She broke up with me and left me for "her best friend" in 4 days...

[VicAngel1995]

Ok I know I'm not the most perfect boyfriend, I know I could of done better, and I should of. I'm a 23 year old guy who was dating a 19 year old girl, we dated for 9 months, she gave me everything, she was amazing, caring, and loving. When I didn't ask for anything she would go around buying me all this random things. Even when short on money.

I actually helped her get her driver's license, threw her first birthday party, when ever she got in a reck I was there for her, let her use my car, took care of her when sick, and so on. And yes she did the same for me when my veichle wasn't working anymore she took me to work and back.

She was amazing!!! And one day she broke up with me because I didn't give her all the attention she wanted. I admit i could of done way better in attention, I play video games so I tried having time for her and a but of games with friends.

My parents loved her, we took her out, they took her out when I was at work, and they would buy her gifts. Even tough she was 19 she didn't want to be home, she was basically living with me for 9 months without her dad knowing.

Then on 12/28/2018 she broke up with me over a text and took all her stuff home. I was telling her why and she kept telling me that she was confused and needed time to think, that she wanted to focus on her family more and on school because she failed 2 semesters of college.

So I cried, begged, and promised I would change if she took me back. All she said is that she needed time and that and I quote you "I don't think I would ever love someone back right now"

She had a recent best guy friend 1 month before we broke up, he had a girlfriend that he wasn't happy for and he was just making conversations with my girlfriend at the time but nothing extreme. And I work with both of them witch makes it worst.

On 12/30/2018 I called her 7 times she never picked up instead her "best friend" did and told me to let her go and to be strong and move on. I asked him if he was dating her and he told me no at the time that they were just really good friends.

Well on 1/1/2019 I found out that she was dating her "best friend" she didn't even tell me I had to confront her. Not even a week and she left me for someone that she just made her best friend. And all the dam lies when I had asked her if she was dating him and when I asked him too. Dude was sweet talking her while we were going threw a small issue. I would never ever do some hoe stuff like that. Now she loves him already, she slept with him, and she's already staying over at his place and it hasn't even been a week yet.

I know I'm not perfect but really?!

Or am I wrong?

 

On top of that I'm still willing to fight for her, she told me she still loved me in a small part of her heart, and that in could fight for her but it all depends on me. But why on me only and not on her?

Edited January 2, 2019 by VicAngel1995

[elaine567]

She is 19, you tried to make a "wife" out of her, but 19yos tend to not want to settle down.

She got a "better" offer and she took it, it is not unusual at that age.

The world is her oyster and she will want to explore.

This was never going to be a long term relationship for her.

[stillafool]

Don't blame the best friend guy this is all on her. She's 19 and will leave him too. Don't chase her to come back. Find a more mature girl.

[VicAngel1995]

She is 19, you tried to make a "wife" out of her, but 19yos tend to not want to settle down.

She got a "better" offer and she took it, it is not unusual at that age.

The world is her oyster and she will want to explore.

This was never going to be a long term relationship for her.

 

The thing is she is the one who decided to stay with me for 9 months every night, I didn't make that decision for her, and on top of that I might of not gave her much attention but I sure was there in the most important times. But I understand...

[ExpatInItaly]

She is far too young and immature for a serious relationship.

 

Forget this girl. It will take time, but this was not the love of your life. She doesn't yet have the life skills or emotional maturity to conduct herself like an adult in a relationship.