Alwayscats Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 (edited) My ex partner left me 8 months ago on my birthday because he had a break down which I forgave him for as I get down myself and still continued to meet with him and he still came to my house etc. I met somebody else during the 8 months and dated this guy for about a week but my ex was not happy about it and said I should of waited for him so I began waiting for my ex to sort himself out. He then told me that he didn’t know when he would be ready for a relationship. He recently asked me to go out with him to a restaurant so I went and he came back to mine but when I dropped him off at home he grabbed my hands and told Me that he needed space yet again but I could still contact him and still see him from time to time. So I respected his wishes and left him alone for three days and then I contacted him today to see how he was and he went off on one saying I wasn’t giving him enough space. I’m so confused because this guy tells me he loves me and thinks I’m lovely :/ and also confused because he said I could still contact him and still see him. I’ve deleted his number from my phone but feel an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach like I wanna talk to him :,( how do I give him up or let him go??? Or can anybody shed any light on what might be going on Edited January 3, 2019 by Alwayscats
Redhead14 Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 My ex partner left me 8 months ago on my birthday because he had a break down which I forgave him for as I get down myself and still continued to meet with him and he still came to my house etc. I met somebody else during the 8 months and dated this guy for about a week but my ex was not happy about it and said I should of waited for him so I began waiting for my ex to sort himself out. He then told me that he didn’t know when he would be ready for a relationship. He recently asked me to go out with him to a restaurant so I went and he came back to mine but when I dropped him off at home he grabbed my hands and told Me that he needed space yet again but I could still contact him and still see him from time to time. So I respected his wishes and left him alone for three days and then I contacted him today to see how he was and he went off on one saying I wasn’t giving him enough space. I’m so confused because this guy tells me he loves me and thinks I’m lovely :/ and also confused because he said I could still contact him and still see him. I’ve deleted his number from my phone but feel an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach like I wanna talk to him :,( how do I give him up or let him go??? Or can anybody shed any light on what might be going on "how do I give him up or let him go???" -- You start focusing on the lack of respect your ex demonstrated by putting you on a shelf and expecting you to sit there while he decided what would happen with YOUR life . . . Not to mention the fact that he also gets to come and go on his whim. What might be going on? -- the guy doesn't want a relationship with you but he doesn't want to give you and/or the sex up until he finds someone he really does want a relationship with or in case he doesn't find anyone else . . . You must be pissed off by his behavior and attitude if you're honest with yourself -- tap into that anger and use it to move forward and leave him in the dust. 1
milialia Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 Screw this loser, go no contact and if he contacts you do not respond until and if and when he decides to get his **** together. The reconciliation will only happen if after multiple stupid breadcrumbs he sends over a period of time end up unanswered, he gets his **** together and realizes you're actually very important to him and he values you because you did not allow yourself to treat you like a disposable toy. Ignore him so that he realizes your value and if will realize this after you hold yourself at higher standard by not responding to his here and there meaningless messages and begin to reevaluate your worth and what you mean to him then come back with his head right. If this doesn't happen he will use you and throw you away and continue you to treat you as simply an ego-boost and nothing more. I've learned this the hard way when after breaking up with my ex bf he wouldn't simply take me back easily anymore and made me reevaluate what he meant to me.
preraph Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you. This is actually very common. You cannot put up with it. He has been disrespectful and you gave him a good enough chance to clear your conscience. Now you block him and date whoever you want and don't answer his texts or calls when he decides he's lonely.
ducksauce Posted January 4, 2019 Posted January 4, 2019 Block him, it will be healthier for you. He is extremely disrespectful.
SkunkSmile Posted January 4, 2019 Posted January 4, 2019 My ex partner left me 8 months ago on my birthday because he had a break down which I forgave him for as I get down myself and still continued to meet with him and he still came to my house etc. I met somebody else during the 8 months and dated this guy for about a week but my ex was not happy about it and said I should of waited for him so I began waiting for my ex to sort himself out. He then told me that he didn’t know when he would be ready for a relationship. He recently asked me to go out with him to a restaurant so I went and he came back to mine but when I dropped him off at home he grabbed my hands and told Me that he needed space yet again but I could still contact him and still see him from time to time. So I respected his wishes and left him alone for three days and then I contacted him today to see how he was and he went off on one saying I wasn’t giving him enough space. I’m so confused because this guy tells me he loves me and thinks I’m lovely :/ and also confused because he said I could still contact him and still see him. I’ve deleted his number from my phone but feel an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach like I wanna talk to him :,( how do I give him up or let him go??? Or can anybody shed any light on what might be going on You sound like me ... you sound very genuine and you just want to know where you stand and you don't complicate stuff. In other words, you are complete character, complete person ... But unfortunately I'm having the same thing ... even tho' she didn't break up or something - she's now taking care of her mother, but acting highly unapropriate - dissmising or ignoring some of my basic questions, waiting for me to send kiss first etc. just because we had some fights ... the funny thing is she contacted me first after the fight and send me kisses and everything and now she's playing some games ... and it is dangerous.
stillafool Posted January 4, 2019 Posted January 4, 2019 Look people, when someone asks you for space give them an ocean of it. Don't go back.
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