max3732 Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 I signed up for a new OLD site and got matched with this absolutely beautiful woman and was shocked that she liked me back. Her profile just has some basic info about interests such as travel, trying restaurants, and being outdoors. After we matched I asked about restaurants and we've been chatting about some of the local places and we even had some common ones. Normally with someone this attractive I'm suspicious it's a bot or fake account, but her responses seem normal and we've been having a good conversation. Since we've already gone back and forth about restaurants should I move onto asking about something else like being outdoors or just go right for asking her out? Whenever I look at the profile picture or even what she wrote I get so excited I can't think straight.
Garcon1986 Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 When something like this happens it's crucial to have the religious discipline to exude confidence and not be too swayed by physical beauty. Since you are a bit suspicious that this is not a real woman, I suggest you decide on a good public place that will assure your safety. Now, it's your holy duty as a man to ask her out and take the reins on this relationship. 1
AriesDude Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 try to get a phone number out of her as soon as possible in a subtle way. If fake she will tell you some nonsense about how she would be easier to contact on email or another's person phone or stuff like that...block her immediately if it looks too good to be true...remember your instincts can be your best friend.
chillii Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 Man that shouldn't even be a quetion you should be talking about all kinds of anything if you get along. or is this just emailing , if so get her on the phone . 1
Author max3732 Posted January 9, 2019 Author Posted January 9, 2019 Man that shouldn't even be a quetion you should be talking about all kinds of anything if you get along. or is this just emailing , if so get her on the phone . We were just texting or emailing using the dating site. I asked her about meeting up and haven't received a response yet after a few days. I logged into the site and noticed she hasn't been on that long either. So I'm a bit concerned, but still hope I didn't blow it. I suggested meeting this weekend, so hopefully she will get back to me before then. If not I'm not sure what to do.
snowcones Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 Personally, I like it when a guy asks me to meet up at this point. At which time I will tell him that I'd like to speak on the phone first and then meet up (if the phone call goes well). I prefer to do it this way rather than him asking me for my number first. 1
Normm Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 Why not do face time...get her number. ^This. If it sounds too good to be true it probably is. Be honest with yourself. If a supposedly beautiful girl, clearly out of your league suddenly shows a lot of interest there should be red flags. If she isnt interested in meeting up with you then keep the conversation going and tell her you'd like to video chat. If she resists then don't waste too much more time on it, the odds significantly decrease that she is who she makes herself out to be with each passing day that she dodges the request.
Author max3732 Posted January 9, 2019 Author Posted January 9, 2019 ^This. If it sounds too good to be true it probably is. Be honest with yourself. If a supposedly beautiful girl, clearly out of your league suddenly shows a lot of interest there should be red flags. If she isnt interested in meeting up with you then keep the conversation going and tell her you'd like to video chat. If she resists then don't waste too much more time on it, the odds significantly decrease that she is who she makes herself out to be with each passing day that she dodges the request. The other day I was at dinner and there was a table filled with women that were a similar attractiveness so they do exist in the real world. I think I'm a handsome guy so I don't know if she's out of my league. I've never done video chat before except skype, but I'd rather meet in person if she was able to do it.
Malin889 Posted January 9, 2019 Posted January 9, 2019 I signed up for a new OLD site and got matched with this absolutely beautiful woman and was shocked that she liked me back. Her profile just has some basic info about interests such as travel, trying restaurants, and being outdoors. After we matched I asked about restaurants and we've been chatting about some of the local places and we even had some common ones. Normally with someone this attractive I'm suspicious it's a bot or fake account, but her responses seem normal and we've been having a good conversation. Since we've already gone back and forth about restaurants should I move onto asking about something else like being outdoors or just go right for asking her out? Whenever I look at the profile picture or even what she wrote I get so excited I can't think straight. Yes! Ask her out. I hate when guys chit chat for days on end. It’s so refreshing when someone asks me out after a short chat. Much better!
SevenCity Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Ask her out. A high interest woman will say yes. Nothing kills romance than endless chit chat with a guy who can't make a move. It's beta and that is unattractive. Some women are freaks when it comes to giving out their number or meeting too quick. Those women are not interested in anything but validation/attention from you. When I was on OLD, I would ask them out after 3ish messages. I think talking on the phone is a great idea as you can see if she is annoying and don't want to ask her out. 10-15 min max and you ask her out then hang up once you plan the details.
preraph Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 She hasn't replied to your last request to meet and it's been several days. I would say do nothing unless you hear from her. But if you hear from her and she doesn't answer about meeting, say, I wrote last week asking if you'd like to meet. Did you get that? She may be fake and that's why she's not answering. Just wait maybe a few more days and then assume she flaked.
alphamale Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 dude you need to move beyond this fake person
Author max3732 Posted January 10, 2019 Author Posted January 10, 2019 She hasn't replied to your last request to meet and it's been several days. I would say do nothing unless you hear from her. But if you hear from her and she doesn't answer about meeting, say, I wrote last week asking if you'd like to meet. Did you get that? She may be fake and that's why she's not answering. Just wait maybe a few more days and then assume she flaked. So don't send her a reminder? We were having this great conversation, but I was thinking the point is to meet up, not just chat online. If I asked her too soon wouldn't she say she'd like to get to know me a bit more or something like that? It seems like meeting in a public place is a better way to get to know someone than chatting by text or even calling. I think a phone or video call would be preferable to online messages.
olivetree Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 So don't send her a reminder? We were having this great conversation, but I was thinking the point is to meet up, not just chat online. If I asked her too soon wouldn't she say she'd like to get to know me a bit more or something like that? It seems like meeting in a public place is a better way to get to know someone than chatting by text or even calling. I think a phone or video call would be preferable to online messages. No do not send a reminder. That goes from pursuing to chasing. Chasing not good. If she was interested and wanted to continue to talk more, she would say so. That's what I would do. Unless it's a phone call to plan the meeting, I think phoning and video-calling with a stranger before meeting is weird.
edgygirl Posted January 10, 2019 Posted January 10, 2019 Depends. In the past I felt more comfy to chat a little more before meeting, I wanted to try and determine chemistry and interests. Didn't mean I was not interested or seeking validation. I realized after a while though that you can't really know someone until you meet live. So now I completely changed my views and do prefer men who ask me out after the 3rd back and forth. Also: OP, she sounds fake or like a bot. Some women are freaks when it comes to giving out their number or meeting too quick. Those women are not interested in anything but validation/attention from you.
Author max3732 Posted January 11, 2019 Author Posted January 11, 2019 Depends. In the past I felt more comfy to chat a little more before meeting, I wanted to try and determine chemistry and interests. Didn't mean I was not interested or seeking validation. I realized after a while though that you can't really know someone until you meet live. So now I completely changed my views and do prefer men who ask me out after the 3rd back and forth. Also: OP, she sounds fake or like a bot. So it doesn't seem like I did anything wrong then. Part of why I posted asking for help here is that I run into this situation all the time with OLD. I comment on something in her profile, we discuss it back and forth, then it leads into talking into something else and at some point I know we need to meet up. With this one after what I thought was a great conversation I asked to meet up and got nothing like I said before. I've got 2 other chats going on where we are talking about their interest and I'm thinking of asking them to meet up. Since I haven't heard back from the 1st one I'm guessing I can ask someone else out at the time I had set for her.
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