toomanyquestions123 Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 (edited) Sooooo, a little background on how Tinder works in the middle east, especially in my country: Tinder is for HOOKUPS only and all the horny guys are there. On Saturday night, i was feeling very lonely and sad from my previous dating experience ( in my previous post ), created an account on Tinder to see what is in there, while I was swiping left the whole time, I swiped right a guy that seemed normal to me. He messaged me and we spend the whole Sunday talking. He seemed a decent guy, handsome, funny. Anw, at the end of the day, i told him that Tinder is not my thing and i will delete my account now. He then gave me his number if i would like to chat with him on whatsapp. I texted him, he told me that he also deleted his account just now. The next day, I told him that i dont think things will work out because the way we met is weird and i wouldnt tell my kids i met your father on Tinder ( the sex app in my region ). He said okay and goodnight. The very next day( yesterday ), I received very expensive orchids at my workplace with a card attached with this note: " This is for the long day you had, i couldnt catch you in between the crowd yesterday and I am glad you gave me the name of the place you work in. I am going to leave my number just in case *inserts number*. Day 1 all over again". That was his way to start all over again as if we didnt meet on tinder but instead met in a place we both go to regularly. Found it really cute. Texted him thank you and now we re chatting the whole time. What do you think ? Im not intending to hookup with anyone if that what he thinks it is. Although I told him that and he was like jeez who said i just want to do that with you... Edited December 19, 2018 by toomanyquestions123
elaine567 Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 IF Tinder in the Middle East is a purely hook up app then why were you on it and why was this guy on it. Again you have managed to find a guy looking for NSA sex and are putting your own spin on him. He will no doubt get all excited about bedding a virgin and he will bail when he realises you are serious when you say you will only have sex within marriage... History repeating. 2
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted December 19, 2018 Author Posted December 19, 2018 IF Tinder in the Middle East is a purely hook up app then why were you on it and why was this guy on it. Again you have managed to find a guy looking for NSA sex and are putting your own spin on him. He will no doubt get all excited about bedding a virgin and he will bail when he realises you are serious when you say you will only have sex within marriage... History repeating. Haha, It is mainly for sex, i was there out of boredom and he said he was there to look for someone "honest and decent". I told him i dont do that, i dont sleep with guys.
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted December 19, 2018 Author Posted December 19, 2018 IF Tinder in the Middle East is a purely hook up app then why were you on it and why was this guy on it. Again you have managed to find a guy looking for NSA sex and are putting your own spin on him. He will no doubt get all excited about bedding a virgin and he will bail when he realises you are serious when you say you will only have sex within marriage... History repeating. Simply if he was on Tinder, he can sleep with a lot of girls that are there for that. Why would he chase someone who is not into that while he can have it the easy way there ? 1
Ronni_W Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 The very next day( yesterday ), I received very expensive orchids at my workplace with a card attached with this note: " This is for the long day you had, i couldnt catch you in between the crowd yesterday and I am glad you gave me the name of the place you work in. I am going to leave my number just in case *inserts number*. Day 1 all over again". Even if it was very inexpensive flowers...if you like him and feel any type of connection, then I would give him a chance and at least meet him for lunch or a beverage, (and I would tell the kids that "I met your father in a place we both [went] to regularly." .) I think a person who was really just looking for a sex hook-up -- and had the opportunity with a lot of other 'Tinder' girls -- wouldn't go to all this trouble. 2
elaine567 Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 Simply if he was on Tinder, he can sleep with a lot of girls that are there for that. Why would he chase someone who is not into that while he can have it the easy way there ? Challenge, and if he is getting sex elsewhere he can afford to wait... 2
MaleIntuition Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 Great double standards you have. Just go on a date with him in a public place and see who he is. 3
BaileyB Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 Haha, It is mainly for sex, i was there out of boredom and he said he was there to look for someone "honest and decent." Sure, he was... IF you want to meet him, go ahead and meet him. Just be clear with him about your intentions. It's not exactly a wise thing to do to go on a hookup app if you have no intention of ever hooking up...
