nowornever1 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 i ran out of options, ive completely lost my mind, im freaking out, im alone, ive given her space, ive begged , ive cried, ive sent her thousands of texts, ive apologized, ive watched every ex back video and read every post on every website. man its Christmas eve and im all alone, i wrote her this poem for her Xmas present, i know it might sound cheesy , please let me know what you think. im not sure if i should hand write it and give it to her next time i see her, or if i should just email her, but here it is i lay here thinking, while im all alone something in my life is missing, but its not unknown i count the stars to pass the time. and hold my breath to clear my mind. i close my eyes and i can feel the pain. a break through my heart that will always remain. i look beside me where you used to lay but now its just empty ,like uve faded away my cheeks are red, from the tears ive cried. but inside im empty, like part of me has died. ive prayed to god to give me a chance but i feel like the devil just continues to dance with out you i feel so ****ing alone my heart has no beat like its lost its tone. i keep my head up and hope you will return but i know a heart is not given, its something that you earn. so for now all i can do is set you free. and if you come back, then it was meant to be. what do you think? ladies would you like this poem if you ex gave it to you, ugh im out of options. i just want my family and my life back:(
Ordinaryday Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 If you want her to possibly call the police on you and tell everyone you have gone insane then yes, send her the the poem. But if your goal is to ever have her speak to you again the DO NOT SEND IT because this poem will tell her that you are unhealthily obsessing over her and you are not in a good spot right now and should be avoided. The best advice is fake it til you make it. Delete her on social media block her number etc and try to meet someone else. If she comes back on her own then great but if she doesn't you may even meet someone better. But if you send her this poem you are shooting yourself in the foot and you will lose the last shred of self respect you have and I PROMISE YOU if you send it later on you will regret it cos nothing good, but lots of bad, will come of it 1
Author nowornever1 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 If you want her to possibly call the police on you and tell everyone you have gone insane then yes, send her the the poem. But if your goal is to ever have her speak to you again the DO NOT SEND IT because this poem will tell her that you are unhealthily obsessing over her and you are not in a good spot right now and should be avoided. The best advice is fake it til you make it. Delete her on social media block her number etc and try to meet someone else. If she comes back on her own then great but if she doesn't you may even meet someone better. But if you send her this poem you are shooting yourself in the foot and you will lose the last shred of self respect you have and I PROMISE YOU if you send it later on you will regret it cos nothing good, but lots of bad, will come of it maybe your right.. the last i tried to get her back was about a month and half ago, ive given her space since then. she texts me like mixed signals, like she seems interested, but when i replied she would go cold. maybe i should just shut myself out from the world. i really dont know. im hurting bad..
Ordinaryday Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 She's giving you mixed signals cos you are allowing her to. You need to be firm. If she initiates contact with you respond by text saying "don't contact me unless it is to unequivocally get back together. I'm dealing with some stuff right now and don't need any distractions" and then don't respond TO ANYTHING FROM HER or don't contact her at all unless she says plainly that she wants to give you another chance. Anything else is just wasting both your time 1
basil67 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 What about that poem do you think would attract her back to you? How does it address the reasons she left?
Author nowornever1 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 What about that poem do you think would attract her back to you? How does it address the reasons she left? thats exactly it, there was no "said" reason, i asked her several times. she just pushed me out. nothing was bad, we were getting along fine , laughing couple things. it seemed to be a chain reaction breakup. all her friends were dumping their boyfriends. even my neighbor across the street got a divorce, then her and all her girlfriend started going over to my neighbors and drank. then she started going there by her self, just to talk to our neighbor and then boom she broke up. i look back and i try and think what i could have done wrong. but really nothing comes to mind, we had sex lots, we got along good, i make good money, i provide, to be honest i think that her ego took over, she started getting so caught up in the social media scene , plus the girls she hangs out with , there nothing but that type of women who will just give approval and agree with negative feelings. i know im heart broke, but really when i think deep, its her loss, im not a bad guy, im not ugly, im not cheap, and im very loyal and faithful. i have no debt, when i look at pros and cons, i carry alot of her wieght, which i didnt mind because thats what partners do, but what ever. if she found someone else, or if shes partying or what ever shes doing, i cant control is. and the poem is just how i feel. has nothing to do with anything, i wrote it, but probly wont send it.
Twizzlestick Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Don’t send that dude. I’m on receiving end of being dumped so know your pain. but don’t send that. Don’t beg or plead anymore. I’m no post break up perfectionist myself. My own mistakes are caving in and allowing her to initiate contact (she wanted to and I stupidly caved) I have never begged or anything or initiated contact myself, but turns out all she wanted by “contact” is to drop pointless statement texts about nothing wishing me well, happy Christmas etc. So I”m knocking that on the head. It worked for five mins. Even something as simple as that makes me feel worthless and rotten. So don’t send a poem mate. That’ll make you feel dire in the long run. Besides which, If you’ve done nothing wrong like cheating etc then you’ve absolutely nothing to apologise or beg for. Dogs who **** on the carpet beg. They want to discard us from their lives. That’s their right and on their heads be it, but you don’t need to beg. I won’t say merry Christmas as we all know how trite that is for us in pain. Ill just say I wish you support and peace at Christmas. Take care.
Chassit Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 You should really go into total and complete NC whether you want her back or not.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 No, I would not like it if an ex sent me such a poem. If I’ve broken up with a guy and he’d already tried every way to get me back and I was still saying no..and then I got that poem? It would do nothing but demonstrate how desperate he is. I don’t mean to be unkind, as it’s clear that you’re hurting very badly. But don’t send that poem. It won’t change anything and will give her fodder to use against you, should she choose to do so.
Gretchen12 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Don't like. It's full of "I", "me", "my". Actually if you think about it, that's what's going on when one person wants the relationship and the other one doesn't. The one begging is trying to bend the other person to his will. It's all about him and what he wants. That's why it doesn't work.
Author nowornever1 Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 Don't like. It's full of "I", "me", "my". Actually if you think about it, that's what's going on when one person wants the relationship and the other one doesn't. The one begging is trying to bend the other person to his will. It's all about him and what he wants. That's why it doesn't work. well i know, i wouldnt say its only about me, i didnt mention, we have a 2 year old daughter, a family, we had a home, a life , maybe i seem needy or desperate which i am, but i grew up without my dad in a broken home, ive seen breakups my entire life, my mom n dad, my mom and her ex husband, i even had one with my ex, i was fully commited in my 7.5 year relationship and she just bailed on me , thats why im so hurt, because its not only me thats affected, its my daughter too. ive still had my child more than half time, i havent been mean or cruel to the mother, im just lost
Cersei Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Sorry you are hurting but post here on this thread all you like. And don't send the poem. Hang in there.
HumanMachine Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Lord almighty. You may as well cut off your testicles and hand them to her whilst you’re at it. DO NOT send the letter!!
preraph Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Well, that's a cheery Christmas present! Look, it's over. Each time you reach out at this point only makes you look pathetic and desperate -- and less and less attractive. You cannot MAKE a woman come back to you. It's not under your control. What she wants for the new year is for you to stop contacting her and move on with your life, I promise. Face reality and if you do, your new year will be better.
elaine567 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Write as many poems as you like it may be cathartic for you to get your feelings down on a page, but DO NOT send any poems to her. She will not appreciate them and they will not persuade her to come back. She will likely feel guilt tripped by them and that may annoy and anger her and have the opposite effect to what you want here. 1
Marc878 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I think your actions have reaffirmed to her you are needy, clingy and weak. If she was having any second thoughts she's long past that now. Next step is probably an harassment or restraining order against you. WTH are you thinking?
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