HazeMan Posted January 4, 2019 Posted January 4, 2019 So. It's been an interesting 6 weeks since my last thread. I got a job as a sales rep with a phone company. It was a fun experience. I crushed it which came as a surprise to me and my boos since I made a big sale on my second day and it was my first ever sales job. The store is located in the mall so some small part of me was dreading running into her but also mentally preparing. Things are great until about 2 weeks ago, I was chatting with my mum and she came up in the conversation. So my mum said she couldn't log into her Facebook and she thinks my ex may have finally unfriended her. I log into my mum's Facebook and end up feeling like ****. Basically my ex had been out of state for like a week with friends. She's been partying and taking trips she wanted to take with me but I couldn't afford to. She looked beautiful and it hurt like he'll so my mum said to unfriend her with her account. I felt like he'll for like 2 days and then on the 26th, I was looking at messenger stories. I am still friends on social media with her friends so one of them posted a story of a house party and my ex was there looking all dolled up again. Anyway I muted the stories of all her friends. It hasn't all been gloom and doom though. I finally got a job in my field. I went from making minimum wage to $45,000 a year doing what I actually want to do. It was a huge morale and ego boost. Beside the brief relapse, I've been doing well. It also helps that my friends have been vigilant to constantly remind me of how bad she treated me. (read the old posts for the full details) I find myself thinking more about the future now than dwelling on the past. Christmas and New Year were still lonely af but they're over now so I'm fine. Her mum and I spoke during both days and she still loves and misses me. The woman is worried about me. I'm determined not to invest any mental or emotional energy on her if I can help it. p.s. It is still somewhat baffling that any new person that hears about the breakup adopts a good riddance position. The logic is overriding the emotion and each day I become not want more aware of how many red flags I dismissed or tolerated because I expected her to get her **** together.
paisleypanther Posted February 7, 2019 Posted February 7, 2019 Boy do I know how much seeing an ex in someone's story sucks. Sometimes I see videos of my ex in a mutual friend's story and it feels like I've been hit by a train. When we broke up, I felt like I was bringing a puppy to the pound. It was heart-wrenching. Now, I can look back and see his patterns of toxic behavior. Still kinda hurts though. Congratulations on the new job! I hope you'll be able to continue looking towards the future and healing. It certainly isn't easy, but it'll get a little better with each day. 1
Author HazeMan Posted February 17, 2019 Author Posted February 17, 2019 Boy do I know how much seeing an ex in someone's story sucks. Sometimes I see videos of my ex in a mutual friend's story and it feels like I've been hit by a train. When we broke up, I felt like I was bringing a puppy to the pound. It was heart-wrenching. Now, I can look back and see his patterns of toxic behavior. Still kinda hurts though. Congratulations on the new job! I hope you'll be able to continue looking towards the future and healing. It certainly isn't easy, but it'll get a little better with each day. Thanks a lot. I'll post another update soon. It gets real tough on certain days but most days i'm fine and my mum and 3 best friends are making it easier than it would've been alone. Everyone is disgusted, disappointed and keeps saying I'm better off because she never deserved me and threw me away because she had a case of GIGS. The new job is awesome. At the rate things are going, i will be able to clear my almost $2000 debt, start an index fund and get a car all by the end of next year. Funny thing is, for all intents and purposes and despite what she believes, I was the one held back and the road ahead is so clear now. I feel really liberated because I do not have her around to dump all her emotional and psychological problems on. Life is...good
Recommended Posts