Grisha Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 The reason I say this is because I’ve been in different situations. I was dumped once and this amazing girl was in love with me and I had always put her on the back burner because I was in love with someone else. I felt like if I wasn’t in love with this other girl, I would have easily been dating this waiting around girl. Very sad. So after about a month of me getting dumped I still wasn’t over my ex but the girl that had been waiting around and asking to see me for the past 6 months got distant so it scared me. I contacted her and set up a workout date that I kept passing up on. I told her to come to my gym at my house and she drove an hour to workout with me. She came. Super hot. Sweeter, cuter, everything in her seemed great, but I was so stuck on my ex that I just let the whole day pass and we went our separate ways. She contacted me after to set another date but I never gave a direct answer. I realized it was way too early for me to date. Eventually she stopped reaching out. 4 months went by and I ended up meeting another pretty girl who was hot/cold with me which kept my attention. I always wanted to go back to the girl that was waiting around for me but I never did because months went by and she seemed to have already met someone else. She ended up going for the guy who was waiting around for her while she was waiting around for me while I was waiting around for my ex. Anyways.. She’s married to him now and I always think of her as the one that got away. I’ve never had a girl reach out to me so much and wait for me for so long. I’m glad she’s happy. If I could go back in time I would have asked her out on a real date. There was nothing wrong with her. It’s just the timing was horrible. 1
HumanMachine Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Who are you waiting around for OP? And who is your ex waiting around for? Who am I waiting around for
preraph Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Yeah, bad timing just sucks. That's basically what rebound is. It happened to me. A friend suddenly was divorcing his wife (she cheated) and demanded to be with me. I was fresh out of a very traumatic breakup and took years to get over that, so of course I wasn't open. I really can't envision what might have happened if I'd willingly pursued him instead of being cornered into a relationship. Probably not much, but it would have been more fun while it lasted.
Author Grisha Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 I’m trying to say that being a rebound doesn’t mean you’re not good enough to the person and that the only reason they wanted your company was because they were lonely. The girl was better than my ex in every way but I wasn’t over the break up, the memories, the unique person my ex was.. I’m basically waiting around for my ex gf who broke up with me 2 months ago. It usually takes me 4 months to get over someone so we’ll see what happens. I’m meeting women but I can’t take things past the first day and I keep ghosting them and I realized I can’t to that anymore. I’ve cut contact completely with her for 3 weeks now which has helped a lot. She broke up with me because she’s obviously still stuck on her ex and because of the way she broke up with me.. crying, sobbing, telling me how valuable I am to her, and how good I was to her.. I feel like she loves her ex and just can’t seem to cut him off completely.. she’s not admitting it’s because of him but it’s obvious that it is.. and I understand her situation because I was in her shoes before.
Gretchen12 Posted December 26, 2018 Posted December 26, 2018 Have you considered maybe you are attracted to a bit of drama? Also, you may be thinking these things about that girl because she got married?
Author Grisha Posted December 26, 2018 Author Posted December 26, 2018 Have you considered maybe you are attracted to a bit of drama? Also, you may be thinking these things about that girl because she got married? No I just needed time to get over a girl who I thought I would spend the rest of my life with because we were together for 2 years and she left me completely unexpected. It didn’t matter if I could have had any woman in the world, I still wanted my ex because of how in love I was and how well things were going. (She left me for her college track coach) I wanted to date the new girl as soon as I got over my ex but so much time went by and she stopped reaching out to me that I felt like she already moved on. I remember trying to start a conversation but it wasn’t going anywhere and I was talking to other women too so I just never got a date with her. I felt like she would reach out to me if she was single. I’m not attracted to drama. The last 3 girls I’ve dated all left me either an ex or a guy who they were into before they met me. Feels like a karmic cycle at this point.
Recommended Posts