Malin889 Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Hi, I was talking to this one guy this past weekend who had reached out to me on OLD. He was chatting with me for a couple days. Then I asked him a couple questions back to one of his messages, and he just responded “Hey (my name)” and never answered the questions, as if he didn’t get the message. So I sent him the same couple questions again, and got no response. ?? So I knew I had free time this weekend, so I emailed him just this morning and said, “Well, if you’d like to meet up, perhaps this weekend, let me know” and he sent me back his phone number. Not “Sure I’d love to meet up” or anything like that. Just his 10 digits. Like I felt like that was kind of condescending and rude. I don’t think I want to meet up with him. I’m not sure what my question is, I’m just trying to figure out why certain people can’t be normal. He seemed like a nice guy (at first), but then just kind of dropped off. Am I asking too much?
Happy Lemming Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 He could be busy and sent the 10 digits (Phone number), as requested. He might have not been able to think of anything witty to include. When I text (which is rare) I always think of something witty or funny to include after I send the text. As far as answering your questions, if the answer is long or requires an explanation, it might be too long to text or type an answer. What were these questions in reference to?? Was it something that required an explanation with the answer or was it something like "What is your favorite color?" Were the questions too personal?? He did give you his phone number, call him, talk to him, listen to his voice, gauge his reaction, you'll be able to tell if he is worth going out on a date with.
Author Malin889 Posted January 10, 2019 Author Posted January 10, 2019 He could be busy and sent the 10 digits (Phone number), as requested. He might have not been able to think of anything witty to include. When I text (which is rare) I always think of something witty or funny to include after I send the text. As far as answering your questions, if the answer is long or requires an explanation, it might be too long to text or type an answer. What were these questions in reference to?? Was it something that required an explanation with the answer or was it something like "What is your favorite color?" Were the questions too personal?? He did give you his phone number, call him, talk to him, listen to his voice, gauge his reaction, you'll be able to tell if he is worth going out on a date with. I guess... thanks!
preraph Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 He gave you his phone number. What's your problem. You asked to meet up, he gave you his phone number so you can call him and make arrangements. Be prepared to pay.
Elpida. Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Hi, I was talking to this one guy this past weekend who had reached out to me on OLD. He was chatting with me for a couple days. Then I asked him a couple questions back to one of his messages, and he just responded “Hey (my name)” and never answered the questions, as if he didn’t get the message. So I sent him the same couple questions again, and got no response. ?? So I knew I had free time this weekend, so I emailed him just this morning and said, “Well, if you’d like to meet up, perhaps this weekend, let me know” and he sent me back his phone number. Not “Sure I’d love to meet up” or anything like that. Just his 10 digits. Like I felt like that was kind of condescending and rude. I don’t think I want to meet up with him. I’m not sure what my question is, I’m just trying to figure out why certain people can’t be normal. He seemed like a nice guy (at first), but then just kind of dropped off. Am I asking too much? Text him, see what he says. I don't think I'd go chasing after him though. I don't know about you, but I don't put all my OLD eggs in one basket. Sure they may SEEM nice but in reality this is still a stranger you've never met. I speak to a few people at once.
Happy Lemming Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 I guess... thanks! You're welcome... but strike while the iron is hot. Invite him for a cup of coffee. If there is a local bookstore with a coffee shop in it, go for that. Plenty to talk about at a bookstore. GO HAVE FUN!!
Author Malin889 Posted January 10, 2019 Author Posted January 10, 2019 Text him, see what he says. I don't think I'd go chasing after him though. I don't know about you, but I don't put all my OLD eggs in one basket. Sure they may SEEM nice but in reality this is still a stranger you've never met. I speak to a few people at once. Oh yes I’m talking to a couple other people...
Author Malin889 Posted January 10, 2019 Author Posted January 10, 2019 He gave you his phone number. What's your problem. You asked to meet up, he gave you his phone number so you can call him and make arrangements. Be prepared to pay. Be prepared to pay? Really?
