PRW Posted January 3, 2019 Posted January 3, 2019 A lot of women like to play games, they like being chased by multiple men and the attention that comes with it, I have experienced this. I agree. But that is not "playing games". That is being smart and keeping options open to allow time for the "best choice" to rise to the surface. I do the same with women. I believe in multi-dating prior to being exclusive and I allow the woman to do the same.
Author Insoc Posted January 4, 2019 Author Posted January 4, 2019 (edited) One text can be only seconds. But a 10 minute phone conversation can be much longer over text and you can't really get much done between texts. I prefer the phone, texting has only caused problems for me but it varies female to female, some have really good etiquette, some are just plain bad and it places really confusing thoughts in your head, often negative even if that wasn't their intent or thought, that's the problem and that alone causes a lot of issues, whether it's ghosting, disappearing when in the middle of a conversation (without saying goodbye or got to go), also the worse serious topics, the worse thing for texting. I said some things once and this women kept questioning me why I said, it took 5 minutes to explain she mistook what I said. Edited January 4, 2019 by Insoc
Author Insoc Posted January 4, 2019 Author Posted January 4, 2019 Texting is a lousy excuse for communication. Most certainly not suitable for a relationship. Texting is for ordering pizzas. Beyond that it has little usefulness. Seems on these dating sites, after you get past the messaging, it's text then phone, I had this one women texting me more so than calling, she was long distance and I felt she wasn't telling me something about her marital or relationship life, she said she was single but would never call me from home, only when she was out, when I tried calling her she would never answer, only when she called me. We texted till a fight broke out over confusion in what was said, she said it was over and that she is going to pursue another man.
Author Insoc Posted January 4, 2019 Author Posted January 4, 2019 I agree. But that is not "playing games". That is being smart and keeping options open to allow time for the "best choice" to rise to the surface. I do the same with women. I believe in multi-dating prior to being exclusive and I allow the woman to do the same. I do the same thing, but only when I have 3 or 4 woman in the waiting room, I had this a few weeks ago, and knocked down a couple that were not good fits, but I'm not ready to go "exclusive" yet, I just want to casually date.
manfrombelow2 Posted January 5, 2019 Posted January 5, 2019 NO. You just don't do anything at this point onwards. You just delete her number, and move on. The explanation is as followed: She just does not like you. End of story. And when somebody does not like you, you stop bothering them with your texts, calls, presence. The reason she waited (purposely) for three days before replying your text says many things: from you're so far down her priority list to her not having any interest in you whatsoever. Consider her reply a polite gesture, and leave her alone, because that's what she wants. Don't waste your time and energy chasing someone who just doesn't want you. And remember: Just because she doesn't like/want you doesn't make her a bad person or your enemy, so I would just forget all about her without holding any grudge or resentment towards her. 1
edgygirl Posted January 5, 2019 Posted January 5, 2019 I also dislike when people disappear but honestly due to the Holidays I'd give people a break. I met a guy before Xmas and communication was spotty between then and beginning of the year. He did write me right after New Year to set up a date. I think spotty communication can be forgiven between Dec. 24th and Jan. 2nd.
Author Insoc Posted January 6, 2019 Author Posted January 6, 2019 I agree on the Holidays, well I ghosted her and she texted me back and then we talked on the phone, she used the Holiday's and being sick as an excuse, so we agreed on a 2nd date, but that sorta sealed this one as I feel there is nothing there with her and me, that is I don't think she is into me, I posted a thread about it. She is much older than me, but I noticed when I was with her she was texting friends throughout the day and had her phone with, so take that as you may. So for the future, for me the delay and disinterest now tell me she never really looked at me as boyfriend material, more as a friend and someone to screw in a light bulb, i was helping her one the 2nd date moving some furniture around her place, she just moved into, I volunteered to help. The being "too nice" aspect can also hurt you, I'm way too nice or innocent lol. I now have another woman I met saying she needs space from me, so I have not texted her again in a day or so, I sent a response 2 days ago and that's it. I think texting is impersonal, but it's easy to see red flags in it.
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