What's going on with him? Does he want me back?

[liamillia]

My ex bf and I broke up because arguing and tough situations with his family and health situations where we argued and broke up and he was hurt that I left and took me back a couple times and wouldn't later because I hurt him by leaving him during tough times. So but when we see eachother at church he's a deacon there on stage he constantly stares at me, fidgets, leaves through my exit on purpose and says hi. I tried saying let's meet after I hadn't seen him for a while at church he said "it won't work today and that he had to take his dad to alteration etc" I didn't ask for another day and he didn't offer, could it be that he wants to as well but didn't say so because he's hurt? Why does he still try to come by and say hi, stare at me so hard, act nervously and smiling when talking to me but in text act like this? All of his body language signs say he's interested with his nervous fidgeting, when opening the curtain first thing he does is check to see if i'm still there.

 

Prior to the last text(December), in August my friend texted him from my phone that i miss you and he went on long essay rants about how i've hurt him and didn't apologize in timely manner allowing the person to suffer etc. He went on to ask how would it be different this time etc i said better than before since experiences make a person better. He was more invested with his responses i was more direct and short. I think he may have been playing hardball he went on to say i've spent all this year working on myself, focusing on my health, work bettering myself. I'm sorry i don't want to put myself in a situation to be hurt again. So to you what does that sound like? Like I want you but i'm scared no?

 

I said i don't want to hurt you and the purpose isn't to hurt you he didn't respond until few hours later (12 am_ saying he fell asleep. I was stupid because when I woke up i shouldve continued the topic but i said i just woke up and the convo was more daily stuff like it's hot etc, him asking if i had a ac and that i should ask the landlord to install one. Then he said he had to go for a run and the convo ended there. Couple days later i got upset, bc i mentioned i was going on a trip and he didn't even text to say safe trip so i texted him "despite everything i tried giving benefit of the doubt but it was useless bc he was still stuck in past resentment and bitterness. He just replied " Ok i'm not gonig to argue w/ you enjoy your trip". I got back from my trpi and avoided his stares at church and that's when he'd come down the stares make small talk etc which eventually led me to ask him for the meet up i mentioned above.

 

TL;DR Is he interested, if not i dont think he would act nervous since it's not first time he's running into me at church but always and if it was just discomfort from seeing me it would've passed already. But why is he acting difficult?

[liamillia]

He's my ex i broke up with him a few months back because we got into an argument and he was acting passive aggressive. Because there were guys at the gym that liked me he suspected i'm going there to talk to them when one morning I decided to go to the gym to workout. He got suspicious saying you didn't ask me to come so another time i asked but he was working and I brought up the last argument saying exactly so why'd you get upset when I didn't ask last time when you were working. He also is suspicious because one time at the library i met a guy studying medicine like me and we went to grab food because we were hungry and i didn't tell him because i thought he'd get jealous for no reason but when he asked i told him finally and get upset which is why the suspicions from the gym I said i was done with his attitude he said theres no attitude if you're done okay i wish you the best.

 

Anyway fast forward 4 months He always comes to the gym at same time I am and he always comes to yoga when he stopped coming when we were dating and he'd workout instead while i did yoga. Now he always comes to yoga and he'll text me here an there. The other day after yoga he texted me saying "why'd you look so mad today, I was going to say hi but you didn't look very welcoming" and stuff like this, and yesterday we were at the gym and they don't give out free towel but selling them instead. He said he was going to buy a towel and if I wanted one i said no but he came back with 2 and gave me one too. And he'd say things like you'll see what God has blessed me with just like He has blessed you. I said what he said i can't tell you that now. I said you can never tell me anything. He said i tell you everything but somethings you need patience to see. He didn't text me merry xmas which confused me so I texted him on the 26th saying

"i hope it's very clear why i broke up with you" he said what i said exactly what i said. He said I don't know what you're talking about explain. I've only been good to you and and treated you with respect so i don't know why you would send a statement like that. I said you don't know why i broke up with you he said no clarify it for me. I said you really have no idea? he said i'm not going to play this game if you don't want to explain, ok. I said Lol if you were genuine you would've asked then not now. He replied "ok". So idk if he got the message or anything but on New Years morning he texted me in the morning "Happy New Years" I replied " Happy New Year!"

[FMW]

Yes, he probably still has feelings for you, just as you apparently do for him.

 

Also - you both seem very immature. That's going to be the problem in reconciling - neither of you appear to be willing to get your egos out of the way.

[smackie9]

He's still being passive/aggressive. Block delete his number.

[GinON]

Its hard to understand what is going on here. Just ask him out if you want to go out. Stop trying to figure out if he likes you on your own, stop texting out complicated relationships and just be together and have a good time.

 

You could also ask him, "Why do you keep staring at me, I think you like me." See what he does.

[basil67]

You've already posed these questions under a different username. Did you expect different answers the second time around?

[milialia]

Its hard to understand what is going on here. Just ask him out if you want to go out. Stop trying to figure out if he likes you on your own, stop texting out complicated relationships and just be together and have a good time.

 

You could also ask him, "Why do you keep staring at me, I think you like me." See what he does.

 

DO you think after all this if he stares it mean he likes me?

[GinON]

Just go talk to him. We can't know what he wants. He might be looking at you trying to figure out if you like him. It seems like you have posted here hoping someone will give you the answers when they are right in front of you.

 

Do you like him or are you just spinning your wheels about the fantasy of a relationship?