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preraph Established Member

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If that’s the case than yeah I’ll pepbably just drop her then because I really can’t stand the look.

 

This has nothing with control or being controlling. I’m usually always wearing a suit and I don’ expect her to match but when I’m wearing a suit and she’s wearing purple pants it really doesn’t mesh.

 

Maybe in your world it does but I was given lemons so I tried making lemonade so if it doesn’t work out I guess I’ll just go to the next

 

I suppose it never occurred to you that YOU could be the one who stopped dressing as formally when with her. But still, I just think this isn't a match. It's about who you are and who she is. Not a match. Sorry.

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PurePony..

Obviously you must think she isn't a good mesh for you and it seems you are going to next her...

 

but...making lemons when given lemonade IMO would be going out and buying YOU a set of purple pants and going out dressed as a matched pair.. bet it would be a fun night...

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Just sharing but I once had a relationship with an adorable Columbian girl. Everything was lovely about her. I decided to take her to a barbecue where all my friends were. They had never seen her. When I picked her up I was pretty horrified. She had red eye shadow on and was dressed like an archetypal Euro-gypsy with what looked like a glass doorknob sticking out of the back of the belt she wore around her waist. Aye carajo! I still took her but OMFG. It was kind of embarrassing. I so wanted to show her off to my friends. The RED over her eyes was freightening.

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Tamfana Established Member

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They’re not tight workout spandex pants like everyone’s thinking. They are cat lady type of pants and I have a great time with her but her style just gets to me

 

She also wears boots like cowboy boots

This isn’t Texas !!

 

Thank you all some great and hilarious answers. You all rock but I still wanna tell her to change her outfits.

 

Be careful about opening the door to criticize each other's looks. It might come back at you double.

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anika99 Established Member

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It seems like that’s the solution to everything.

 

Just let them go and start something new

 

Good advice

 

“My bf doesn’t call”

 

Leave him

 

“My gf doesn’t text me”

 

Leave her

 

Lol

 

“My cat doesn’t eat”

 

Leave him

 

Well yeah. If someone isn't calling me or texting me in the early stages of dating and having an attentive bf is important to me then yes, that would be reason enough to move on. It's not going to get better later on so I would just accept that this isn't the guy for me and leave.

 

As for commenting on how some dresses, I think significant others should be able to voice their likes to their partner but this doesn't sound like a significant other. It sounds like you are dating several others and when it's that casual then I don't think you have any right to tell someone how to dress. Why would you selfishly try to change someone when you don't know if this is going to be a serious thing yet? You think she should want to please you even though at any given moment you could find any number of shallow reasons to dump her. She would be a foolish girl to change how she dresses just for some guy she's had a few dates with.

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I have a feminine personality and interests but a boyish look/way of presenting myself. I’ve had guys ask me to wear heels or dresses or grow my hair longer. I didn’t feel compelled to change them, like they did me. I just nexted them. Why would I want to be with someone who might dig me if only...

 

My current guy is a terrible dresser. Like really terrible. Picture sweatpants with a flannel shirt. I find it adorable and also a reflection of who he is, someone who has no concern for such meaningless shallow things. I really appreciate that. And I think his disinterest probably makes him more open to whatever I want to do style wise.

 

I would never swipe right on a guy who was wearing suits in most of his pics, just like I wouldn’t swipe right on a guy with shirtless selfies. I know I wouldn’t vibe with them. My best friend loves that stuff. It takes all types.

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smackie9 Established Member

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I'm surprise she didn't say "Check out the gag gift my students gave me" instead of wondering around not saying anything about it. Where's the communication?

basil67 Established Member

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It seems like that’s the solution to everything.

 

Just let them go and start something new

 

Good advice

 

“My bf doesn’t call”

 

Leave him

 

“My gf doesn’t text me”

 

Leave her

 

 

Of course. If someone doesn’t text or call, then they aren’t interested.

 

My advice for this would be to accept her style. She’s accepted your suits, so you can accept her boho. If you can’t accept her style, then move on.

 

But making lemonade here is about opening yourself up to diversity. Not about trying to change her

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Purepony Established Member

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Last week you posted about 3 women you were dating...none of which you were especially into.

 

And now you want to tell one to dress differently?

 

Seriously dude...just move on.

 

These are people, not pet projects.

 

 

 

Yes I did but before I just move on I figure i would try.

I mean why move on because of something simple... plus she might change her style

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Purepony Established Member

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PurePony..

Obviously you must think she isn't a good mesh for you and it seems you are going to next her...

 

but...making lemons when given lemonade IMO would be going out and buying YOU a set of purple pants and going out dressed as a matched pair.. bet it would be a fun night...

 

 

 

Hahah okay that made me laugh

 

Haha no I couldn’t even fathom the idea and I’m pretty open minded

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I mean why move on because of something simple... plus she might change her style

 

Asking someone to change their style isn't simple. It can actually be quite offensive. If she likes who she is and how she dresses, expect her to stand her ground.

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elaine567 Established Member

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Your average guy is not known for his sense of style and fashion when it comes to women's clothes.

His critical input is thus not usually welcomed and can annoy and offend.

