HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 I’d be interested in some opinions on whether this girl’s behaviour seems normal, or if she likes me.. she has a boyfriend which complicates things slightly.. We always make eye contact with each other, and often just stare at each other We go for lunch pretty much every day and spend the entire time talking She’s started opening up to me about personal things She makes comments about other females liking me like “obviously ‘x’ likes you” She compares me to her boyfriend, your hair is so good and he’s balding, he’s so skinny, I wish my boyfriend dressed like you She blushes when I first see her in the morning, and when I do anything for her We tease each other and are always joking about something Now IMO it looks like she likes me and is monkey branching HOWEVER she tells me she has male friends from school/uni who she’s good friends with etc., maybe this is just how she is with her male friends? I don’t know but my mind is scrambled and I’ve let myself get into this situation..
smackie9 Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 Call it what you want, but she's have emotional affairs with her orbiters, and you are one of them. You are being used and should get yourself in someone elses orbit that would actually go out with you. In other words you are wasting your time. 1
Author HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2018 Author Posted December 28, 2018 Call it what you want, but she's have emotional affairs with her orbiters, and you are one of them. You are being used and should get yourself in someone elses orbit that would actually go out with you. In other words you are wasting your time. So, as a female, you do not think this behaviour is normal/acceptable?
preraph Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 You see her all the time. Just ask her. Tell her, so what's going on? I'm very confused. Are you wanting to be friends or something more?
Author HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2018 Author Posted December 28, 2018 You see her all the time. Just ask her. Tell her, so what's going on? I'm very confused. Are you wanting to be friends or something more? I’m going to ask her out for a drink next week. Her reaction will give me the answers I hope.
Geraltt Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 I’m going to ask her out for a drink next week. Her reaction will give me the answers I hope. Hey, do what you want, but personally I wouldn't. Why? She compares me to her boyfriend, your hair is so good and he’s balding, he’s so skinny, I wish my boyfriend dressed like you She has a boyfriend. If she can do it with you, she can do it to you. She's already proven herself to be untrustworthy. Why would you invite that sort of drama into your life? Life is complicated enough.
smackie9 Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 I’m going to ask her out for a drink next week. Her reaction will give me the answers I hope. You are being passive, which tells me you don't have the spine to be forward with her. Your fear: you won't like the answer you know what she's going to give you...landing you into the friends zone, which I'm sure you have found yourself may times. 2
Author HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2018 Author Posted December 28, 2018 You are being passive, which tells me you don't have the spine to be forward with her. Your fear: you won't like the answer you know what she's going to give you...landing you into the friends zone, which I'm sure you have found yourself may times. Oh dear, who pissed in your cornflakes?
Geraltt Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 Oh dear, who pissed in your cornflakes? I may have worded things differently than our friend smackie9, but she's not wrong. Just the fact that you had such a reaction to her post should tell you something.
Author HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2018 Author Posted December 28, 2018 I may have worded things differently than our friend smackie9, but she's not wrong. Just the fact that you had such a reaction to her post should tell you something. Her post was incredibly rude and out of line. And she is completely wrong.
Geraltt Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 Her post was incredibly rude and out of line. And she is completely wrong. Perhaps. You may be doing yourself a favour, though, in some self-reflection as to why you reacted so strongly.
frankspeci Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 (edited) OP, you tryna date her? Or just find out where she stands? Cus if it's the latter, I dont think asking her out for drinks is the best way to do that. Probably just discuss it during lunch. To your original question, it does appear like shes coming on to you based on what you described. I dont think it's that big of an issue if you get her to reign it in and set boundaries. You could still be friends. If it's the former...shrug. Edited December 29, 2018 by frankspeci 1
smackie9 Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 I'm not saying you are weak person, I'm saying you are handling this situation in a weak or passive way. Asking her out for drinks will tell you nothing. She would still go along as a friend thinking you are just gonna hang out, just like you always have and how she always does with her male friends. Tip: Girls like confident guys, so just be forward with her. Who knows, maybe she's waiting for you to make a move so she can be sure. I agree with fredspeci, if she's not interested at least you can set boundaries and still be friends.
elaine567 Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 You are trying to get this girl to cheat on her bf with you... Why? If you succeed, is this the type of girl you really want - a cheater? Are you prepared to be the OM, hanging around whilst she flits between the two of you...
smackie9 Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 You are trying to get this girl to cheat on her bf with you... Why? If you succeed, is this the type of girl you really want - a cheater? Are you prepared to be the OM, hanging around whilst she flits between the two of you... She's really hot and she's giving him attention. BF or not, he doesn't want to miss an opportunity to get with a girl like her. He doesn't care about the BF. He wants to know if she's really into him, by her behavior. Is it normal or not? For some girls it is, and some it's not. Since she mentioned she has lots of male friends, I'm gonna say this is the norm for her and this is how she treats them. She likes the attention, likes to look available to keep that attention but she ain't gonna put out anything for it....
Yosemite Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 OP are you much older than her? She’s in college and you’re not. If there’s an age difference it could explain why she talks about her bf with you because she sees you in a fatherly way or she’s so young and inexperienced that she believes that she can hold off your advances by mentioning a bf but continue to hang out with you.
alphamale Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 (edited) dude youre another girlfriend Edited December 29, 2018 by alphamale 1
manfrombelow2 Posted January 6, 2019 Posted January 6, 2019 Just ask her out, instead of trying to decode her every moves and actions, because that is weak and beta behaviour.
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