Geraltt Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Be prepared to pay? Really? Yes, really. It's called "equality." Besides, those who do the asking out - generally it's men, but more and more women tend to be doing that now, thankfully - are responsible for paying for the date. After a few dates, then perhaps you could work out arrangements: he'll pay next time, you pay the time after that. But let's not get ahead of ourselves here. One date at a time.
Author Malin889 Posted January 10, 2019 Author Posted January 10, 2019 Yes, really. It's called "equality." Besides, those who do the asking out - generally it's men, but more and more women tend to be doing that now, thankfully - are responsible for paying for the date. After a few dates, then perhaps you could work out arrangements: he'll pay next time, you pay the time after that. But let's not get ahead of ourselves here. One date at a time. That was a joke! I know what “equality” is.
edgygirl Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 I dunno... I dislike people who are not responsive and ignore questions. Terrible listener? Doesn't care about others? Lack of empathy? I also don't really like the way he sent you the 10 digits and that's it. If you have the energy, patience and time, it doesn't hurt to go for a cup of coffee and try to find out if in reality he's more like the guy you liked in the begging or the rude guy from the last texts.
preraph Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Be prepared to pay? Really? If you asked him to meet up, then be prepared to pay and hopefully he won't let you. If he takes over the plans instead of you picking the place, that would be a sign he will likely pay, but if you invited, you should at least offer.
Gretchen12 Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 I’m just trying to figure out why certain people can’t be normal. Am I asking too much? This ^^^ pretty much sums up OLD. The internet brings together people from all backgrounds that would not have crossed paths in real life. If he doesn't behave like the people you're used to in your daily life, you will not get along. 1
Author Malin889 Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 I dunno... I dislike people who are not responsive and ignore questions. Terrible listener? Doesn't care about others? Lack of empathy? I also don't really like the way he sent you the 10 digits and that's it. Thank you! That turned me off as well. It just seemed weird like he didn’t care that much. I didn’t ask him for his number, I asked him if he’d like to go out. Maybe I’m expecting too much lol!
SevenCity Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Thank you! That turned me off as well. It just seemed weird like he didn’t care that much. I didn’t ask him for his number, I asked him if he’d like to go out. Maybe I’m expecting too much lol! This is typical behavior of someone with low interest. I've met tons of women online like this. What you do is block and delete. You have to raise your standards and wait for someone who is excited to see you.
elaine567 Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 This ^^^ pretty much sums up OLD. The internet brings together people from all backgrounds that would not have crossed paths in real life. If he doesn't behave like the people you're used to in your daily life, you will not get along. This is so true and seems to be ignored by many who get themselves into situations with unsuitable people, which would never have occurred in real life.
Author Malin889 Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 This is typical behavior of someone with low interest. I've met tons of women online like this. What you do is block and delete. You have to raise your standards and wait for someone who is excited to see you. Yeah I decided I didn’t want to bother going out with him... I think that’s why I started this thread, lol. I just didn’t feel like he was interested and what’s the point of that?
Author Malin889 Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 I never responded to the phone number, now I just received a message from him on the dating site that simply says “Hi”.
Author Malin889 Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 I never responded to the phone number, now I just received a message from him on the dating site that simply says “Hi”. I said hi back then he said “I gave you my number.” I didn’t know how to reply.
Happy Lemming Posted January 11, 2019 Posted January 11, 2019 Well we are in the proverbial error loop, he gave you his number. He doesn't have yours, so you either call him or you give him your number. If you do nothing we are stuck in the proverbial error loop.
Acacia98 Posted January 12, 2019 Posted January 12, 2019 I just received a message from him on the dating site that simply says “Hi”. I said hi back then he said “I gave you my number.” If I were in your shoes, I would stop communicating with him. You see, communication matters a heck of a lot to me, and he just doesn't seem to have the capacity to communicate well. Either that or he doesn't do basic politeness. This is presumably him at his best. So it actually gets worse. (I'm speaking from experience.)
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