Am I in love with this girl?

[sambeldent]

Hey, people, I'm new here.

 

So this is my story. Two days ago the daugher of a friend of my mom's had to stay the night in my house. Before she arrived to my house I thought she'd be some 40-ish old woman. When she arrived I couldn't believe it, she's a 20 year old beautiful and very hot girl, I got surprised this girl was gonna stay the night at my house.

 

That night she sent me all the signals (you know what I mean), I saw that she had an interest in me as well.

 

She, my mom and I had dinner, then I told her to watch a movie on the TV, my mom watched it with us for like half hour and then left to her room to sleep, it was my time to make a move, I was sure she was into me, so just the classic "are you cold?" was enough to hug her, and we held hands. After some minutes we started kissing, it felt so good, she was really into it, she was so shy and laughing, she was scared that my mom would come out and she said "okay that's it", then kissed me the **** out again, then said "your mom may come here, wait", then lovely kissed me again, she was so nervous but she wanted it, it was just beautiful.

 

I'll be honest, I wanted to take her to the room and have sex, but she was so scared that my mom would wake up, it disappointed me but I understood.

 

Important fact. I have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend, and we're not completely fulfilled with those relationships.

 

She gave me her number, we talked for a while, then went to sleep in separate rooms (my mom, you already know...). She had to take a flight to her hometown the next day. I took her to the airport, we held hands, kissed and talked throughout the way and the time we were at the airport, we looked like a real couple, I loved it.

 

Unfortunately, I can't text her, she could text me when she was at my house but her messages won't get to her phone. It's weird because she wanted me to have her number and texted me first before going to sleep. The thing is that I feel impotent for not being able to text her. And most importantly... I can't stop thinking about her, she just won't get out of my head and I'm going crazy. I go to the gym, and I can't forget about her even though I'm there doing exercise. I don't even pay much attention to my current girlfriend because of this.

 

She'll come back soon, but that's not the deal. The thing is that I'm not half the person I used to be, I'm here and I'm not at the same time, I can only think of her, dream of her... oh, and get sad because of her, for not being with her.

 

And my question is... am I in love with this person? Even though I met her just two days ago? Or is it that I miss her kisses and her affection? And that the room she used still smells like her? Why do I feel like this? What is being in love? Has this ever happened to you?

 

If read the whole thing, thank you, even if you don't answer, thank you for your time.

[preraph]

You're in lust, not love. You have to know a person to be in love. You better chill out until you find out if she's going right back to having her boyfriend and remember, if she'll do it for you, she'll do it to you (going behind her man's back).

[olivetree]

You met her two days ago.

No, you're not in love.

 

Break up with your gf.

She deserves better.

 

You and this other cheater, however, do deserve each other.

[sambeldent]

You're in lust, not love. You have to know a person to be in love. You better chill out until you find out if she's going right back to having her boyfriend and remember, if she'll do it for you, she'll do it to you (going behind her man's back).

 

I think you're right, I just looked for the signs of being in lust and it's totally me right now. Thank you.

[frankspeci]

I'm guessing you're 20ish as well? You're definitely not in love. You might have felt a strong spark and the excitement of forbidden romance and of course unexpected surprise of being introduced to a hot girl, but given how briefly you've interacted I couldn't call that love.

 

I reccomend applying more self control and decency when you are faced with a temptation to break a commitment you've made. You're young and still have time to grow and date but cheating isnt a good habit to get into imo.

Edited December 23, 2018 by frankspeci

[Kelliousme]

You met her two days ago.

No, you're not in love.

 

Break up with your gf.

She deserves better.

 

You and this other cheater, however, do deserve each other.

 

YUPPPP

 

you don't love her. You barely know anything about her. But yes, you should break up with your girlfriend and go after this girl because you two deserve each other and your current girlfriend deserves better.

[See-Me-Feel-Me]

I don't like calling it "lust". IT's the feeling of WANT. You experienced something terrific and you WANT it again. The big thing is that once you HAVE what you've wanted, will you continue to WANT it? Or will you start WANTING the memory of it or will you start losing value for it and wanting someone else. This is where LOVE comes in. Once you start having what you want, you'll start finding if there is a bond or not in which there is happiness with the person between the ecstasies. You'll want for her company, want for her manner, her wit, etc.If you start finding that she is about herself and has satisfied her want for what she thought you were you'll start to know it's not a love affair. Maybe this was the start of the love of your life. But be careful not to jump all in on that assumption. It's just WANT right now. Wait until you HAVE and HAVE and then see if the WANT still drives your feelings and hers.

[Giraffe-A]

This is not love at all. You’re physically attracted to the girl, she left you wanting more, and that’s enough to get your mind racing. Are you in a hurry to break up with your gf? Is she? She started this way with you, what do you think she will do in someone’s else’s house given the opportunity?