Hotbiscuit Posted January 4, 2019 Share Posted January 4, 2019 I was dating this girl for roughly a month, had sex multiple times (told me how great I was), and by all accounts the relationship seemed to be going great. She would tell me how I was such a great guy, text and call me frequently during the day, send me pictures of her and her family when they went on vacation, call me sweetie, baby, and was all into me. Last Friday we spent the evening together, I slept at her place, had sex for a few hours that morning. When I saw her the next day I could tell she was a little distant and then the next day she sends me a text telling me that it won't work between us and that she can't pinpoint the reason why or why she feels the way she does. Does anyone have any insight or thoughts on what the heck happened? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 4, 2019 Share Posted January 4, 2019 Maybe an ex has come back, or she’s met someone else. How did you meet her? Link to post Share on other sites
frigginlost Posted January 4, 2019 Share Posted January 4, 2019 How long was she single before meeting you? As mentioned by the previous poster, it sounds like it's possible you were a rebound and an ex has re-entered the picture. We need more background... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hotbiscuit Posted January 4, 2019 Author Share Posted January 4, 2019 Maybe an ex has come back, or she’s met someone else. How did you meet her? We met online. After about 2.5 weeks of us dating she took her profile down and it is still down. The last morning we spent together she made some comment when she was half asleep/still groggy to the effect of "Do you have your bags packed for your trip?" I didn't press the issue but I said "who is going on a trip, I am not". She commented back "Oh I thought you were". I assumed she was thinking about someone else in that moment and it slipped. Link to post Share on other sites
frigginlost Posted January 4, 2019 Share Posted January 4, 2019 We met online. After about 2.5 weeks of us dating she took her profile down and it is still down. The last morning we spent together she made some comment when she was half asleep/still groggy to the effect of "Do you have your bags packed for your trip?" I didn't press the issue but I said "who is going on a trip, I am not". She commented back "Oh I thought you were". I assumed she was thinking about someone else in that moment and it slipped. That says it all. It's someone else. Two things: 1) It's nothing you did and it's not you that caused her to bolt. 2) She's a train wreck. Be happy you only invested a month. Look at it as a bullet dodged and get back in the game. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hotbiscuit Posted January 4, 2019 Author Share Posted January 4, 2019 That says it all. It's someone else. Two things: 1) It's nothing you did and it's not you that caused her to bolt. 2) She's a train wreck. Be happy you only invested a month. Look at it as a bullet dodged and get back in the game. Thanks I kind of thought that especially with the BS reason she gave about how it won't work, I can't explain it, it's not black & white, ending with "I am truly sorry". The funny thing is that after our sex session we were laying in bed and I saw a text message come through from her XB. She told me that their relationship ended 6 yrs ago but I found it odd that they were still in contact all this time later. She knew I saw the message but she did not comment to me about it. Then she goes cold on me in a day and mumbles about me going on a trip while she is waking up. Geez. Link to post Share on other sites
manfrombelow2 Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 It's simple: She does not want you anymore. I know it hurts, we all been there, but when a person, for whatever reasons, wants to breakup with you, all you can and must do is to cease all contacts immediately. You do this not only out of respect for them, but also for yourself. I was dating this girl for roughly a month, had sex multiple times (told me how great I was), and by all accounts the relationship seemed to be going great. She would tell me how I was such a great guy, text and call me frequently during the day, send me pictures of her and her family when they went on vacation, call me sweetie, baby, and was all into me. Last Friday we spent the evening together, I slept at her place, had sex for a few hours that morning. When I saw her the next day I could tell she was a little distant and then the next day she sends me a text telling me that it won't work between us and that she can't pinpoint the reason why or why she feels the way she does. Does anyone have any insight or thoughts on what the heck happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hotbiscuit Posted January 6, 2019 Author Share Posted January 6, 2019 I hear ya. I sent her a response back that day just essentially saying good luck and no hard feelings. I have not spoken to her since and will never initiate contact with her again. I do assume an ex re-appeared in her life or maybe they have had an off and on R but who really knows. It was just shocking for someone to do a complete 180. Link to post Share on other sites
Hollywood-Tourist Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 That says it all. It's someone else. Two things: 1) It's nothing you did and it's not you that caused her to bolt. 2) She's a train wreck. Be happy you only invested a month. Look at it as a bullet dodged and get back in the game. I agree with this guy for the main reason highlighted in bold. She obviously has issues and seems to leave carnage in her path. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted January 7, 2019 Share Posted January 7, 2019 When it comes to online dating, just assume you could be one of several people in the picture. She very well could have been seeing someone else, or maybe she just wasn't feeling it anymore. One month is so little time that you'll probably never know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hotbiscuit Posted January 7, 2019 Author Share Posted January 7, 2019 I kind of thought the same thing although she took her OLD profile down after like 3 weeks of us dating. She told me she didn't have a need for it any more since she met me. Your right, I will never know and I already have a couple of other prospects lined up. She would blow up my phone 2 to 3 times per day while also calling a couple of times as well. I didn't have to do anything but maybe send her a GM or GN text once every 3 days or so. She would call me up and ask me out or invite me over. I just thought my game was tight and she was just totally into me. We had sex one night and the next day she sent her girlfriends a text telling them she couldn't concentrate because she got properly f'ed the night before. She sent me a screenshot of it which is how I found out. Anyway definitely a good learning experience but man she was all over me. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted January 7, 2019 Share Posted January 7, 2019 (edited) "tell me . . . how I was such a great guy" You are a great guy, just not the right one for her. What went wrong? Nothing went wrong. Things went they way they should go. Two peeps meet, spend some time together to see if they are well-suited for each other or not. It's kinda like trying on shoes. You go to the store, you pull down a pair you like, you put them on and walk around a bit. If your toes hurt, you put them back. You still like the shoes, they just don't fit right. Edited January 8, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted January 7, 2019 Share Posted January 7, 2019 Just be cautious if something moves that fast. It's not always a bad thing, but be wary. Link to post Share on other sites
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