Grisha Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 When we were together my gf would have sex with me and go down on me, but she’s never make out with me. After noticing this after having sex a few times I asked her if she wasn’t into kissing and she said she was but had to feel very comfortable with someone in order to make out with them.. We’ve had sex over 10 times and she’s gone down on me every time but never made out with me. Its gotten to the point where I feel uncomfortable and stopped attempting.. I’m not sure why she’s like this? Any ideas? Is she lying? She is obsessive about her perfect white teeth which has always made me feel a bit insecure because even though mine are straight and clean, they are naturally more yellow than hers because of my European genes.. My teeth aren’t terrible but maybe she’s put off by them?? My friends are blunt with me all the time and they never tell me if I have bad breath whenever I ask.. idk.. it’s just so weird..
Cersei Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 Maybe she does not want to kiss you if you have gone down on her. (Tasting herself) Would this be the case maybe?
Insoc Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 (edited) Do you have halitosis issues and/or use a tongue scraper? Bad breath can be a deal breaker, even if you cannot smell it yourself, you may have a condition that needs treatment. Just like if a woman doesn't smell good you know where, it's no go territory even with a clothes pin on my nose. Try Baking Soda toothpaste or a little baking soda to your daily brushing, it really helps. Edited December 30, 2018 by Insoc
Giraffe-A Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 I’m scratching my head. How the heck is a girl confortable enough to put a penis in her mouth but not kiss? This is exactly why Jesus refuses to come back. :/ Anyway, it’s not your teeth or your breath. She could have a boyfriend already and using you for sex or just plain using you for sex only. 2
healing light Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 Huh. She's either self-conscious of kissing and has an odd hang up about it or.... I would get a tongue scraper and make sure you have something like a natural peppermint gum for your breath just in case. Brush your teeth, floss, and oil pull right before she comes over.
preraph Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 It could be another reason too. I love kissing, but I had one bf I just didn't like the way he kissed, no fault of his own, just mouths didn't line up or something. 1
frankspeci Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 I dont think she's lying, but possibly mischaracterizing her issue. She said she has to be completely comfortable to make out, but it could be some other feeling having to do with intimacy and comfort that she lacks with you on some level. One of my exes barely liked kissing me. She would always have her mouth almost closed and I could tell she wasn't enjoying it. At the same time she became reticent to have sex, but she was more open to sex than kissing. Once a girl rejected a kiss of mine after three dates and told me she found kissing to be more intimate than sex. Search "why prostitutes don't kiss" and you might find something there. Women who are willing to do everything else with strangers but not always ok with kissing them. Contrarily I can tell when a girl is into me, she usually goes all in with the deep kissing and wants to give me mouth to mouth for an hour. I'm not the most experienced guy, but the experiences I've had taught me to tie willingness to kiss with my partners level of desire. This has not always been borne out everytime, so I don't swear by it, and in your case, the fact that your girl is willing to give you oral is a little odd. Another thing I learned is not to go in too hungrily at the start. Some people find it off putting and prefer to ease in to the kiss. So being a good kisser is possibly important. Just my 2 cents.
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 She likes sex but is not that into you (yet?). The advice about breath is a concern too. Get a tongue scraper and gargle with a water and hydrogen peroxide mixture. Do it regularly and ask someone to take a whiff and be honest. I'm surprised that so many people I know don't know that they could knock a buzzard off a manure cart with their breath. I ask after a first kiss if my breath is OK. It would be a deal-breaker if the woman had one of those nasty stanks and did not even know it. In my first LTR, when she and I drifted apart, she didn't want to kiss around sex toward the end. It was the "over" before the "over". It was heart-breaking to me. 2
grays Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 A lot of guys who’re players don’t want to kiss. I think part of it is about feeling too intimate to do with someone they don’t have feelings for, or protecting either or both parties from catching feelings. 1
stillafool Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 Some girls are told early that guys really don't like to kiss. That they only do it because they know girls like it and it leads to sex. Maybe she thinks men don't really care about that sort of thing so she just gets right down to business. I bet most guys like her for that.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 OP, are you talking about the same girl from your previous thread? Your ex who’d broken up with you to go back to her own ex? Who had a bunch of weird beliefs about you not being “deep” enough? I’m confused because last week you were talking about that ex, and in this thread you have a girlfriend. Has she come back to you, or? Kissing is very emotionally intimate for some people. If you’re dealing with someone who’s bouncing between you and her ex, she might be attempting to keep emotions out of it and make it about sex only. A little clarification about the woman you’re describing here would be helpful.
Fair Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 I'm sorry but this woman sounds like a head case/mind game loving twit. Find someone else, my god this is so stupid. What she's accomplishing by doing this is twisting your head into a knot trying to figure her out which is exactly what she wants. You don't need this. 1
Interstellar Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 Sounds like a major red flag to me. This girl doesn’t dig you; she just can’t say it to your face. Get rid of her and start collecting phone numbers. 1
Highndry Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 ... use a tongue scraper... ...get a tongue scraper... ...Get a tongue scraper... You're all missing where the really, really foul smells come from, the kind that seem like a cross between a cat litter box, a dumpster, and toe jam - NASAL BREATH!! Make sure you don't have a sinus infection or something. If you do, you can brush until the cows come home and it will do nothing.
Highndry Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 I’m scratching my head. How the heck is a girl confortable enough to put a penis in her mouth but not kiss? This is exactly why Jesus refuses to come back. :/ Anyway, it’s not your teeth or your breath. She could have a boyfriend already and using you for sex or just plain using you for sex only. Hahahahaha!!! God love you, I laughed so hard at that. 1
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 You're all missing where the really, really foul smells come from, the kind that seem like a cross between a cat litter box, a dumpster, and toe jam - NASAL BREATH!! Make sure you don't have a sinus infection or something. If you do, you can brush until the cows come home and it will do nothing. Sorry but it is well known that a "coated tongue" which allows bacteria to thrive is the most likely reason for lousy breath. If scraping and washing with a water/peroxide mix don't clean and kill away the stank, then a vist to an ENT specialist is in order. A "nasal infection" doesn't last forever. A coated tongue unfortunately can.
chillii Posted January 1, 2019 Posted January 1, 2019 (edited) No wonder you'd probably be all over the internet giving total strangers the gory details totally unnecessarily of that too. ps,,,Ahh , dogs have sex , try making love to her. Edited January 1, 2019 by chillii
Tonk Posted January 1, 2019 Posted January 1, 2019 Like they said up thread, she likes sex but doesn't like you. She doesn't want to personalise things.
smackie9 Posted January 1, 2019 Posted January 1, 2019 Isn't this girl a rebound anyways? Sounds to me this is just about sex and nothing more.
maxamber Posted January 14, 2019 Posted January 14, 2019 Can I say that your girlfriend can be forgiven? If I were your girlfriend, I might also refuse to kiss you. Not because I don't love you, but I can't stand bad breath. I hope this does not offend you. But you can try using chewing gum before you are like kissing. In daily life, you can use the tongue cleaner to help bad breath.
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