h20-50 Posted December 23, 2018 Posted December 23, 2018 So I met her when she dated my friend for 1.5 months, and I use the term “dating” loosely here. She always talked bad about him. She and I were together for a year and a half. She has never once reached out to me, I was NC from day one, but she contacted him. WT ever loving F! Meaningless contact , “I hope this finds you well” with a video attached to something that means something to him. Help me understand this BS. My mind is bogged and blown here.
Marc878 Posted December 23, 2018 Posted December 23, 2018 You don't need to try and understand it. Stay nc and quit giving her any headspace.
FMW Posted December 23, 2018 Posted December 23, 2018 Impossible to know why, don't make yourself crazy trying to figure it out. Maybe your relationship with her was long enough to run its course and she knows there is no reason for further contact. Maybe since her relationship with him was brief and undeveloped she still has curiosity and doesn't have anything else going on right now and is just putting out breadcrumbs to see what they might bring in. Again, who knows, but your relationship with her ended for a reason so you are almost certainly better off NOT getting any breadcrumbs from her.
preraph Posted December 23, 2018 Posted December 23, 2018 She's done with you and probably doesn't take the friend seriously enough to matter whether she talks to him or not. The key phrase here is she's done with you and you need to move on. Don't waste your life waiting for people who don't want you.
Author h20-50 Posted December 24, 2018 Author Posted December 24, 2018 You guys are right. She doesn’t even live in this state, and she has never reached out since day one, neither have I. She walked away without so much as a discussion as to what the issue was, emotionless and no fuqs given. A simple I changed my mind and can’t do this from her. So I couldnt help as to be curious why she could reach out to someone who never meant crap, and she always talked bad about, as opposed to someone who meant everything for a year and a half until the day she walked away. Anyways guess I would be lying if I wasn’t hoping for an apology someday, but hope is futile and probably keeps a little bit of me vested in what is long since dead.
Giraffe-A Posted December 24, 2018 Posted December 24, 2018 There’s a red flag rule out there about staying away from people that talk bad about their exes and spouses. Whatever happened between you two is fresh, even given the year.The fling with your friend was brief and she may either had forgotten she spoke bad about him, or maybe didn’t even mean it to begin with. No answer will be satisfactory to you. Only thing you can do is watch her get burned on her own.
Author h20-50 Posted December 24, 2018 Author Posted December 24, 2018 There’s a red flag rule out there about staying away from people that talk bad about their exes and spouses. Whatever happened between you two is fresh, even given the year.The fling with your friend was brief and she may either had forgotten she spoke bad about him, or maybe didn’t even mean it to begin with. No answer will be satisfactory to you. Only thing you can do is watch her get burned on her own. Completely agree, don’t think I was looking for answers even though I asked for them. I really wanted to vent. It pissed me off even though it shouldn’t. As someone pointed out above I gave her too much head space. I thought this all passed 3 or 4 months ago but hearing this resurfaced some feelings I thought had passed.
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