reepokid Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 Had the best first date ever! Saw this woman on a dating site, but we knew eachother. Went to school together as kids and she's friends with one of my friends. Anyway we went out, went to a few bars and had dinner and talked for like 6 hours. i've been on a ton of dates so I know the bad vibes. This had amazing vibes. We said goodnight, and she texted me the next morning saying she wanted to see me again. This was over the weekend. We planned on hanging tonight, and I was so excited. But she texted last minute to say she had to stay late at work and couldn't make it. Now i'm overthinking things and thinking she's on another online date, or just isn't as interested as I thought. Should I just take her for her word and not worry about it?
Giraffe-A Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 Relax. Did she offer to reschedule the date? She may feel a little weird about dating someone from her past with mutual friends. Take it slow and dont read much into it. If she doesn’t schedule a new date this week, you can reach out and invite her out yourself.
Author reepokid Posted December 21, 2018 Author Posted December 21, 2018 She didn't reschedule the date yet. And i'm definitely overthinking the hell out of this. Oof.
Lotsgoingon Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 You're not overthinking ... Dude, you got canceled on at the last minute by someone you just had an amazing date with. What? Are you supposed to figure out this surprise and disappointing move without thinking? Impossible. She canceled. It's up to her to now come back to you with an explanation (a trust repair), so that you feel comfortable going forward. Right now there's a collision inside of you ... the wonderful feelings from the date ... and all those hopes ... colliding with the "did she just casually diss me?" That's inner conflict brother, on account of two wildly conflicting pieces of data. So of course, your brain is thinking ... intensely thinking ... to try to resolve this conflicting information. Hope you hear from her. I, in your situation, would probably NOT reach out to her first. I'd let her come to me. 2
Logo Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 If things are meant to be, they're meant to be. Just take it easy and let her reach out to you first like Lotsgoingon said.
lovenoobi Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 Congrats on having a great first date! It’s a start at least. However I also think it’s best to still keep your expectations low. From my own experience (although mine was a little complicated & I think I stuffed up), online dating is just so hard to continue. It’s so easy to log on/open the app and see what other options are available. No one has made any significant investment and you literally start off as strangers so there’s rly no commitment either. Hence it’s so easy to pull out when something doesn’t feel as perfect I wish you well but try not to worry as worrying can’t change anything.
Mrs._December Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 I'm getting the feeling that a better offer came up and she took it. Otherwise, she likely would have said that she can't meet you tonight because she can't get out of work, but would you want to meet her later after work, or reschedule for tomorrow night? I'm just being honest, but if I really wanted to see someone, I would have given those two options to him. 1
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