Giraffe-A Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 When you hand over the credit cards like Richard Gere did to Julia Roberts, I don’t see how anyone would give you heat, including your gf.
Author ironpony Posted December 27, 2018 Author Posted December 27, 2018 I remember when I used to go out to bars, etc. Every.single.guy wore the same.boring.outfit to the bars Dark blue jeans Dress shirt with sleeves semi rolled and untucked Brown/black slip on loafer type shoes Perhaps a jacket and/or sweater It was so BORING. Women's outfits were all a variety of the same iterations also. Oh okay, thanks, so what can I do to dress better myself then?
alphamale Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 Oh okay, thanks, so what can I do to dress better myself then? go and buy some nice shirts and pants from the Ralph Lauren counter at Macy's...oh, and nice shoes too
Author ironpony Posted December 27, 2018 Author Posted December 27, 2018 Sure... I mean I could ask for my women friends opinions, but I have before, but they could be just saying that though, so how will I know, if it looks good?
guest569 Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 It all depends on how this is presented. There's a difference between "You need a makeover so I'm buying you a dress and taking you to a make up artist" and "I'm going to spoil you because you deserve it for being a wonderful girlfriend. We're going to have dinner at (restaurant name). I'm going to buy you a dress and have your beautiful features brought out with a make up artist. I'm going to buy a new outfit too so that we can look like the sexiest couple in the restaurant. Let's make this happen." Haha. Second approach is fake and she will see straight through it. Sheesh..
guest569 Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 go and buy some nice shirts and pants from the Ralph Lauren counter at Macy's...oh, and nice shoes too Heels, of course.
preraph Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 I have bad feet and so I really can't wear heels. But there are ways to go about it. One is only wear heels like if you're going to a restaurant and just put the heels on in the car and back into the comfy shoes later. Have him drop you off at the door. That way, you're only in them for 30 feet each way. Other way is only wear them when you're on your back. Heels are torturous. But there are many shoes in between. I actually need arches most of the time and have a real bad knee and limp, so I'm most comfortable in good loafers, ,but I bought a pair of suede burgandy open toe slingbacks with a chunky acrylic fancy heel and I can walk in them a little. The other thing that looks a little better is booties, and they are my new staple. They provide support, have the pointy toe, and you can get no heel or high heel, whatever you can wear. Platforms with height in the front as well as back are actually pretty comfortable and they certainly fulfill the desire for high heels. The height in the front balances out the slant. They're chunky to a degree too. A dressy sandal is sexy, even with just a small heel. By dressy sandal, I don't mean any type of thong. Something a little more strappy.
guest569 Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 This. I am appalled when I see anyone wearing pajamas in public. It looks slovenly and inappropriate. I wear pajamas at home after a workout and a long hot bath. It's especially comforting during the winter. However, I do not make it a habit to wear pajamas at home because I believe that spouses should still try to look nice for each other. I don't need to be dressed to the nines all the time...but I'm sure my hubby likes that I make an effort to look nice for both of us. Kinda irrelevant though. She’s not dressing like a slob, she just doesn’t dress overly feminine. One year and now he wants to change her. Nope. 1
BettyDraper Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 Haha. Second approach is fake and she will see straight through it. Sheesh.. The OP doesn't need to use the exact same wording. He can tailor my words to his situation. Women who have never been treated well in certain ways will find my post ridiculous. Men who are not confident Alpha males will balk.
bathtub-row Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 It has been my observation that a great deal of people are poor dressers, especially young women. This often boggles my mind. Your gf is probably a tomboy and she dresses that way because that’s who she is. Trying to change her won’t work and even if it works for awhile, it won’t last. 2
Author ironpony Posted December 27, 2018 Author Posted December 27, 2018 Oh okay, I just want her to bring out her confidence, if that is what is lacking, but in a good way. But maybe her fashion has nothing to do with confidence or anything. As for high heels, I don't think she needs to wear those particularly to look good. To answer the question, why have I dated her for this long but only asking about this now, I guess it's become more noticeable now, like in pictures together we too and things like that, that I feel she looks tomboy-ish along with me and all that. However, I guess the reason I didn't think of it as much before, is that when we were naked together, she was more attractive with the clothes off, cause the tomboy-ish look doesn't show as much then. So maybe that is what is more important and I should concentrate more on how more attractive I find her when she is naked maybe?
olivetree Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 What is it about the way she dresses that is tomboyish... is it baggy clothes? If so, tell her you love seeing her body in tighter clothes. Compliment her when she wears things you like. Use positive reinforcement. If it's not just the fit of the clothes but wanting her to dress up more, then you could dress up a bit more too (as others have suggested) and she might want to match you. They do say that couples become more like each other as time goes on...
Purepony Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 Does anyone else see the irony here or is it just me ?
BettyDraper Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 Does anyone else see the irony here or is it just me ? I see the irony in the OP dressing very casually while wanting his girlfriend to upgrade her look. I think the OP is willing to change his style though.
olivetree Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 Does anyone else see the irony here or is it just me ? If you are comparing the difference in people's responses to your situation, it's probably the fact that you want to totally change the style of the woman you're seeing after a few dates.
bathtub-row Posted December 27, 2018 Posted December 27, 2018 I personally think you need to up your game in many areas of your life, ironpony. You have aspirations toward being a director but can’t seem to make the leap, your sister’s kids run all over you, and your gf dresses like a tomboy, which you don’t like. You know, in order to reach your goals in life, you might want to examine the things that are really holding you back. You don’t seem to require too much of yourself or of those around you, and you seem to lack a sureness of mind. 2
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