how do I handle a 26 yr old guy whose never kissed a girl ?

[Vanity1]

I met a guy through my cousin, he and i will say hi and have small talk but that’s it. Basically, on New Years ( he was there also) my cousin told me that his buddy had a crush on me and since then my cousin has been urging me to give him a chance however the dude isn’t making effort he makes my cousin ask me for my Snapchat- I ask my cousin why he just doesn’t ask me he says because he is shy. So one night when he was about to leave I caught up to him and asked him for his snap chat myself. I sent him a message that same night, dude just reads it and doesn’t reply back ! Don’t I feel silly...

 

He is 26 years old and apparently never had a girlfriend, but he has an awesome career and he’s not bad looking. Plus my ex was horrible to me and cheated on me so why not go for a complete opposite. I kinda like that he hasn’t had much experience.

 

But I feel like I’m being aggressive with him, how should I handle a guy like him

Yesterday I didn’t even say hi to him. I think he’s into me because talks to my cousin about me and I catch him looking at me.

Edited January 6, 2019 by Hurtx10

[stillafool]

Maybe your cousin was lying about the crush but would like to see the two of you together. If he were interested he would ask himself and certainly would jump to reply back to you.

[Vanity1]

Maybe your cousin was lying about the crush but would like to see the two of you together. If he were interested he would ask himself and certainly would jump to reply back to you.

 

Oh wow now I feel ever more stupid.

[Garcon1986]

You'll have to take the reins in the relationship and teach him the physical intimacy you like. A guy can't check all your boxes

 

Be more aggressive in pursing him than you are comfortable with. He will feel relieved there is someone patient enough to teach him how to kiss.

[Vanity1]

You'll have to take the reins in the relationship and teach him the physical intimacy you like. A guy can't check all your boxes

 

Be more aggressive in pursing him than you are comfortable with. He will feel relieved there is someone patient enough to teach him how to kiss.

 

I would love to teach him, if only I knew what is really going on first!!

[Garcon1986]

The easiest explanation is that he is searching for dates and not quite confident about what he wants, or he is just sloppy in replying back. Ask him out after work and see what he thinks.

[elaine567]

A shy person, if interested, would have replied to you. You made the first move and he would be relieved and happy that you did that.

He hasn't replied.

Forget him.

[stillafool]

You'll have to take the reins in the relationship and teach him the physical intimacy you like. A guy can't check all your boxes

 

Be more aggressive in pursing him than you are comfortable with. He will feel relieved there is someone patient enough to teach him how to kiss.[/QUOTE]

 

She's already made it quite clear to him she's interested and asked him to contact. He didn't so she really needs to pull back. No one likes to be chased unless they are interested in the person. He hasn't shown her he is yet.

[anika99]

A shy person, if interested, would have replied to you. You made the first move and he would be relieved and happy that you did that.

He hasn't replied.

Forget him.

 

Agreed. What does shyness have to do with this situation? I was painfully shy when I was younger but that didn't make me ignore guys I liked. Nothing wrong with a girl making the first move , but you have done that and he didn't respond so I would just pass this one over. He either doesn't like you as much as you were led to believe or he has bigger issues than simple shyness. You can do better.

[d0nnivain]

If you believe your cousin about this guy being shy & kind of clueless (26 & never had a GF), you need to be more assertive. Do not initiate on social media but the next time you see him make a point to talk to him & to flirt. During that encounter, you ask him out for a casual date. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[Vanity1]

You'll have to take the reins in the relationship and teach him the physical intimacy you like. A guy can't check all your boxes

 

Be more aggressive in pursing him than you are comfortable with. He will feel relieved there is someone patient enough to teach him how to kiss.[/QUOTE]

 

She's already made it quite clear to him she's interested and asked him to contact. He didn't so she really needs to pull back. No one likes to be chased unless they are interested in the person. He hasn't shown her he is yet.

 

Yea I have a feeling I should pull back too. I feel so stupid for getting his Snapchat then saying hi only for him not to reply... I couldn’t even say hi to him last night and I gave someone my spot to the game he got us tickets for ( a bunch of us) You snooze you loose. Unless he makes something clear to me.

[Vanity1]

You'll have to take the reins in the relationship and teach him the physical intimacy you like. A guy can't check all your boxes

 

Be more aggressive in pursing him than you are comfortable with. He will feel relieved there is someone patient enough to teach him how to kiss.[/QUOTE]

 

She's already made it quite clear to him she's interested and asked him to contact. He didn't so she really needs to pull back. No one likes to be chased unless they are interested in the person. He hasn't shown her he is yet.

 

 

I didn’t ask him to contact me he didn’t reply to my hi after I added him on Snapchat

[Andy_K]

Sorry, but I have to agree with some of the above posters - a shy person just needs an opening, you gave him that and he didn't engage. That to me suggests not interested.

[chillii]

You handle him a lot.

Sorry couldn't resist .

[Vanity1]

So I sent him another text after all of us went to see a movie last night telling him to come over to hang out ( with the bunch of us) heh, idk why I’m like this.... but at least this time he is responding to me.

[Vanity1]

You handle him a lot.

Sorry couldn't resist .

 

It’s ok Go for it

[Vanity1]

Omg he ignored my message again. He’s so not into me !!!!!

I’m embarrassed all over again.

[Wallysbears]

Delete his number.

 

This is not a headache or struggle you need.

[doyathinkso]

Ignore him back. Then tell your cousin to please stop interfering with your love life, or lack thereof.

[Vanity1]

My cousin got drunk the other night and let me read their texts messages, he in fact does like me.

 

My cousin I think wanted us together more than we both actually cared about .... the conclusion is, in person he tries to talk to me but I ignore him ( according to him) which is right becaus he makes me feel stupid when he does not reply to my texts.....so in person I ignore him and in text he ignores me ( just because he's stupid like that according to my cousin). We both think we aren't interested in each other.

Edited January 15, 2019 by Hurtx10

[preraph]

There's no reason to go to the opposite extreme as a knee-jerk reaction to your last relationship. I'd go for a happy medium.

 

The problem with guys like this is (I've been there because I have no problem being assertive) is they don't just snap out of it. They get more comfy with you but it may be in an odd parental/child way. It's not like they snap out of it and take the bull by the horns or anything hopeful like that. What happens is you're stuck wringing anything out of them. Eventually, what happens is you realize if you stayed with them, they'd be of no practical use at all and you'd still have to be the one to call the cable company about them raising the bill.