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I suppose it never occurred to you that YOU could be the one who stopped dressing as formally when with her. But still, I just think this isn't a match. It's about who you are and who she is. Not a match. Sorry.

 

 

 

I’ve considered that and I don’t mind wearing jeans I just can’t get over her style it’s not cute

 

I wear a suit for work but on my days off I wear jeans and it’s atill somewhat average she wears like purple Corduroys ?!??

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Purepony Established Member

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Oh poor you. You always wear a suit and she doesn’t fit your perfect mold.

 

I can’t roll my eyes hard enough at this

 

 

 

How is dressing contemporary a perfect mold ?! I’m not asking for much just some more up to date style.

I mean cowboy boots ?? Purple corduroys??

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Just sharing but I once had a relationship with an adorable Columbian girl. Everything was lovely about her. I decided to take her to a barbecue where all my friends were. They had never seen her. When I picked her up I was pretty horrified. She had red eye shadow on and was dressed like an archetypal Euro-gypsy with what looked like a glass doorknob sticking out of the back of the belt she wore around her waist. Aye carajo! I still took her but OMFG. It was kind of embarrassing. I so wanted to show her off to my friends. The RED over her eyes was freightening.

 

 

 

Yes my brother you understand !!!

 

This is pretty much the same scenario!

 

I just sent my friend a pic and he said she looks like a girl that has a lot of potential if she just got a make over

 

I don’t want to just drop her because I do like her but I guess if I have to I will

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How is dressing contemporary a perfect mold ?! I’m not asking for much just some more up to date style.

I mean cowboy boots ?? Purple corduroys??

 

Asking someone to change their style is asking a LOT.

 

And your request is for her to change from her indie style (and I would lay money that she's a thrift shopper) to being Miss Conformist.

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losangelena Established Member

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How is dressing contemporary a perfect mold ?! I’m not asking for much just some more up to date style.

I mean cowboy boots ?? Purple corduroys??

 

Did ... did she wear clothes when you first met her? If her style is so hideous to you, how did you get past it in the first place? Did you not realize the extent of her bohemian style at first?

 

If you prefer women who adopt a more feminine style, why choose someone who doesn’t fit that mold from the drop? It’s not like she used to dress one way and now isn’t. You knew what you were getting into with her. There’s not much use in complaining about it if you knew this was her style of dress going in.

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Yes my brother you understand !!!

 

This is pretty much the same scenario!

 

I just sent my friend a pic and he said she looks like a girl that has a lot of potential if she just got a make over

 

I don’t want to just drop her because I do like her but I guess if I have to I will

I didn't learn how to dress until I turned into early 30's. When I was 25 I took out a date wearing wine red corduroys, a powder blue hoodie and light natural leather colored suede shoes. I wouldn't be caught dead in such a getup now. Maybe this g/f needs some fashion advice. See if you can get someone to play cupid for you and wise her up.

preraph Established Member

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I’ve considered that and I don’t mind wearing jeans I just can’t get over her style it’s not cute

 

I wear a suit for work but on my days off I wear jeans and it’s atill somewhat average she wears like purple Corduroys ?!??

 

Women wear color -- and honestly, most men like that.

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How is dressing contemporary a perfect mold ?! I’m not asking for much just some more up to date style.

I mean cowboy boots ?? Purple corduroys??

 

Ultra violet IS up to date. The models walked down the Milan runways in Pantone 2018 color of the year: Ultra violet. And yes, baggy pants with cowboy boots.

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edgygirl Established Member

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For some reason I can't help but reading your name as Purplepony :laugh:

 

Come on... she's probably artistic / alternative / goth / whatever, and you're mainstream.

 

I wouldn't want to be with someone who cannot "get" me. Clothing is an expression of who you are as a person.

 

Unless she's none of the above and just genuinely has terrible taste. In that case, you can always work on it IF and WHEN you are in a real relationship. My sis claims to have "fixed" her husband's wardrobe. 30 years later, she still buys all his clothes, and he's actually quite happy about that.

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That being said, I once told this guy I was dating his clothes were terribly ill fitting. He was a lawyer and had like 200 suits, none of which fit him! They were all double his size and had a weird, non complimenting cut! He was super in shape, so I found it weird he would wear clothes that didn't show it.

 

I waited a little, maybe 2 months and then I told him, very respectfully. He didn't mind, he welcomed my thoughts as I'm in the design world and I believe I do have what most people would consider good taste. Later he even asked me to look into all of his wardrobe and explain what was wrong with it.

 

But as he didn't ever make it official between us, I wasn't going to provide "free" consulting for someone who is not my official boyfriend. His loss, lol :D

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Marc878 Established Member

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Meanwhile somewhere in the world a girl in purple pants and cowboy boots is saying to her friends " this guy I'm dating dresses like ****" OMFG it's just horrible !!!!!!

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:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

 

Meanwhile somewhere in the world a girl in purple pants and cowboy boots is saying to her friends " this guy I'm dating dresses like ****" OMFG it's just horrible !!!!!!
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Meanwhile somewhere in the world a girl in purple pants and cowboy boots is saying to her friends " this guy I'm dating dresses like ****" OMFG it's just horrible !!!!!!

 

I doubt it all my suits are tailored and look great

 

I get compliments all the time

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