cgo1234567 Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 So 4 months into our break up we reconnected and after that she decided to intentionally be at a place i would be at. I decided to chat with her for about 5 minutes and then proceeded to go with my friends to hangout and have a laugh. I guess she saw that because a week afterwards her social media started to explode with selfies and hanging out. she's been constantly posting and she was almost silent for the first 4 months of the break up. Did i bruise her ego or something?
goth-gal Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 Maybe. Or maybe she’s over you and wants to party and be back to life. When I ressurge after a breakup, it also seems like I’m back from the dead. The real question here is: why do you care? Do you want to reconcile?
Lotsgoingon Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 Why do you care? Move on. Now, if you're into her, contact her ... Otherwise, why in the world would you be looking at her on social media? Dude, you're doing a self-torture act. If you want to look at her page, use that to kick your own social life into high gear. But kill that curiosity, to reverse a phrase ... that curiosity about her can only get you in trouble.
Ronni_W Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 Did i bruise her ego or something? Or, you're not nearly as important to her as your ego wants you to think that you are? It makes sense that she took four months to get over you, and, when she ran into you after four months, she realized how totally over you she is, and that realization (that she is totally over you) is what freed her to get on with her own life. Time to get over yourself and/or to get over her...however you want to look at it(?) 1
Author cgo1234567 Posted December 30, 2018 Author Posted December 30, 2018 Or, you're not nearly as important to her as your ego wants you to think that you are? It makes sense that she took four months to get over you, and, when she ran into you after four months, she realized how totally over you she is, and that realization (that she is totally over you) is what freed her to get on with her own life. Time to get over yourself and/or to get over her...however you want to look at it(?) im asking because 4 months prior to this i reconnected with my ex. In that time we talked for hours on end just catching up on life when she suddenly began to brag about all the other guys that has hit on her since our break up. She even opened up to me about some struggles she has had and told me how she doesn't know why but whenever she talks to me she feels like she can tell me anything but cant do the same to her family and friends. Finally we stopped talking after she told me she wanted to facetime me. We didn't because i was unsure if it was a good idea but after this it lead to her intentionally visiting me.
Author cgo1234567 Posted December 30, 2018 Author Posted December 30, 2018 Why do you care? Move on. Now, if you're into her, contact her ... Otherwise, why in the world would you be looking at her on social media? Dude, you're doing a self-torture act. If you want to look at her page, use that to kick your own social life into high gear. But kill that curiosity, to reverse a phrase ... that curiosity about her can only get you in trouble. Im viewing her social media because after the break up i deleted her off but 1 month after that i got hurt in sports and she texted me AND added me back on social media. I decided to accept because i didn't know what she had want. Now i know it was just an excuse to add me back. i don't hate her or anything so i don't want to delete her again.
Author cgo1234567 Posted December 30, 2018 Author Posted December 30, 2018 Maybe. Or maybe she’s over you and wants to party and be back to life. When I ressurge after a breakup, it also seems like I’m back from the dead. The real question here is: why do you care? Do you want to reconcile? I'm hoping we can be friends again since we were incredibly good friends 3 years before our relationship. Im not sure if its ok due to some of the things that has happened after our break up. She has contacted me recently during Christmas making small talk so i figured that there was no indifference between us because she did contact me. i replied to another person explaining what happened prior to this so if you read it i hope u can understand why im not sure if its ok to fully reconnect and be friends again.
Ronni_W Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 <snip> ...told me how she doesn't know why but whenever she talks to me she feels like she can tell me anything but cant do the same to her family and friends. Dude, she may not know why - or just may not want to tell you - but you got 'friend-zoned'. The fact that she only added you after your sports injury is just more proof. She is, as you perceive it, "intentionally visiting" you because she wants to keep you there, in a friend-zone, like all her other friends...who do not get to feel neglected, ignored or pissed-off when she gets an actual romantic interest. You can see this, yes?
Author cgo1234567 Posted December 30, 2018 Author Posted December 30, 2018 (edited) Dude, she may not know why - or just may not want to tell you - but you got 'friend-zoned'. The fact that she only added you after your sports injury is just more proof. She is, as you perceive it, "intentionally visiting" you because she wants to keep you there, in a friend-zone, like all her other friends...who do not get to feel neglected, ignored or pissed-off when she gets an actual romantic interest. You can see this, yes? right but i do not want to be in another relationship with her. We were good amazing friends before hand so i thought we could be friends again. ultimately i just hope theres no hard feelings between us. Edited December 30, 2018 by cgo1234567
elaine567 Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 Who was the dumper and who was the dumpee? Why did you split?
Author cgo1234567 Posted December 31, 2018 Author Posted December 31, 2018 Who was the dumper and who was the dumpee? Why did you split? She broke up with me because of stress. Things like college and her mom being unhealthy due to cancer. She was afraid if we were less available to each other she would eventually lose me completely.
Lotsgoingon Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 She broke up with me because of stress. Things like college and her mom being unhealthy due to cancer. She was afraid if we were less available to each other she would eventually lose me completely. Have to tell you this, but the above is NOT a reason to really break up with someone. Stress is exactly a time you can call on a partner to be really nice to you and treat you with lots of TLC. If some family stress leads me to want to break up with someone, that means dating them has become another duty, another responsibility, another errand. Translation: hanging with them isn't a treat. Therefore I'm not into them. Dude, if you want to be her friend, do phone calls ... Get off her social media if you care about her dating life.
Marc878 Posted December 31, 2018 Posted December 31, 2018 She broke up with me because of stress. Things like college and her mom being unhealthy due to cancer. She was afraid if we were less available to each other she would eventually lose me completely. But now brags about other guys? Nah, it BS. I'm not a fan of having X's in the mix. It's awkward at best. Why be bothered. Life's short. Don't complicate it.
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