cgo1234567 Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 when we reconnected 4 months after our break up she told me she wanted to contact me too but was too afraid to do it but was really glad I contacted her. There was no bad blood. We bumped into each other a week after contacting each other and she went cold on me after because she saw that I was enjoying myself being with friends. A week later she started posting lots of selfies and hangouts that made it seem she was happy so I sent a text telling her that I was glad she was feeling better. She looked at it but didn't respond so i didn't contact her. We bumped into each other again a month later and she decided to come up to talk to me. After that i didn't hear from her until she sent me a Merry Christmas. I decided to sent one back and she picked up on that and we talked for about 5 minutes. Again she sent me one for new years too but i decided to not send her anything. My question is that before she felt too shy and guilty to contact me but now she is initiating contact and trying to be my friend. Why is she trying to be my friend again? what is her goal?
basil67 Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 I can see that she’s trying to be civil, but I can’t see where there’s an indication that she wants to be your friend. 1
elaine567 Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 My question is that before she felt too shy and guilty to contact me but now she is initiating contact and trying to be my friend. Why is she trying to be my friend again? what is her goal? Most people do not want enemies, so being on speaking terms with an ex is a civilised way of conducting oneself. Many women especially if they are the dumper, are quite happy adding an ex to their circle of friends and acquaintances, but do not want to be back into a relationship, so tend to try to keep it light. You bumped into each other and she sends you a Merry Xmas text. then... Again she sent me one for new years too but i decided to not send her anything. Why are you playing hot and cold, in the last thread you said you wanted to be "just friends" so why play games? 1
preraph Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 You're the one mainly reaching out. She's just trying not to be a rude jerk back to you. She's not trying to be your friend, just not your enemy. You should just move on. She's not trying to get back with you. 1
ducksauce Posted January 4, 2019 Posted January 4, 2019 Stop reaching out, go full no contact forever, and move on.
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