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So I’ve been dating a man for about 2 months now and things have been going pretty well. We see each other 1-2x week and talk daily. I’m supposed to meet his family over the holidays and we are spending New Years together. We’ve also met some of each other’s friends. At this point we haven’t yet had sex or had the conversation to define the relationship.

 

Yesterday I noticed he and his ex from over four years ago refollowed each other on Instagram. We went out last night and everything seemed normal, and he kept telling me he couldn’t wait for me to meet his family.

 

Do you guys think I’m overreacting? Or should I be concerned?

 

Thanks in advance

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It's social media. You are over reacting.

 

Go. Meet his family. Enjoy your NYE date. Keep an eye on him & his EX but if they aren't constant, leave it alone.

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I would personally bothered by that. I know it’s social media, but he basically “reconnected” with her. Now he’s going to be looking at her pictures. Why would he do that? She’s an ex for a Reason and now he’s going to be looking at her life again and so she is. I don’t know, pretty soon they will start commenting and possibly direct messaging on there. No reason at all to be connected again.

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dating a man for about 2 months now. At this point we haven’t yet had sex or had the conversation to define the relationship.

 

Are you certain he views you as a romantic partner and not just a buddy he hangs out with?

 

I would think that if you two had connection, him following his ex would be the last thing he'd be doing about now, as this is the honeymoon "can't get enough of you" phase.

 

I'm curious though: how did you "notice" they're following one another?

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Yes, you are over reacting.

 

All my past dates are still on my social media. I'm still on good terms with all of them. I don't hide the fact that they are on my SM,...nor do I brag about it. It is just neutral.

 

If someone was to dump you and go back to an Ex there is nothing you can do about it anyway. Don't blame someone for doing something they haven't done yet. Don't accuse someone of doing something that you think they might do.

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If he isn't acting differently then I wouldn't worry about it. Keep your eyes peeled for a couple of days you just never know... Depending on the exclusively of the relationship, maybe ask him about it? If you do, don't come across as it its a big deal since it is such a new, fresh relationship.

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Thanks everyone.

 

I’m pretty sure he views me as a romantic partner. He tells me I’m pretty and how much he likes me and the things he wants to do with me in the future.

 

We had a discussion on sex and he told me that he doesn’t want to rush into things physically (ie sex) cause he has in the past and it hasn’t worked out. But we’ve done some other things.

 

I found out cause I check my Instagram feed and noticed he started following her. He did tag me in something earlier, which she could see if she was paying attention, so I guess that’s a good thing

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These are all good signs. Try to not over think it, enjoy the holidays with him :)

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But what if the ex is posting sexy bikini pictures of her on the beach and he likes all of them? Wouldn’t you be bothered by that?

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But what if the ex is posting sexy bikini pictures of her on the beach and he likes all of them? Wouldn’t you be bothered by that?

 

I mean, wouldn’t anyone? I guess I don’t understand your point here?

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I mean, wouldn’t anyone? I guess I don’t understand your point here?

 

I don’t know, I guess I’m going against what the majority of people are saying that it’s no big deal that he’s following an ex on Instagram . From my point of view an EX is an ex and no reason to be connected to them on social media even if social media seems dumb. I think it means something when someone is following an ex all of a sudden? I mean , say I was following an ex on Instagram and he blocked me, doesn’t than mean that wants nothing to do with me? But more likely he will answer my texts? No, I don’t think so. That’s just what I think that’s all. Maybe I’m wrong

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From my point of view an EX is an ex and no reason to be connected to them on social media even if social media seems dumb.

 

Well, I don't have Instagram. I got rid of Twitter & Gab.ai. Pretty much just FB now and I barely touch it. So I avoided all those big "important" philosophical questions:D

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Thanks everyone.

 

I’m pretty sure he views me as a romantic partner. He tells me I’m pretty and how much he likes me and the things he wants to do with me in the future.

 

We had a discussion on sex and he told me that he doesn’t want to rush into things physically (ie sex) cause he has in the past and it hasn’t worked out. But we’ve done some other things.

 

I found out cause I check my Instagram feed and noticed he started following her. He did tag me in something earlier, which she could see if she was paying attention, so I guess that’s a good thing

 

Like I said in my last post:

I would think that if you two had connection, him following his ex would be the last thing he'd be doing about now, as this is the honeymoon "can't get enough of you" phase.

 

I don't care what his reasons are: the fact is you two are in a new relationship that he doesn't want to mess up, but he's again following his ex on Instagram. And she's following him again. That means for some time they weren't following one another, but after he gets with you, that comes to mind?

 

That's the disconnect that's glaring at me from this.

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Like I said in my last post:

 

 

I don't care what his reasons are: the fact is you two are in a new relationship that he doesn't want to mess up, but he's again following his ex on Instagram. And she's following him again. That means for some time they weren't following one another, but after he gets with you, that comes to mind?

 

That's the disconnect that's glaring at me from this.

 

Yeah, I mean, that’s my concern as well. I have randomly gotten in contact with an ex years later and he was married and added me back on social media, but there was nothing shady going on. Loved his wife and family, so I guess it is possible.

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Yeah, I mean, that’s my concern as well. I have randomly gotten in contact with an ex years later and he was married and added me back on social media, but there was nothing shady going on. Loved his wife and family, so I guess it is possible.

 

anything is possible.... the question is: is it probable?

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anything is possible.... the question is: is it probable?

 

I would hope he’s being straightforward and genuine. Everything thus far has led me to believe he really likes me; so I’m hoping that it’s harmless.

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