Author thr1986 Posted December 21, 2018 Author Posted December 21, 2018 I’m just having trouble knowing when to text her and reach out. Like today for example we don’t have plans to see one another. But, should I text her to say hi this evening? I haven’t heard from her and it seems weird to let a night go by without talking
PinkPampies Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 If you don’t seriously relax and stop questioning everything from what to write on a note to if and when you should text her, you’re going to blow it. Trust and believe, she can sense your insecurities and that will turn her off fast enough to make your head spin. Don’t project, don’t expect... just date and get to know each other. It’s pretry simple. Let her GET to know you.
lucky-girl Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 Sounds to me like maybe she's a little nervous because it has gone so well, so fast. If that goes against your expectations it can make you doubt things as it seems too good to be true. (Been there) On the other hand you may be reading too much into everything and over analyzing. As one partner becomes more comfortable in a relationship they might make contact a little less often. They might express their feelings or give compliments less often because they feel they'd just be repeating themselves. The other partner, perhaps less secure in this relationship, fearing the loss of it searches for signs of things going downhill and fear makes them interpret nearly everything as bad news (just as fear made you interpret the dark shapes in your bedroom as monsters when you were a child). (Done that) Your fear is robbing you of your happiness right now. Focus on the positive and don't listen to the negative thoughts. Easier said than done, I know! Perhaps when you find yourself worrying too much go and do something that will occupy your mind before your worry spirals out of control. Have faith in your relationship but just take it as it comes. Enjoy it for whatever it is. Good luck!
Author thr1986 Posted December 21, 2018 Author Posted December 21, 2018 Sounds to me like maybe she's a little nervous because it has gone so well, so fast. If that goes against your expectations it can make you doubt things as it seems too good to be true. (Been there) On the other hand you may be reading too much into everything and over analyzing. As one partner becomes more comfortable in a relationship they might make contact a little less often. They might express their feelings or give compliments less often because they feel they'd just be repeating themselves. The other partner, perhaps less secure in this relationship, fearing the loss of it searches for signs of things going downhill and fear makes them interpret nearly everything as bad news (just as fear made you interpret the dark shapes in your bedroom as monsters when you were a child). (Done that) Your fear is robbing you of your happiness right now. Focus on the positive and don't listen to the negative thoughts. Easier said than done, I know! Perhaps when you find yourself worrying too much go and do something that will occupy your mind before your worry spirals out of control. Have faith in your relationship but just take it as it comes. Enjoy it for whatever it is. Good luck! Luckygirl, that is such great advice. Thank you so much. I think you are spot on.
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