LazyLibra Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Well i've been seeing this girl for about a week. I met her on my job and she gave me her phone number and i called her up and we went on a date. If i had to describe physically my perfect girl for me, chelsea would be it. I'm not even close to joking. From hair color to eye color, to body type! it is all dead on! Personality wise, it's not ideal but i can manage it. The main problems are her inability to receive compliments and express her feelings. Now body language says to me she is totally into me, she loves to hug me and kiss me. Now we started having Sex on the second date!Now we had two unbelievable dates and it just flowed into sex! Wild, Kinky, rough sex... The most enjoyable i have ever had. Now, i don't know...... I really like chelsea, she is SO FUN to hang out with . And i know how i am! I'm very "charming" and i know how to treat a woman. Now what i'm asking is do you think a relationship can evolve into something serious after having sex so soon? She seems to want it all the time when she is with me
lovephreakout Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 no. unless there is some other substance there... enjoy the ride while it lasts... if its the BEST sex you have ever had and you like her... REALLY like her.. you may try getting to know one another better,.... or even ask her what she wants out of this relationship with you. but dont ask too soon because if it is just sex.. asking something like that will definelty cut the libido have fun
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 The main problems are her inability to receive compliments and express her feelings. It all sort of hinges on what is behind this behavior. Some women truly enjoy sex as a bonding thing - a sharing of one's body with another purely for mutual pleasure and closeness. This can happen early on, depending on how confident a woman is with herself and with your relationship. It becomes a part of intimacy with you. However... Other women use sex as a way of self-punishment and degradation - a self-fulfilling prophecy of being a 'slut' which in turn feeds into insecurity. This can also happen early on - completely bypassing any chance at true intimacy. They'll have crazy mad sex, convince themselves that they are a slut, that you only want them for sex and will turn that on themselves as a subconscious form of self-punishment. They then stop the sex in an effort to see if there is "anything more" - but are still incapable of getting any deeper in levels of intimacy, and of course the b/f becomes confused and frustrated - and the girl can then "confirm" that it was "only about sex" and can indulge in some more self-loathing. They sabotage relationship after relationship this way. Girls like this tend to be insecure, and incapable of true intimacy and sharing of feelings. It is a built-in relationship self destruct built from a variety of traumatic experiences. Now, note that these are two EXTREME ends of the spectrum. Your g/f might fall someone in the middle. The future success of your relationship depends on you knowing where she is in that spectrum (so that you can accomodate and adjust accordingly), and how aware she is herself of where she is on it. Is sex a healthy thing for her, or is it something that tends toward a darker side for her? If you haven't noticed any other behaviors that suggest patterns of primarily sexual and failed relationships, deep insecurity, or inabilility to 'connect' then chances are you are ok and have little to worry about.
JS17 Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 The main problems are her inability to receive compliments and express her feelings. You've been seeing her for a week!! What kind of feelings do you want her to express?!?!? Give her time to open up. You're rushing things. It may or may not be possible that this will turn into something serious. You don't know her well enough yet to know. Relax and let the relationship develop.
RainyDayWoman Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Now what i'm asking is do you think a relationship can evolve into something serious after having sex so soon? yes...but just because it can doesn't mean it will. so many people will say "you can't base a real relationship on sex" and that may be true, but truthfully, it is how some things start. some that start out with sex early will work out, and some work only for sexual purposes. good luck. no one can tell you "no, it can't evolve into something else after having sex so soon." every situation is different.
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