Malin889 Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 Hi all, so I've talked about this guy before, he's a good friend of mine and we hadn't talked for awhile. (I did discover he was seeing someone briefly months ago, but he is no longer seeing that person.) Well, we started talking again. Lately he's been texting quite a bit lately. The other day he was out playing a sport and he sent me a picture of himself playing, which I thought was funny and cute. We are not millennials, so we don’t take/send pictures of ourselves often like those crazy kids do. (No offense to any millennials.) He also did the sweet Merry Christmas text, have a nice day, yada yada. We've had a few other conversations in the last week as well. I've made comments before about being afraid to call him. Well I did try to call him earlier in the week and his voicemail was full, and I made a funny comment to him how his voicemail was full when I tried to call him, hoping he would pick up the phone and call me, but he didn't, he just texted back. Is he afraid to call me? How do we take this to the next level? Ugh. I'm too old for this crap! We used to call each other in the past.
Happy Lemming Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 ...and I made a funny comment to him how his voicemail was full when I tried to call him, hoping he would pick up the phone and call me, but he didn't... I think you have done all that you can... You've opened the proverbial door and he didn't walk through. If you want to try one last time, text him that you'd like to meet for drinks. If that doesn't work, he isn't interested. I don't think he is afraid to call... he chooses not to. 1
ShadeOfGreen Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 Dating has significantly changed in the past ten years. A lot of people just don't talk on the phone like they use to, and some are even a little put off by a phone call. Not saying your friend is, but it's possible it just doesn't fit for him. I've thought about it some. Calling someone you barely know and have interest in takes a little bit of time commitment and thought process. With people having multiple social media and dating apps on their phone, we've come accustomed to the casual screen check and status update. Our attention is more divided than before, and so how to fit communication into our lives has changed for some.
Author Malin889 Posted December 28, 2018 Author Posted December 28, 2018 I think you have done all that you can... You've opened the proverbial door and he didn't walk through. If you want to try one last time, text him that you'd like to meet for drinks. If that doesn't work, he isn't interested. I don't think he is afraid to call... he chooses not to. !! I knew you were going to say that. Strangely he just texted me another picture of himself, this time at work. Whatever.
Happy Lemming Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 Strangely he just texted me another picture of himself, this time at work. Whatever. How about you text back... "Picture is great, but I prefer seeing my friends face to face. You free for a drink, next week??"
Author Malin889 Posted December 28, 2018 Author Posted December 28, 2018 How about you text back... "Picture is great, but I prefer seeing my friends face to face. You free for a drink, next week??" That’s perfect! Thank you Happy Lemming! You always have good advice.
Happy Lemming Posted December 28, 2018 Posted December 28, 2018 That’s perfect! Thank you Happy Lemming! You always have good advice. You are quite welcome, glad to help. Crossing my fingers he agrees to a drink. Best of Luck!!
Author Malin889 Posted December 28, 2018 Author Posted December 28, 2018 Dating has significantly changed in the past ten years. A lot of people just don't talk on the phone like they use to, and some are even a little put off by a phone call. Not saying your friend is, but it's possible it just doesn't fit for him. I've thought about it some. Calling someone you barely know and have interest in takes a little bit of time commitment and thought process. With people having multiple social media and dating apps on their phone, we've come accustomed to the casual screen check and status update. Our attention is more divided than before, and so how to fit communication into our lives has changed for some. You are right! We have a million and a half ways to communicate and we’ve become worse at it instead of better. By we, I mean as a society. :-)
Author Malin889 Posted December 29, 2018 Author Posted December 29, 2018 You are quite welcome, glad to help. Crossing my fingers he agrees to a drink. Best of Luck!! Thank you!
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 29, 2018 Posted December 29, 2018 Text him this question: "can we talk?" Don't dive under a table after you send it.
Author Malin889 Posted December 29, 2018 Author Posted December 29, 2018 Text him this question: "can we talk?" Don't dive under a table after you send it. Wow, do you know me? That’s so something I would do! (Dive under the table, I mean!) I did send a text late last night using Lemming’s suggestion: “pictures are great, but face to face would be nice too” I said, then I sent him a joke too. I did turn my phone off briefly after I sent it but I don’t think he called during that time. (In the slight chance he did, he didn’t leave a message lol. He was traveling again yesterday so who knows.) Anyway I’m hoping my face-to-face remark will get him thinking and do something about this.
mortensorchid Posted December 30, 2018 Posted December 30, 2018 I agree, if you want to talk to him on the phone and his voicemail is full, then text him "can we talk this evening?". That way he'll know you are wanting a phone call.
Author Malin889 Posted December 31, 2018 Author Posted December 31, 2018 I agree, if you want to talk to him on the phone and his voicemail is full, then text him "can we talk this evening?". That way he'll know you are wanting a phone call. Thanks! Yes I suppose it's a good idea to just be direct, I thought I was but I guess I wasn't being direct enough. He did tell me once to be direct and ask for what I want... Since he sent me pictures of himself lately, I was thinking of sending him a picture of me; is that weird? He sent me a picture of himself out of the blue last week unsolicited, but I'm not one to normally send pictures of myself...
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