krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I get scared of men I am attracted to generally especially when I'm a certain way. Some I have those desires with less than others. No over the year at work I had issues working with someone it was a halfway thing like I wasn't that concerned but was like chemically. I could still have bad thoughts in my head but I kind of was finally able to treat him like a normal person. Am I getting better? I mean with men in generally when I was a kid I'd be outwardly like ehhhh couldn't control myself. Didn't like that I'd embarrass myself because I can't calm down. So in this work environment I was very scared of men I felt that way about. Well we've kind of been friendly at work more than I am with anyone else actually except sherry my neighbor. But anyway am I finally better a little more controlled etc?? Do I need to still be concerned scared of myself in these cases? ps Ok well if you don't understand what I'm talking about just ask
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I'm not sure what this means: "...I mean with men in generally when I was a kid I'd be outwardly like ehhhh couldn't control myself. Didn't like that I'd embarrass myself because I can't calm down.."
Author krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 I'm not sure what this means: "...I mean with men in generally when I was a kid I'd be outwardly like ehhhh couldn't control myself. Didn't like that I'd embarrass myself because I can't calm down.." I literally will say something that says what I am thinking or can't keep my hands to myself not like sexual but like yeah I try to avoid. Basically with him I actually originally did avoid him completely but he became friendly would even try to sit next to me a few times I learned to be ok with him only once did I really go out of line but generally I actually mention to be normal.
Garcon1986 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 For any hotblooded hoomin, seeing an attractive mate will give you butterflies in the belly. It takes mental training to then go flirt with that mate. It takes discipline to stay calm and get to know your romantic prospect. That's it.
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I literally will say something that says what I am thinking or can't keep my hands to myself not like sexual but like yeah I try to avoid. Basically with him I actually originally did avoid him completely but he became friendly would even try to sit next to me a few times I learned to be ok with him only once did I really go out of line but generally I actually mention to be normal. It seems you're a bit "high tuned". I am, or at least I was too much of a "feeler" for my own good (I don't mean feeling as in with my hands but in my gut). I got help from a psychiatrist for it because I couldn't let go of all the mayhem in my mind over having blundered into a torrid affair with a girl with borderline personality disorder. I never expected that the medication, which was Prozac at the time, would absolutely end my social anxiety--that butterflies in the gut feeling that made me blush a lot and avoid new encounters. I am a changed man because of my decision to try real medicine and cease any idea of self-medicating with alcohol or w/e. There should be no stigma, and to the contrary, one should be praised for taking the responsibility to sustain change if they don't like how their chemistry keeps making life a series of crises. Just saying. Not everyone has it easy in terms of feelings. And some of us have it tough. Good luck whatever you do.
Author krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 For any hotblooded hoomin, seeing an attractive mate will give you butterflies in the belly. It takes mental training to then go flirt with that mate. It takes discipline to stay calm and get to know your romantic prospect. That's it. yeah no not quite like that I have very few romantic orientation it's just when I'm sexually attracted to men I find that's how things are.
stillafool Posted December 26, 2018 Posted December 26, 2018 I thought you were living the lesbian life and had no desire to be around men. I thought you were perfectly happy with women. Are you saying being around men in general makes you uncomfortable?
Author krq12 Posted December 26, 2018 Author Posted December 26, 2018 I thought you were living the lesbian life and had no desire to be around men. I thought you were perfectly happy with women. Are you saying being around men in general makes you uncomfortable? yeah I should combine posts really. I enjoy lesbian sex just fine as far as my sex life I'm still attracted to men more than women on a day to day basis in fact I actually am not that shy with women/need to get under control with women because I do enjoy the actually lesbian sex the same as I do with straight sex. I don't actually feel I need to have sex with a man to feel completely satisfied in my sex life. Either has seemed to work for me. That's what's so odd because I do like guys a lot more in the chemical sense but I can have sex with either and have good lesbian or straight sex either way. I also don't act much like a lesbian more like a typical feminine straight girl yet my sex life is totally lesbian and I'm totally good with that.
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