Hollywood-Tourist Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Ok, so I've had my heart broken recently by my girlfriend cheating on me, but I wondered if people feel that if things move too quick into a relationship, could that be a reason for some cracks to appear further down the line? My girlfriend who is no more gave me a spare house key only two months into our relationship which struck me as odd!
GTR King Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Nothing is too quick.. You got at a pace which is right for you... If’s it’s too soon or feels like it’s going too fast talk to the other perosn to discuss things.. 1
MetallicHue Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Ok, so I've had my heart broken recently by my girlfriend cheating on me, but I wondered if people feel that if things move too quick into a relationship, could that be a reason for some cracks to appear further down the line? My girlfriend who is no more gave me a spare house key only two months into our relationship which struck me as odd! I think it depends on the situation. Things moved very quickly for me and have Worked out very well. Though I maybe more of the exception than the rule. Sorry you had your heart broken. I hope your next path leads to happiness not heartbreak.
manfrombelow2 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 The data given by OP is too abstract and vague for me to bring up any comments or opinions. But know this, women who love you don't break up with you. As long as they love you, they'd kill to be by your side. If I were you, I'd give myself a hard check to see where and when and how I messed up during the courtship to make sure I won't repeat the same mistake twice.
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 But know this, women who love you don't break up with you. As long as they love you, they'd kill to be by your side. I know what you're saying. But her actions in the last few months of the relationship didn't quite mirror what someone who is supposed to love you does. I'd been the best that I could be for her, but I feel that she took advantage of my kindness by exploiting my 'weaknesses' to her mind. Even though I broke up with her (she suggested a break initially) but I thought about it and told her I deserved more than the way she had treated me by sexting behind my back. 1
manfrombelow2 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Yes, you did the right thing. Again, the bold part is a crucial point that you must never forget: Always look at your woman's actions rather than listening to her words. In short: Actions speak louder than words. After all, people come and people go, and every one of them will give you a lesson no matter if they decide to stay or leave. Be thankful for all the experience, and don't hold any grudge against them just because they want to stop loving you. Nobody is a bad person just because they don't wanna be with us anymore. Goodluck brother. I know what you're saying. But her actions in the last few months of the relationship didn't quite mirror what someone who is supposed to love you does. I'd been the best that I could be for her, but I feel that she took advantage of my kindness by exploiting my 'weaknesses' to her mind. Even though I broke up with her (she suggested a break initially) but I thought about it and told her I deserved more than the way she had treated me by sexting behind my back. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Sometimes moving too quickly can cause the cracks because you don't have a foundation. Here I think she just wanted out. Even if she waited 6+ months to give you keys, this would still be over now.
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 Sometimes moving too quickly can cause the cracks because you don't have a foundation. Here I think she just wanted out. Even if she waited 6+ months to give you keys, this would still be over now. I know what you mean. There was no basis established for the relationship to be founded upon and instead by inflicting 'nice' things into the mix very early on, then that has caused the cracks. When I think back maybe say 2 months into the relationship, then everything seemed 'normal' and happier then. Since then, her mask has slipped even more now that the honeymoon phase is over.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 When I think back maybe say 2 months into the relationship, then everything seemed 'normal' and happier then. Since then, her mask has slipped even more now that the honeymoon phase is over. It usually does, so early on. You hadn't been around each other long enough to really learn about the other's flaws or quirks. Some people move quickly because they're trying to fill a void, or they're on a buzz from the new-relationship sparks, or they just get caught up in the fantasy without actually getting to know the person. In my experience, the ones who moved quickly were also the ones who burned out quickly too. I have come to vastly prefer the slow and steady approach, to get to better know your partner and exactly what you're emotionally investing in. 1
DrNo1962 Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 Nothing is too quick.. You got at a pace which is right for you... If’s it’s too soon or feels like it’s going too fast talk to the other perosn to discuss things.. Sorry but that is just bad advice. You need to have a healthy balance of happy emotions and keeping things in check by using your brain. Simply relying on your heart to whisk you away and make impulsive decisions is how relationships end faster than they start. As the saying goes "easy come, easy go..."
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