Author MrMelvinJUdall Posted December 21, 2018 Author Posted December 21, 2018 This is what I see....you both didn't want to end the relationship...yes that's right. She dressed to kill you because she is butt hurt you ended it. She's rubbing it in your face and causing crap with you GF. Your ex KNOWS her sexy appearance smashed your brain. Her back to you made you feel rejected, just like how her coldness in the relationship did..and you struggled with that. Nothing else mattered at the moment when she did that. The issue is, you want answers. Why did she treat you so bad in the relaitonship, why does she treat you so bad still, etc You never got closure. Go back to therapy and work it out. I think every word of this is accurate.
Author MrMelvinJUdall Posted December 21, 2018 Author Posted December 21, 2018 Was she aware of why you finished it? I don't know. I kept trying to talk about it when we were breaking up and she resisted, didn't seem to want to hear the "why" of it all.
kendahke Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 This isn't something I planned, or quite honestly even knew was there. I spent six months following the relationship in therapy, journaling, being by myself, trying to get the old relationship out of my system. but here you are, ogling and pining after your ex and playing your new girlfriend off. I honestly had no reason to think that I wasn't over her … until I saw her. It's not as if I've been sitting up nights for the past year pining over the old relationship. I've been fully invested in the current one, until this past week when the past kind of reared its ugly head again. If nothing was still there, seeing her wouldn't have caused you to disrespect this new woman by allowing your ex this much real estate in your place of intimacy, where she no longer belongs. I wouldn't call my current relationship a distraction at all. I totally would. That's exactly what she's been--because those feelings that reared their ugly head last week wouldn't have taken you on a trip out to the Oort cloud and back like they have---they'd have been buried to the point that only indifference and pity would be all you could muster. I would say that what worries me is I'll never be completely over this woman, if I did all that work and waited all this time and she still has that effect on me, that's worrisome. I'm not consumed by it, but this is the first time in my life (*I'm 44) that I've had something like this happen and I'm not sure what to do. Finding a more effective therapist would be first on my list. Committing to longer than 6 months of consistent therapy to pull all of that out by the roots would be #2.
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