Lemontea Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I’m not trying to show off. But I'm a decent looking single guy, in decent shape, in my dating prime. Sometimes I would go to a bar that caters to single people where single guys and single girls go to meet someone. Sometimes I would randomly glance at a direction and catch a stranger girl looking at me, and she would usually look away. I'm like 99% certain that she has been looking at me before I catch her. And all the girls that look away don't know me and havn't talked to me before. I don’t specifically pay more attention to girls that I like; It’s my instinct to look at every person regardless of who they are (girls and guys, young and old), because I worked as loss prevention. I notice a trend and that strangers who look away when I catch them are usually girls my age that are light skinned (I'm light skinned myself). To be honest most strangers who look at me are usually either light skinned girls my age, or babies and kids in kindergarten. So what does it mean when girls look away when I catch them? Everyone go to the bar to meet someone, we both probably know what each other is there for, and she is the one looking at me first, and look away when I catch her. Does it mean she is trying to avoid me from going up to them to talk, or does it mean she is shy that I catch her. I'm not showing off, but I'm decent looking and I seriously don't believe that all of them are trying to avoid me. Another thing worth noting is, why is it that all the girls that ever look at me are light skinned girls my age. I bet older girls or guy would look away when I catch them looking too, but they just don’t look at me in the first place.
alphamale Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 they are looking at you because they are attracted to you. a smile combined with eye contact is an invitation to approach
preraph Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I think most women and most men look at and check out every other person in the bar but that doesn't mean they're interested. They're just in the process of looking at different people to see if there's any attraction or maybe they're curious and just watching what they're doing, what they call people watching. When that happens there just making a first pass over you. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 What it means is they are shy ... If they were more confident, they would smile at you when you guys made eye contact. What it also means is that you are not smiling at them ... If you smiled, they would smile back at you most likely. Time to flash your smile a bit more quickly ... or look again in the direction of those women, catch them again and smile and you're in business. You've made some kinda of contact. 1
Author Lemontea Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 I think most women and most men look at and check out every other person in the bar. They're looking to see if there's any attraction or maybe they're curious. Your right. But women look at me way more. I rarely catch men, and I'm pretty good at catching. What it means is they are shy ... What it also means is that you are not smiling at them ... If you smiled, they would smile back at you most likely. Time to flash your smile a bit more quickly. Smile and you're in business. You've made some kinda of contact. Your very right, I never smile. Do women deliberately do indirect things to get a men's attention. Damn I remember something women did, and now I'm starting to think they purposely did it in my line of sight to get my attention and create an opportunity to talk. Like a girl purposely take off her top and underneath was blouse that showed her cleverage. She stood at my line of sight tilting her body 45 degree toward me, giving me a good view. And there were time when I believe girls purposely go to a location near me and made an excuse to initiate a conversation with me.
basil67 Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 If I'm looking at someone and they look back but don't smile, I turn away because I instantly lose interest in them.
PRW Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 How old are you? How much dating experience do you have? How successful have past relationships been?,...how long have they lasted?
Insoc Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 It's common, when they get older they will look longer I'm 50 and I get lot's of looks from young to older females, I noticed some stare and some look quick and glance away, I also see some out of my peripheral vision looking at me when I look away. Best place is the Grocery store, you will walk by them and they will turn their heads to check you out, stealthy but can still see them. They are fast, so you got to be quick lol. Women are more stealth when looking at men it seems where men stare. I even get young girls like old enough to be my daughter staring at me in the Grocery store or at the gym, kinda creepy but times have changed lol. I mean staring, like long looks. Even my Ex would tell me when we go out that woman were checking me out in public, lol I would say really?
Insoc Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 If I'm looking at someone and they look back but don't smile, I turn away because I instantly lose interest in them. You got to smile, it works wonders it's like a dog sniffing another dog's butt lol.
Author Lemontea Posted December 25, 2018 Author Posted December 25, 2018 How old are you? How much dating experience do you have? How successful have past relationships been?,...how long have they lasted? I'm about early 30's. I didn't do much long term relationship. I mostly focus on short term flings.
PRW Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I'm about early 30's. I didn't do much long term relationship. I mostly focus on short term flings. Well there are all kinds of reasons that someone looks away when you look back at them. You are not really asking why they are looking away,...you are asking why they are looking in the first place which is a totally different question. There are probably dozens of reasons people look away when they are noticed looking at you. Not everyone has the same skill at maintaining eye contact. Not looking away after a brief moment can seem rude, antagonistic, or creepy, it doesn't matter who they are looking at. But I think you are way too invested this question. This is more of a "Why is the sky blue?" question type of question. If you want to know why someone was looking at you, or looked away when noticed (two separate things),...then get to know them and find out.
preraph Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 What it means is they are shy ... If they were more confident, they would smile at you when you guys made eye contact. What it also means is that you are not smiling at them ... If you smiled, they would smile back at you most likely. Time to flash your smile a bit more quickly ... or look again in the direction of those women, catch them again and smile and you're in business. You've made some kinda of contact. That's assuming they're interested. I mean, just because you look at people in the bar (which I'm sure you look at all of them), doesn't mean interest.
preraph Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 Your right. But women look at me way more. I rarely catch men, and I'm pretty good at catching. Your very right, I never smile. Do women deliberately do indirect things to get a men's attention. Damn I remember something women did, and now I'm starting to think they purposely did it in my line of sight to get my attention and create an opportunity to talk. Like a girl purposely take off her top and underneath was blouse that showed her cleverage. She stood at my line of sight tilting her body 45 degree toward me, giving me a good view. And there were time when I believe girls purposely go to a location near me and made an excuse to initiate a conversation with me. Why would men be looking at you? I don't check out every woman at a bar, but I will have a look around at all the men just to see what's in there. I'd only look at women to see if friends were there. You can't assume everyone who looks your way is interested. They may be thinking, That guy's pants are too baggy.
PRW Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 I think the point has been missed. The title wasn't "why are they looking at me?",...it was "why do they look away?"
Lotsgoingon Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 That's assuming they're interested. I mean, just because you look at people in the bar (which I'm sure you look at all of them), doesn't mean interest. Actually, if they're not interested, fine ... But the smile or a quick nod is a way to say hello. Nothing lost. And half the time, something gained ... because you can later, if you run into this person, start a conversation ... And a quick smile or nod takes the creepiness out of staring at someone for a moment. I noticed this in ... the grocery store ... Whenever I catch myself staring at someone in the aisles ... could be I'm daydreaming ... could be I'm checking them out ... could be I do think they're gorgeous ... could even be a guy that I just think looks interesting ... if we're making eye contact, I smile and say hello. Tension and creepiness defused. They always say hello and smile in return. 1
alphamale Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 if you're good looking you usually are used to being looked at. they have done studies where small babies look at different adults. the babies make eye contact with and hold eye contact longer with attractive adults.
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 25, 2018 Posted December 25, 2018 It's pretty simple. They are having a look but don't want to be noticed having a look. It's impolite to stare--as many people are taught. Individual reasons vary. The question is if they look again and decide to show sociability. I like it much more when a woman gives me a double-take. Those cashiers and bank tellers who suddenly ignore the person they are serving and quickly look again to be sure it's you. Then you know there is an attraction. Start looking to see if there are engagement rings or wedding bands on their fingers next but be congenial regardless. A man's duty is to put a woman at ease that you're not an effing jerk.
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