised it himself. the tradgedy is the baby died after just after its 1st birthday. its such a painful subject he never talks about it. at first i didnt want to upset him and just tried to be as supportive as i could. but its been playing on my mind recently - why did he do something like that? its totally out of character, or so i think. its making me doubt what his life was before me. did he do that a lot? (he worked in the bar trade...)is he just trying to shield me? i feel as if a cant trust him. i dont really know the best way to move forward. i think hes the guy for me, i just think how can we progress with a life and a family of our own with something like this between us? id really appreciate some advice and feedback?
Cecelius Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 Why can't you trust him? Because he didn't tell you this long ago? Frankly, the story is not that hideous a secret: rather than let her go off on her own or get an abortion, he raised the child himself only to see him pass away? I can understand dumping him for the baggage, but not for trust.
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