thefooloftheyear Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 I don't like it when I encounter someone who says they are not looking for anything serious. If they come out and say that to you, then you (as the woman) must ask yourself if you are not wanting something serious. If it's an OLD situation, you must say to yourself that this is the one and only encounter you will have with this person so make the most of it for that one meeting. If you have not heard anything from him within 48 hours after the first encounter, you will not hear from him again. And ... That's that. If you are with someone for another few encounters, and he still says he doesn't want something serious, then by all means keep your options open. I ask myself how and why it is that people date at all if they aren't looking for something serious. I myself am at the point where I want something serious, it's one thing if and when you meet and you have no chemistry with each other then nothing ventured nothing gained. But to continue to see someone when you don't want anything serious? I don't think that's right. I mean, would you rather he bullshyt you and tell you exactly what you want to hear. then leave you at the curb when the next better option comes along? I dunno...in that case, you really cant fault the guy for being honest with his intentions...Looking for something serious? Don't mess with him... TFY
stillafool Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 To clarify; He didn’t actually say “I am not looking for anything serious” he said he gets the impression I want something serious and doesn’t think we are looking for the same thing. I asked him what he’s looking for an he said he didn’t know. I said I wasn’t looking for anything casual just someone who I’d like to get to know and see how things evolve. He said he wanted the same. I interpreted that to mean he wasn’t looking for something serious but he did also say he’s not looking for anything casual... To me it says the same thing. He's not looking for anything serious.
stillafool Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Yes I agree. After he had said this to me I wished him well and told him I wasnÂ’t looking for anything casual but he continued talking and said he wanted to see me again next week. So I donÂ’t know...I have to keep him at his word and not assume that he wants anything serious from me but if I donÂ’t sleep with him I donÂ’t really see any harm in going out with him again since he asked. The only harm is you will end up liking him more than you do now and won't want to stop seeing him even though you know he doesn't want anything serious. I don't know why women put themselves in that position when a man has already said you two aren't on the same page.
Author LittleLuu Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 The only harm is you will end up liking him more than you do now and won't want to stop seeing him even though you know he doesn't want anything serious. I don't know why women put themselves in that position when a man has already said you two aren't on the same page. You are right.
Christine_01 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Why are you confused ? It means he is looking to have fun and is not going to take things serious with a women..if you want something casual it's ok to go out again with him, but if you want a relationship don't expect it from this guy because it will never going to happen no matter what he is going to say 1
Author LittleLuu Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 Why are you confused ? It means he is looking to have fun and is not going to take things serious with a women..if you want something casual it's ok to go out again with him, but if you want a relationship don't expect it from this guy because it will never going to happen no matter what he is going to say Not confused
Author LittleLuu Posted January 7, 2019 Author Posted January 7, 2019 Ha! So last night after a little social media snooping (good or bad idea I don’t really care as it lead me to the truth) I find out this guy has a girlfriend. No shocker really I knew something was off and it wasn’t “he’s just not that interested”. 1
sabaton Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 (edited) if you are interested in casual sex, and if he knows how to smash: yes. If you want to date this guy and he tells you he's not interested in anything serious: No. Because you'll get addicted to him if he is any good in bed, and then you will suffer from heart break when he decides he doesn't want a relationship, but you keep wanting one with him. Edited January 7, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author LittleLuu Posted January 7, 2019 Author Posted January 7, 2019 (edited) Lol I don’t want anything with anyone who has a girlfriend already Edited January 7, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
sabaton Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 (edited) yeah, but what are you looking for? At this moment in your life? Do you want a guy you're attracted to, who knows how to please you sexually, but you don't want a relationship with him for x reasons or for no reasons at all? or do you want a guy who is hot and wants a committed relationship with you? What age would that guy be? 18-25? At that age, the only guys who aren't getting girls on the side while having a relationship are the ones who can't, for the most part, yeah. Edited January 7, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Andy_K Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 At that age, the only guys who aren't getting girls on the side while having a relationship are the ones who can't, for the most part, yeah. You've got a seriously low opinion of guys. Some people have morals and integrity, even at that age. 1
sabaton Posted January 7, 2019 Posted January 7, 2019 You've got a seriously low opinion of guys. Some people have morals and integrity, even at that age. Without a doubt! There's plenty of young men out there either too addicted to porn or to video games, or their levels of testosterone are too low to notice women. Expecting an 18-25 year old dude who looks like this https://healthyceleb.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/Sean-OPry-shirtless-body.jpg to only want one girlfriend at a time no matter how hot she is, would be kinda like me expecting anal from Selena Gomez. Or anything at all Lol
mortensorchid Posted January 8, 2019 Posted January 8, 2019 Anyone who says that they are not looking for something serious right now will never come around and become serious at another point. With you, that is. Chances are they will find someone else that they will not say that to. Cut your losses and move on if you also do not want the same things.
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