krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Am I basically bisexual or lesbian? I talk to other bisexual women who like say they need a man in their life or both. I generally could just have lesbian sex and I would be fine I don't need to be with a man or a woman just one or the other. I generally thought with dating that I date guys. I've never wanted to date a woman or thought about having a girlfriend. Does this sound like a lesbian?
Garcon1986 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 If you are in doubt give the lesbian life a try, then you will know how it feels like.
Author krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 No. ................... then what would it make me?
Garcon1986 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 It makes you curious about your sexuality, which is quite common.
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Basically no. People with same sex attraction behave the same way hetero people do in that they notice other persons of their gender instantly for sexual attractiveness. A gay woman will act just like anyone would when they see a chance for romance. But that means another woman. It seems you like the idea of sex with another woman but you don't really want all the interaction that comes with getting to know another woman (dating, chasing). Men often have a fantasy life in which a spurting penis is big turn on to us. I have seen here on LS many times where this penis fascination has caused men to ask if they are gay. I am "liberal" but hetero--but because I'm liberal, I offer advice that it's OK to have a same-sex fantasy but the proof of same-sex orientation is indeed attraction to everything else about someone of the same sex--not their genitalia. To me and other guys who allow themselves the occasional exciting notion to actually see a real guy as a sex object is foreign and doesn't even occur. Maybe you feel something like that toward sex with women but are basically hetero. If you date guys, you must feel attraction to men--or some type of man. In any event, go easy on yourself.
Author krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 If you are in doubt give the lesbian life a try, then you will know how it feels like. well currently I am actually.
Garcon1986 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Then it's your own decision to decide, on whether that life is for you. Nobody will judge you for being bisexual here.
Author krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 I wrote this wrong what I meant to say is like in general as far as my sex life currently I have sex with a woman like I haven't been with a guy in a year and I haven't really wanted to. As far as sexually my needs are all met. With a woman. Same with guys too. I don't mind being with a guy or a girl but I just don't need to be with men or both. Idk if that counts as bi or lesbian because logically I could live my life as a lesbian and not need to be with a man physically. I never though have wanted to have a girlfriend but I don't want a boyfriend either. Basically no. People with same sex attraction behave the same way hetero people do in that they notice other persons of their gender instantly for sexual attractiveness. A gay woman will act just like anyone would when they see a chance for romance. But that means another woman. It seems you like the idea of sex with another woman but you don't really want all the interaction that comes with getting to know another woman (dating, chasing). Men often have a fantasy life in which a spurting penis is big turn on to us. I have seen here on LS many times where this penis fascination has caused men to ask if they are gay. I am "liberal" but hetero--but because I'm liberal, I offer advice that it's OK to have a same-sex fantasy but the proof of same-sex orientation is indeed attraction to everything else about someone of the same sex--not their genitalia. To me and other guys who allow themselves the occasional exciting notion to actually see a real guy as a sex object is foreign and doesn't even occur. Maybe you feel something like that toward sex with women but are basically hetero. If you date guys, you must feel attraction to men--or some type of man. In any event, go easy on yourself.
Garcon1986 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Whatever makes you sexually satisfied should be just fine. Just uphold your safety whichever way you swing. Labels are not needed. 1
Author krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 Whatever makes you sexually satisfied should be just fine. Just uphold your safety whichever way you swing. Labels are not needed. no but my question is would this be a lesbian or a type of bisexuality?
stillafool Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 You are Bisexual meaning you can be with both men and women and not necessarily at the same time.
Garcon1986 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 If you are attracted to both but are satisfied with having sex with a woman, you count as bisexual, in the regular definition of the word.
Author krq12 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 You are Bisexual meaning you can be with both men and women and not necessarily at the same time. but if I chose to just stick with women wouldnt i be living a lesbian life
grays Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Why do you feel like you have to label your sexuality? Some people take pride in a label of lesbian or bi or straight, maybe gives them more of a community or solid feeling identity , but I think it would be fine going through life being with who you feel like being with in the moment. 1
stillafool Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 but if I chose to just stick with women wouldnt i be living a lesbian life Yes. Are you going to live a lesbian life?
stillafool Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 If you are in doubt give the lesbian life a try, then you will know how it feels like. She already is with a married woman.
Author krq12 Posted December 26, 2018 Author Posted December 26, 2018 Why do you feel like you have to label your sexuality? Some people take pride in a label of lesbian or bi or straight, maybe gives them more of a community or solid feeling identity , but I think it would be fine going through life being with who you feel like being with in the moment. well I was just kind of curious what it equates to if I did just from now was with women even though I am attracted to men. I mean hypothetically I could be basically a lesbian and I wouldn't really necessarily need sex from men in general
Author krq12 Posted December 26, 2018 Author Posted December 26, 2018 Yes. Are you going to live a lesbian life? idk right now my sex life consist of just lesbian sex and that's fine for now. I'm more focused on school and work then to be serious with anyone long term that's I'm strickly talking just about my sex life
Garcon1986 Posted December 26, 2018 Posted December 26, 2018 Then don't let anybody judge you for being a lesbian, just do what works for you. Things can work just fine being lesbian.
alphamale Posted December 26, 2018 Posted December 26, 2018 you are as much a lesbian as I am Donald Trump
basil67 Posted December 26, 2018 Posted December 26, 2018 Then don't let anybody judge you for being a lesbian, just do what works for you. Things can work just fine being lesbian. Though things won't work out just fine if you keep sleeping with the 30yo married woman in your other thread. https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/672612-did-you-date-other-people-while-you-re-other-woman-am-i-other-woman
Garcon1986 Posted December 26, 2018 Posted December 26, 2018 Yes indeed sleeping with a married woman is frowned upon if you are hiding it and the man doesn't approve. Being a lesbian with another dating woman is just fine. Thanks for qualifying basil
Author krq12 Posted December 26, 2018 Author Posted December 26, 2018 Yes indeed sleeping with a married woman is frowned upon if you are hiding it and the man doesn't approve. Being a lesbian with another dating woman is just fine. Thanks for qualifying basil I'm not looking for approval and I'm not looking to date anyone. I guess this is just a realization for me more so it's kind of like why did I began to identify as straight to begin with I think because my norm is with dating to date a man maybe someday I'd want a boyfriend but not a girlfriend. Right it doesn't seem to matter because I am not into dating I just want a sex life with nothing attached basically. I just always hear from bisexual women they need men in their lives sexully but I don't find that in common so I guess that's why I didn't know where that left me.
Author krq12 Posted December 26, 2018 Author Posted December 26, 2018 Though things won't work out just fine if you keep sleeping with the 30yo married woman in your other thread. https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/672612-did-you-date-other-people-while-you-re-other-woman-am-i-other-woman that's my decision
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