Author Haru-no-yuki Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 Maybe she's afraid not that you'll put your body in jeopardy, but that you'll use the van to engage in the activities putting your marriage at risk. You've given her substantial reason to be concerned... Mr. Lucky Gave up on van idea for a number of reasons, but also after having considered some of the responses on here. Funnily enough my wife did make a joke about me shacking up with someone in the van... Not giving up the bike, skydiving or any of the other things I do but will try to spend most Sundays in Tokyo for wife time. She seems happy with all the above.
Crazelnut Posted January 8, 2019 Posted January 8, 2019 I'm a rider, so I wouldn't dream of trying to talk you out of riding, like some of the posters. They don't "get" it. However, I will say that you are being very selfish when we consider the totality of your hobbies. Everything you mentioned is something you do without her. What do you do together?? It's great for couples to have time apart and separate hobbies and friend groups, but you have to balance that with time spent together. Honestly, if my husband said he was going to do what you propose, I'd pitch a fit too. Pick ONE activity that she doesn't participate in and let the rest go. And for god's sake, don't go off van camping on the weekends and leave her at home. Next thing we know, one of you will be posting in the Infidelity subforum.
Just a Guy Posted January 8, 2019 Posted January 8, 2019 Hi Haru, maybe you should have found and married a 'Good Hearted Woman' as sung about by Waylon Jennings in the song by that name. You would have been forgiven all your transgressions, riding mobikes, skydiving, camping in vans and so on. However, real life women are different. They have minds and emotions and opinions which likely run counter to your own urges. You want to stay married and in a congenial relationship, you gotta toe the line. Best wishes.
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