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted December 19, 2018 Author Posted December 19, 2018 Sure, he was... IF you want to meet him, go ahead and meet him. Just be clear with him about your intentions. It's not exactly a wise thing to do to go on a hookup app if you have no intention of ever hooking up... I was just checking what was in there, was not planning to go out on a date with any. I already told him my intentions, will go on a date with him and see him live. Who knows... 2
jess060191 Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 Here in the US tinder is mostly used for hookups too. I too, am not looking for just a hook up but yet i find myself make a profile on there every once in awhile out of boredom and loneliness. GIVEN THAT, i say text him back go on a date, see what happens. And if you get the vibe its purely sexually, end it. Nothing wrong with that. 1
kendahke Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 Here in the US tinder is mostly used for hookups too. . according to this article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201706/is-tinder-really-hookup-app So what was the most commonly cited reason for using Tinder? It's popular: 48.3% of the respondents indicated that the main reason they used Tinder revolved around its popularit. Only about 5% of those surveyed indicated that the desire for hookups was their main motivation for joining the site. 1
salparadise Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Simply if he was on Tinder, he can sleep with a lot of girls that are there for that. Why would he chase someone who is not into that while he can have it the easy way there ? Hell, he found a virgin on Tinder didn't he... he's figuring this is his lucky day. I bet he bought a bunch of powerball tickets too! Going on Tinder to see what's there, posting on LS. It's a slippery slope... all you need is plausible deniability, a couple of martinis, and a four poster facing east. 1
grays Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 I can’t imagine that a guy looking for a hookup would think he hit the jackpot with a virgin. I had a virgin boyfriend once. Ugh. Noborgasms for me before or after teaching him how to have sex. What a nightmare! Also, tinder’s reputation here (US) is also that it’s all for hookups, but it’s really not. You can find that there but there’s people looking for all sorts of things. Most of us probably want to meet someone interesting and see where it goes. I doubt it’s really that different where you are. 1
grays Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Also, be honest with your kids about all sorts of things. We’re all just bumbling along doing our best as they will be too someday. Why not let them learn a bit from your experiences and to see that you’re a real person who’s living your life authentically. My children know all sorts of things about me, including that I’ve had done tinder, also — smoked cigarettes, pot, done cocaine (long time ago), dropped out of high school, etc. I am not encouraging them to do any of those things. I think I’d lose my mind if I found out one of them smoked cigarettes. I’d be worried af if one dropped out of school. But I think it’s a good thing that they know I’m a real person and they see where it has and has not gotten me. Oh, and also don’t restrict yourself regarding what you do for the sake of being honestly able to tell them you’re perfect. I don’t think perfect people understand other people’s imperfections and odds are your children will not be perfect. 1
snowcones Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 I think you have to give a guy, any guy, a minimum of 3 months before you can believe that you are starting to seeing the real him. Right now it's way too early to know what his intentions are. All you can do is keep seeing him, take things slow and see what happens. As for Tinder, I think it's just as risky as any other free app. Free apps are naturally going to draw in people who are looking for a hookup, but they also are going to have people who want a relationship as well. You can take your chances, but you have to know what you're doing, in order to not get burned.
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted December 20, 2018 Author Posted December 20, 2018 Had you told this man where you work? My organization is well known international company and everybody knows its location.
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted December 20, 2018 Author Posted December 20, 2018 I think you have to give a guy, any guy, a minimum of 3 months before you can believe that you are starting to seeing the real him. Right now it's way too early to know what his intentions are. All you can do is keep seeing him, take things slow and see what happens. As for Tinder, I think it's just as risky as any other free app. Free apps are naturally going to draw in people who are looking for a hookup, but they also are going to have people who want a relationship as well. You can take your chances, but you have to know what you're doing, in order to not get burned. Will take things slowlyyy yes and will see what will happen without any expectations.
elaine567 Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Also, tinder’s reputation here (US) is also that it’s all for hookups, but it’s really not. You can find that there but there’s people looking for all sorts of things. Most of us probably want to meet someone interesting and see where it goes. I doubt it’s really that different where you are. Agreed Tinder has moved on in the US to be more of a general dating app, but if the OP is correct the Middle East version of Tinder is supposedly purely for hook ups.
grays Posted December 20, 2018 Posted December 20, 2018 Agreed Tinder has moved on in the US to be more of a general dating app, but if the OP is correct the Middle East version of Tinder is supposedly purely for hook ups. I’m just saying that I hear that here all the time, but that’s really not the truth. Plus, even if it was more that way earlier, I think it has always attracted some reasonable people. The fact that she hears and believes it’s *only* for hookups doesn’t mean it’s true. If she had a lot of personal experience with it, I would take her word for it.
Miss Spider Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 (edited) Just some of my initial thoughts/opinions 1. If you were on the app and not looking for hook ups only, then it’s not just for people looking for hookups only. 2. if I felt uncomfortable meeting someone on an app used predominately for casual sex, then I wouldn’t meet people on there,. I especially wouldn’t meet people there and call them out on it. It’s not surprising if they got defensive about that. 3. It’s too soon to say what I think specifically about this guy. That’s what the dating process is for. The flowers are a nice gesture, though. 3. Oh yea. ,Don’t give tinder randos your work addresss Edited December 21, 2018 by Cookiesandough 2
olivetree Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 Seems a bit over the top to send flowers to someone you've never met before. But maybe that's not too much in the Middle East?
Mrs._December Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 Sooooo, a little background on how Tinder works in the middle east, especially in my country: Tinder is for HOOKUPS only and all the horny guys are there. Newsflash - all the horny guys are EVERYWHERE.
Emilia Posted December 21, 2018 Posted December 21, 2018 He likes playing games and obviously has a fair amount of money. I'm yet to see anything emotionally healthy to come out of a situation where two people got hooked on drama before they've even met.
Dodgersfan11 Posted December 22, 2018 Posted December 22, 2018 You lucked out! Whenever I'm on Tinder I get the stupid, "What's your snapchat?"
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