Alex55 Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 So my boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me just over a month ago. He is 22 and I’m 17. He said it’s because of our age difference and disapproval of his family. The thing is, I got along with his family and they liked me and I’ve since both talked to his mom and sister and they said the age difference wasn’t a problem for them. I’m still in love with him and I just don’t understand why it took him 9 months to let the age get to him. Yeah, at first, it bothered him but after a couple months we were fine. Also, I will be 18 soon. He’s gonna be graduating college this year while I’m graduating high school so I think he thinks that won’t work out but I don’t understand why because we’d still be seeing each other as much as we did. He did it really suddenly but when he did it he said he had been thinking about it for a month, and I really had no idea. He told me he loved me during that month. He also told me he loved me as he was breaking up with me I’ve tried texting him a couple times and the first time he was giving really generic replies and the second he never responded. I’m super conflicted because I know how happy I made him, we were a great couple, and his family liked me, so I don’t know what made him end it. I want to be able to get over it but it’s hard knowing the only reason he ever broke up with me is because of our age difference and I don’t know what to do Any advice?
bathtub-row Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 The cold, hard facts? He has probably met someone new at college who’s more on his level. The other hard fact is that you’re way too young to be tied down to a guy. I know you don’t see it that way now but you will someday. Young romances rarely work out in the long run. You should be spending time deciding what you’re going to do when you get out of school and discovering who you are. Being in a serious relationship will hinder you from doing that.
preraph Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 He's in college and meeting all kinds of people and growing. You kind of grow as a person in college a lot more than you do in high school. He's simply maturing and kind of outgrowing you. And between you and me, most college guys don't want to be tied down to one woman either. It's too rich of an environment to meet new ones. I'm sorry. But you better just accept it and move on. There will be lots of guys in your future, don't worry.
manfrombelow2 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 "Age difference" is just an excuse. The real reason is more simlpe: His interest level in you dropped. He no longer likes / loves / wants you. Why? Who cares? The most important thing is, he no longer wants you. That's what matters. This sucks, I know. But it's life. Goodluck in your healing.
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 It's not the age difference. It's the life style difference. A grown man of 22 has no business dating a HS student. Find a boy to date who's age does not begin with the #2. When you turn 20 you can look this guy up again if you like because by then the 5 years will matter less but for now, let him go.
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