leeroy1985 Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 The problem is me and my girlfriend seem to keep arguing but it gets nasty and i dont know whats happened to us/me. Weve been together 5 month and i love her so much... all our friends were jealous of us because we were so good together but the past month all we seem to do is argue and whats worse is i think its my fault I Seem to be picking her up on the littlest things like when i ask what time she wants picking up she'll say "i dont mind" then im like "F**K SAKE, why cant you just give a time?" its like i cant help it and ive never been like it before.... ever! The thing is that ive never properly been in love and with her i am and its great but just recently i seem to have inherited some kind of evil powers and i dont want them, what can i do? Basically i think it is 95% my fault... she says she darn't say anything to me because ill shout but i dont want her to tiptoe around me i want her to be the girl i fell in love with. I always wanted to be her perfect boyfriend and it hurts me that im putting her through what her past boyfriends did and i know im not like that i just dont know what has come over me!!! Do i need to chill out more? We cant talk about it because it just causes arguements. Im going to see her at 12pm today to decide wether we should stay together, natrually i want to and i think she'll want to but what can i do to get back to my normal, fun loving, good-to-be-with self? HELP!!!!!
LittleMiss Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Well, if you are reacting to her the way you said you did when you asked her what time to pick her up then I think you have issues. Seems like you're getting ticked off easily over something that would normally be nothing. Has anything changed with you recently? Has she been different towards you or something? There has to be a reason for your behavior to change in such a negative way towards her.
Art_Critic Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 I lost a gf I cared alot for about a year ago because I was short tempered with her and was starting little fights over nothing. when she brought it to my attention I immediatly saw the problem but didn't know how to handle fixing it so i went to a therapist for 4-5 sessions and what i learned changed my life. I learned that I was super stressed out over work ( I was working in excess of 80 hrs a week on a short term project ) and I was also bothered by some of the changes I noticed in her personality throught the last couple of months. Now here is the kicker.. I didn't not exercise at all and I was drinking 6-8 cokes a day. The therapist had me start power walking 3 miles a day and totally remove ALL caffeine from my diet. It worked.. but it did take about 45 days for everything that I was doing to change my stress level and affect my quick temper. We did break up and to this day I have alway's felt like such a dope because I didn't ssee how to fix it sooner. But Today my quick temper is under control and the future gf's I have are benefiting from what I learned Look at your diet and excercise and well as how much stress you have in your life to be the key to changing your reactions to her
JS17 Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 The problem is me and my girlfriend seem to keep arguing but it gets nasty and i dont know whats happened to us/me. Weve been together 5 month and i love her so much... all our friends were jealous of us because we were so good together but the past month all we seem to do is argue and whats worse is i think its my fault she says she darn't say anything to me because ill shout but i dont want her to tiptoe around me This sounds exactly like my relationship with my ex (minus his taking responsibility for yelling at me). He did the same thing. You can't control your feelings or emotions but you can learn to control your reactions. Art had some good advice. Try thinking for 3 seconds before you respond to her. Also, telling her that you realize that you're out of line and that you're trying to work on it will do wonders for your relationship. Ask her to help you learn and to have her tell you when she thinks you're saying something out of line....also APOLOGIZE when you yell at her.
Author leeroy1985 Posted September 15, 2005 Author Posted September 15, 2005 Well, if you are reacting to her the way you said you did when you asked her what time to pick her up then I think you have issues. Seems like you're getting ticked off easily over something that would normally be nothing. Has anything changed with you recently? Has she been different towards you or something? There has to be a reason for your behavior to change in such a negative way towards her. I have been getting p*ssed off with my life as a whole lately because ive just passed my driving test and the insurance is making me a little short on cash so im giving up going out every friday and saturday to pay for my car then the other week i get caught speeding (only 34mph in a 30mph zone! ) i cant do anything right because sh*t keeps going wrong. And as for her she hasnt really changed much except for one little thing.... when we were first together we had sex at every oportunity, she couldnt keep her hand off me.... now im lucky if its twice a week. Im not saying i want her just for sex because i dont but maybe shes like this because of my temper? Not sure!
darkie-dude Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 There comes to a stage where saying nothing is best. If you are yelling at her all the time take a step back and some time apart. Or else you will loser her for good
JS17 Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Stop with the misplaced agression BS and she'll want to have sex with you.
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