Did this guy have intentions of seeing me again?

[Joyce Simmons]

I went on a date, I met him through a mutual friend. We had good conversations, at the end of the date, he said, “hopefully I’ll see you again, I’ll miss you if I don’t see you.” I’m like Um okay, I mean if he wanted to see me he would. Not say these kind of statements. However he lives in another city for work, so I’m not sure if what he said was acceptable

[Garcon1986]

Well send him something like "let me know when you want to meet up again", and you'll know how dedicated he is by his response.

[PRW]

Whenever you meet someone through a friend it is often because the friends think that you or him, or both, aren't very good at pick-up and getting yourselves into a dating situation. So they are trying to help.

 

His comments sound like he got to the end of the date, was uncomfortable, didn't know what to do or say,...so it all came out as babbling. In other words, when it comes to dating he just doesn't know what he is doing.

 

That doesn't make him bad, it doesn't mean you can't go out with him again, but it means you just have to accept it for what it is. You may have to nudge him over the hump. If you also don't have good dating skills then you are both going to have to put effort into dealing with it. There will be fumbling and mistakes made, but neither of you will learn and get better at it if you don't just do it.

 

On the other hand you have to decide if you are willing to teach a man how to be a man, or forego this and date a guy who already has the stills.

[Lotsgoingon]

If you really liked him, you can reach out to him ... once!

 

He may simply lack social confidence ... wow, those comments of his sound so wishy-washy ... but I think he wants to see you again.

 

If you really liked him and see some potential, no harm in taking the lead to reach out ... if he responds great. If he doesn't, you move on.

 

Good luck.

[Joyce Simmons]

After our first date, he came over and we had sex. Then we saw each other again the next night, he came over and we watched a movie and we had sex again. And before he left thats what he told me. I actually met him at a party at a bar. My friend noticed that he was checking me out and he approached me .

[PRW]

After our first date, he came over and we had sex. Then we saw each other again the next night, he came over and we watched a movie and we had sex again. And before he left thats what he told me. I actually met him at a party at a bar. My friend noticed that he was checking me out and he approached me .

 

That is a totally different scenario than I pictured.

 

I think that was way too much too soon. I generally don't even kiss them on the first date (by choice). I don't think this started on a good foundation,...I don't predict a good future.

[smackie9]

Sounds to me he's just saying what you would like to hear so he can make a dash for the door. You pretty much made yourself into a future booty call if he does see you again when his schedule permits it.

[Giraffe-A]

He’s just trying to be nice, but it seems like he’ll see this as a fun weekend and resume his life as usual. If he calls later down the road, he will probably be expecting only sex. Unless you’re okay with ths, slow down on the sex until you know what they are about.

[alphamale]

looks like he got what he wanted