parkerbrook Posted January 8, 2019 Posted January 8, 2019 I started dating this guy in the summer. it went really well, but we broke it off and went no contact at the end of the summer when he went back to school. 2 months later, he reached back out to me and said he missed me, and we kind of picked things back up from the summer. he came home for christmas for a month and we hung out a ton. then, last week, the last weekend of his break he went out to bars with his friends 3 nights in a row and didn't ask to see me. I was admittedly kind of hurt/confused, I thought he would want to see me at least once more before he went back to school. I politely brought it up with him the day he went back, and he apologized for it and explained why, but we agreed to kind of leave things where they were because we won't be able to see each other much when he's back at school. he says he still wants to talk, but I explained it might be hard for me to talk to him every day but not be able to ever see him. since then he has tried sending me a couple of messages here and there, and I've replied, but I haven't started any of the conversations. I'm still a bit hurt the way the last week of his break went. he definitely didn't do anything wrong, but I feel like he didn't really put much effort into seeing me at least once. I really thought I mattered a lot and was a priority to him, but the last week kind of questioning that a bit. I'm now wondering if I should not message him for a while and kind of back off a bit? and hopefully kind of make him miss me again? or will that push him away even more? not really sure how to go about this...
preraph Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 I think he probably has other things going on and likes to see you when it's convenient and that you're certainly not the center of his universe. I think he's casually interested in seeing you but has other people he sees and things he stays busy with.
BaileyB Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 It’s very clear to anyone who has read your posts since the summer that this guy is not committed to you or mature enough to have the relationship that you want from him. Let him go. Live your own life and have fun! This relationship is meant to teach you what you DON’T want for your future. Don’t ever settle for someone who isn’t respectful, consistent, and completely devoted to you!
d0nnivain Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 He's in school. You want a boyfriend who is local & around. He's not your guy. Yes, it would have been more polite of him to spend some time with you the last 3 days he was home but what his behavior tells me is that he's happy enough to date you when it's geographically convenient but he's unwilling to put in more effort. So you need to stop holding out hope. If he's home, you're free & he's offering a fun date, go if you like but don't for one second think your connection to him is deeper then the few hours you spend in each other's presence.
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