Sam2 Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 I know the typical reponse is to "keep busy" (i.e. join clubs, exercise, take a class), but can some of you share some specific things you did when you were crushed that someone else didn't feel the same way about you as you did about them? It difficult when you rationally know there are others out there but you can't get over not being able to be with someone you're crazy about. I know it gets better with time, but I'm suffering a lot right now. Please help!
Mary3 Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 And you will ...suffer until you do get healed....You can keep busy but only time can heal this. We are here for you. We will try to give our best advice. Ask away !
johan Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 The only silver bullet I've found is to find someone else.
Outcast Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 There's a real helpful book called 'How to Survive the Loss of a Love' which you can even find for free online. I used that and found it great.
mixwell Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 The best way is to go out and do more things. Hang out with your friends more. Delete all the ex's contact info and throw away or put everything they gave to you or reminds you of them in a box and out of sight. Also reading some online material can help.. There is a Coping section on here too with some good advice..
Love2share Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 Try not to think of your break up as a loss. Think of it as a new opportunity to experience something better. In life, we don't always get what we want. But that's good because sometimes, what we want is not always what we need.
alphamale Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 The only silver bullet I've found is to find someone else. I agree...just make sure the someone else is a person you actually like...if it's someone you don't like and are just using as a distraction it will make you feel worse...
tanbark813 Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 Invite your friends over and get hammered while watching Swingers.
francis Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 didnt the writers of SATC claim it was half the time you actually were together? i think it was Charlotte who said that! Well, I have another 7 months to go if that is the case!
Art_Critic Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 They alway's say that the besy way to get over someone is to get under someone new
Moai Posted September 16, 2005 Posted September 16, 2005 Flirt. A lot. It'll boost your confidence and at some point will lead to another, better relationship. Also, learn something new. After my last little fiasco I decided to learn the guitar, and now I am actually getting pretty good and have to actually stop and think of the chick's name who started me into it.
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