fred123 Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 had lunch with my girl mate yesterday and she said that if she hasnt been introduced to her boyfriends friends or/and family withing first 3 months or so something is off and she probably would stop dating them. thoughts?
darkmoon Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 what happened to her that makes her so certain of this? I think she is onto something, if she wants a serious couple situation, yes, introductions but what happened? genuinely interested here 1
Author fred123 Posted December 22, 2018 Author Posted December 22, 2018 what happened to her that makes her so certain of this? I think she is onto something, if she wants a serious couple situation, yes, introductions but what happened? genuinely interested here we just met for lunch and generally talking about this. she says if someone hasnt done that then sonethings fishy. she told me she has always met friends pretty soon so hasnt been an issue with her. was just discussing my situations. she wouldnt personally date a guy who hasnt introduced them to friends
Saracena Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 Whatever about family, I would expect to be introduced to friends fairly early on-as has been the case so far in virtually all my relationships. Most I've met in the first week! In my experience partners who are proud of you want to show you off! Yes, and at three months I would most certainly be wondering why I'm being hidden! Or what he's hiding....
Author fred123 Posted December 22, 2018 Author Posted December 22, 2018 Whatever about family, I would expect to be introduced to friends fairly early on-as has been the case so far in virtually all my relationships. Most I've met in the first week! In my experience partners who are proud of you want to show you off! Yes, and at three months I would most certainly be wondering why I'm being hidden! Or what he's hiding.... true i will be having these rules and boundaries from now. quick question. does this apply from when u first start seeing each other yh?
d0nnivain Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 Everybody has different boundaries for themselves. I would say it depends. I expect to meet somebody connected to my SO. I don't want to feel like I'm being kept apart. I would find it off that somebody had no friends but when I first started dating DH his entire immediate family lived a plane ride away so some 3 month deadline would have been pointless. I did meet some buddies & 2 aunts rather quickly. He met my parents & childhood friends in the 1st month
Author fred123 Posted December 22, 2018 Author Posted December 22, 2018 Everybody has different boundaries for themselves. I would say it depends. I expect to meet somebody connected to my SO. I don't want to feel like I'm being kept apart. I would find it off that somebody had no friends but when I first started dating DH his entire immediate family lived a plane ride away so some 3 month deadline would have been pointless. I did meet some buddies & 2 aunts rather quickly. He met my parents & childhood friends in the 1st month this rule applies to when u are exclusive and in a rship? or even if ur just going on dates in the beginning. i mean is from 3 months since first date or first kiss? so how would one navigate through this minefield donnvan?
d0nnivain Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 It's not a minefield. You are psyching yourself out & grasping for ridged rules. . . do this in this order & you will find true love. It doesn't work like that Every situation is different. People change & people are different. How you interact with one will vary from how you deal with somebody else. Think about how different your relationships with various family members are You have to treat people like individuals but you still have to be true to yourself & have boundaries. If somebody doesn't treat you well, speak up. If you want something to change, change it.
Ronni_W Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 does this apply from when u first start seeing each other yh?I would say, as a general guideline, at the latest, from when you 'make it official' that you are exclusive...with the caveat that you also need to apply your personal intuition and discernment; situations and experiences are unique to each person.
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