How can she changed so quickly ?

[kevind3032]

Long story short I'm 23 lived in Australia for 8 years and during that time I been hanging around with a lot of girls and I really enjoyed but went back and living with my family in Vietnam and met this girl and I swear that's probably the first time I fall in love (i think) with this girl (she's 22) we started talking since I met her at a gym where I managing.

 

For the first few weeks, we really draw into each other, she recently moved to my city by herself to work for a skincare brand, We see each other a lot, texting every day and hang out on the weekend since I'm working from 10 am to 10 pm every day except Sunday, sometimes I went to her place which only 10 minutes walk from work to see her, I never felt anything like this before so I don't know how to act around her, but she's fine with me being me, after 3 months I asked her to become my girlfriend and she said yes, everything going smoothly like a normal relationship would be but then suddenly she told me she going to be very busy for the next 2 months with work and I understand because it end of the year thing, so give her space to do her work but still texting her, then slowly she responded less and less till the point she didn't respond to my text at all and its been 2 months like this and im usually the one texting or calling, she's doing sale for her company so she's always online on her facebook. But after the first few weeks, she started texting me less and less till the point ignoring my texts and I'm not sure who in the world is too busy to send a simple "good morning" text so I reassured that she's fine. Seeing her online on facebook now is the only thing I know that she's still alive.

 

I think because of this one time where we just went home from an event and at the event there this guy quite old and famous and she wanted to take a picture with him and the fact that she's very friendly making him think that she's flirting with him, so I told her on the way back home and she got mad and said she wouldn't put herself down for that, but all I'm saying is that be careful with her words cause some people may misunderstand the fact that she's friendly and that night she told me I'm too immature and I should date someone who has the same personality (immature) like me, it caught me off guard because I did try to explain to her. Yes, I do act immature at a time but just to spice thing up between us without any intention of disrespecting her. She took it too seriously and yes that kind of where our relationship went downhill.

 

After that is when she told me that she will be busy with her work which is fine by me, but without talking and communicating with each other it's very hard to keep the relationship and feeling alive. It already hard and feel like a long distance relationship already to me.

 

So I went no-contact for 1 month and but still checking on her from time and try to focus on myself more and be better each day. It's Christmas today so I decided to give her a call in the morning saying Merry Christmas and acting as if nothing wrong with us. She answered and we talked for a bit, checking on each other. She told me it shouldn't be this busy but because she's pushing herself. I told her I miss her a lot, asked if she missed me too and she said "yes". So I went and asked if she still loves me, she said I asked her too sudden and she doesn't know and I shouldn't ask her that yet. She told me she going to be even busier next year so I don't know how to respond to that. Should I keep waiting as what my gut told me or moving on? What're your opinions?

 

 

 

A bit about her: She's very independent which quite intimidate me but doesn't change the fact I fall for her and like her a lot genuinely, She's always trying to please people even though they know what to do, she's very attractive and very outgoing so everywhere she goes people love her, she's always try to please people and her problem is that she can't say no when someone asking for her favor. Her parents just splitted up recently, so she's down and I try to be there for her whenever she needed. She really wants to become successful which is really good but at this point, I have a feeling that she's doing this to prove other that she can be successful on her own without any help and to people who said she can't do it. That's why she pushing herself into work so much that she's stressing herself out and pushing me away. She friended with people who are older than her.

Edited December 25, 2018 by kevind3032

[Indigo.Cranes]

There's a story there and a background history you don't know about...

[kevind3032]

What background history you need to know about ?

[emeraldgreen]

Talk to other girls. She has something else going on.

[smackie9]

She's going to be even busier.....get the hint, that she's not the interested in you anymore. We call this the slow fade. I suggest you move on. Like I always say date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. She's putting in zero effort, dude, what does that tell you?