smackie9 Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 Me personally hate jealousy, and would never see jealousy as a measure of how someone values you....that's just silly to me. I would trade that for thoughtfulness/caring any day. Why would you want to see your partner feel uncomfortable/insecure/upset or having to calm them down or convince them they are everything to you, and not to worry....just not getting it. 4
Hopeful30 Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 I am your girlfriend in this situation. Let me tell you why she doesn't get jealous. Because it's not f*cking worth it. If you want jealousy, find a woman who stoops to that level. I don't get jealous because it's a waste of time. If there is something I don't like, I tell my man about it. Jealousy is the child-like response to issues in a relationship. The fact that you want her to feel jealous tells me that you don't feel loved or cared enough in the relationship. Whether or not that's your problem or if she genuinely doesn't, I don't know. But the fact that her maturity or lack of jealousy is bothering you says more about where you are in the relationship than where she is. Food for thought. 4
Orokotikki Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 This is a very unusual response. Who said anything about me cheating on her? Bizarre. Please think a bit more thoughtfully before you reply in such a presumptuous way. I'm not planning to cheat on her -- relax. She in fact has a history of a partner cheating. I found WallysBears first response the most obvious and direct answer for this post. Jealousy is mostly about fear of losing the other person, she is not afraid of this whether due to you cheating or some other thing. The mention of cheating is a direct response to the common implication a person who is feeling jealous would think of if their SO was 'having one on one dinners with friends of the opposite gender'.
Author brent878 Posted January 10, 2019 Author Posted January 10, 2019 I found WallysBears first response the most obvious and direct answer for this post. Jealousy is mostly about fear of losing the other person, she is not afraid of this whether due to you cheating or some other thing. The mention of cheating is a direct response to the common implication a person who is feeling jealous would think of if their SO was 'having one on one dinners with friends of the opposite gender'. Feel free to keep commenting but this issue is resolved. Thank you all for the advice and I recognize it was a stupid question and assumption. The relationship is healthy and all is good. I was not and would never provoke jealousy. Anyway I won't be checking the follow up posts here but please feel free to continue the discussion amongst yourselves and thanks for the contributions! 2
dream of me Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 She probably feels the pinch of jealousy but is keeping it to herself.
emilp89 Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 I agree, she is definitely jealous. At least a little bit. Jealousy is deeply rooted in human nature. People who say that they never get jealous are lying. And sure, being overwhelmed with jealousy is not healthy. But the same goes for anger, sadness, and all the other emotions.
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