DomBarber1 Posted January 5, 2019 Posted January 5, 2019 Hey guys, So basically I (M27) have been dating this guy (M25) for 7 years. We met in college (2011) and I have been crazy about him ever since. So he has always kind of suffered from anxiety, anything really can stress him out way more than the average person. He gets certain things in his head and he runs with it. But a while ago I started thinking it might be depression in there as well because sometimes he would just sit in the apartment all day playing games on his phone or sleeping instead of doing his work. Well fast forward to 2018 and I chased my dream of moving to Canada in May. I was hoping that after 7 years together that he would join me soon and he at first was highly considering it. After like two months went by I realized that I missed being around him and I didn't like Canada as much as I thought (It is hard as hell to survive there if you are from a different country). But I still wanted to test moving to a different state than my hometown. So after months go by I ask him was he going to move with me and he tells me no and that he thinks we should break up. That he wants to find himself. It was random as hell because the day before he was telling me how much he loves me and thinks I look good. He has been stressing a lot lately because of health scares, possible job promotion and other things. He bought a Nintendo Switch the other weekend and I know he is just going to hole himself in his apartment playing games ALL DAY or go get black out drunk somewhere. So it has been about 2 weeks since he broke up with me and as of yesterday I have decided to not contact him until I get back to Kentucky in 2 weeks. But I just wanted to know what your thoughts were because I really love the kid and want to be with him forever. He just randomly breaks up with me after 7 years and then decides to be cold to me. Didn't really respond to my messages and if he did they were one sentence tops. But I don't know if it is the stress talking or if he means it. He has broken it off two other times when he was at his most stressed. But I just gave him his space/ignored him and he came back within a week or two. I am just nervous because I don't know if it is the anxiety or if he actually means it. Why am I the one who got pushed away and not his friends who are ****ty? It has been two weeks since the breakup and like two days after it I noticed that our pics weren't up on Instagram. When I messaged him about it he sends me a video that showed that he archived them because "he felt weird deleting them". Then just like two hours ago he changes his profile picture on Instagram to a pic in an outfit that I JUST recently said he looks great in. Then on Twitter he changed it to a pic of him in a backwards hat, when he knows I LOVE guys/him in backwards hats. He kept his Facebook profile picture of us the same but who knows if he will change it. TL;DR Do you think that my boyfriend is serious about breaking it off or is he just going through it right now? PS: I have no issue helping him with his mental health. I saw myself being with him for a long time so if moving back to make him comfortable is what needed to be done then I would do it.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 5, 2019 Posted January 5, 2019 Has he actually been diagnosed with anxiety and depression? It sounds to me like he has outgrown your relationship and you two were headed in different directions in life. Was this break-up really as random as you say here, or had you struggled along the way in this relationship?
preraph Posted January 5, 2019 Posted January 5, 2019 Honey, this guy is still a "kid," as you say. He's immature. He doesn't want to work at anything and he just wants to hole up and play games, like so many of his generation. He isn't interested in anything that isn't convenient sex, i.e., the woman comes to his house and has sex and he gets back to gaming. He isn't interested in having a relationship, just sex. Once you were out of sight, you were out of his mind. He doesn't have any depth of feeling for you. He is a waste of your time right now. Do not cling to this little sorry scrap of a boyfriend! Just find a new boyfriend! Do not contact him ever again and block him so he can't just do the random jacking you up because it doesn't mean anything to him but would keep you upset. You be the one who defines this breakup and block him from everything and stay off his social media and keep him off yours and block his phone. Just move on. You have nothing of substance here.
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