Mike800 Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 (edited) I’ve been seeing somebody for just 2 months and while she’s fine and there’s nothing wrong with her I don’t have that spark with her where I have to see her all the time and Im not sure how much longer I’m gonna last with her. I have a best friend who’s a woman and we talked about going out for years but for reasons I won’t get into we’ve been hesitant to ever do it. These few months I’ve been with this girl I’ve really missed seeing and hanging out with my friend. I find I have a much better time with her then the women I’m with and I think about her even when I’m with her. As much as I love my friend I was completely content being best friends with my friend but for whatever reason being with this girl has made me really really miss my friend and think maybe iam in love with her. Has anyone else had this happen where maybe you got into a short term relationship or a few and it made you miss a friend or somebody you know a lot more then you thought you would and looked at them in a more romantic light after being with someone else and realizing you like them much better then all these people you’ve gone out with? Edited January 10, 2019 by Mike800 1
lurker74 Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Yes, on more than one occasion. Sometimes I let it play out because I want to make sure it's not just obsession over an ex but most of the time, if I am thinking of someone else, I'm not being fair to the person I'm with...I know I would want her to be TOTALLY into me and not thinking about her ex or friend. End your relationship. It doesn't mean you should pursue your friend, but life is short, man. Don't pass up on an opportunity to be in love with your best friend. 2
emilp89 Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Are you sure? Maybe it's just grass is always greener... ?
preraph Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Thing is, if the friend thing hasn't turned romantic for her in all this time, it's not going to now, pretty sure. By now, you're in the friendzone. You get too familiar like a friend and lose your mystery and sex appeal a lot of times.
Author Mike800 Posted January 10, 2019 Author Posted January 10, 2019 Thing is, if the friend thing hasn't turned romantic for her in all this time, it's not going to now, pretty sure. By now, you're in the friendzone. You get too familiar like a friend and lose your mystery and sex appeal a lot of times. She said she’s sexually attracted to me that’s not the issue. It’s complicated why we haven’t gone past a friendship. I’m not saying it would definitely happen but I’ve gone out with people I started out as friends before. I don’t think it’s as taboo as it used to be.
Nilfiry Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Maybe once when I was a young teenager, but never again since because I learned not to let emotions get ahead. Alternately, get a harem. Problem solved. In your case, maybe the new girl was just a distraction for you from the one that you really liked, and you only realize this now after being with someone who is not the girl that you want.
Author Mike800 Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 (edited) Are you sure? Maybe it's just grass is always greener... ? Nah these women I meet I just don’t have as good a time or connect as well as I do with my friend. The only way to describe it is it feels like home when I’m with her and she’s said the same in the past. Edited January 11, 2019 by Mike800
Malin889 Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 GO FOR IT!! You only live once. She’ll be thrilled. She’s single, right?
edgygirl Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Gosh... go try it. There's not many people we can say that about. Just do it. Life is too short. And even if you don't, end it with the poor woman you don't feel a spark with. The only way to describe it is it feels like home when I’m with her and she’s said the same in the past.
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