[17] My ex girlfriend is really messing with me right now and I dont want any of it [

[Josh20]

So we dated 2 months and basically she left me for some other guy... and they had sex and everything 2 weeks later she wanted to be friends and I didnt want to because I was hurt and stuff so she would still message me and stuff until I posted a girl on my instagram story which I believe led her to unfollow me... (That was 2-3 months ago)

 

So now whenever she sees me in public she laughs at me with her female friends, it happened twice, She has a boyfriend she's been dating for 2 months and he also looks at me funny and smug... yesterday he shook my hand for whatever reason and as they were walking back they saw me and my friend and just stared...

 

Today I was catching a bus and they both saw me and my ex said ''Oh my god'' and they both looked at me and I was thinking in my head ''Sorry do I bother you? I don't talk to any of you at all and I dont pay attention to both of you''

 

So they were just laughing and just being jerks... So the got on the bus and went to the last seat I sat in front and they were still clearly definately talking about me because I could feel it and they were talking very quiet... As I was getting off he was just staring at me the whole way until I got out and I could tell that he kept staring throught the window...

 

She's done all of this to me, for what reason? Why is she being evil to me after she broke my heart and had sex with another guy few days after she broke up with me? (In his car).

 

Why is she being like this even tho I was being nice to her before and post breakup??

 

I'm quite upset because I thought she's mature enough and would leave me alone after all she did... This crossed the line and I will never forgive her that, I dont give her any attention whatsoever or anything I dont look at her at all and I dont care so if she doesnt stop I'm gonna walk up to her and tell her straight up because I'm getting fed up with this behaviour.

 

TL:DR: She even aired her best friend of 6 years for another guy she dated 2 months....

[DrNo1962]

She's not a high value female or has a lot of maturing to do.

 

As much as the situation is stinging you right now you need to use this as a learning experience.

[Josh20]

She's not a high value female or has a lot of maturing to do.

 

As much as the situation is stinging you right now you need to use this as a learning experience.

Yeah definately, i wont be getting into any relationships in a while, this really messes with me.

[AmyHershaw]

She sounds immature. She might be purposely upsetting you so that you feel bad for not wanting to be with her, you are better off without that sort of person. Block her on everything and remove her from your life, it might be emotionally painful to do so, but you'll be thankful you did in the long run.

[Josh20]

You think that might be why? I mean she did all of that behind my back and then already jumped into bed with him first day after breaking up with me are you sure?

[HumanMachine]

Block her on social media and move onto someone else.

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, have you posted this before under a different name?

 

Your story sounds familiar.

[d0nnivain]

I assume she is your age. So she's doing this because she is immature. Almost everybody is immature in HS.

 

You know that you were a good BF to her. You can't control her behavior. Block her on social media. Don't run scared from her but do avoid her when possible.

 

Surround yourself with positive supportive friends. Throw yourself into school & other activities. In short try to forget about her because in the grand scheme she's unimportant. So hold your head up & live your best life.

[Josh20]

Block her on social media and move onto someone else.

 

I posted it in relationship maybe thats why it looks familiar but i took it down

[Josh20]

Block her on social media and move onto someone else.

 

I have removed her, and we don't talk at all, its been 2 months and the weirdest thing she cut off her friend of 6 years for unknown reasons ok..

[Josh20]

I assume she is your age. So she's doing this because she is immature. Almost everybody is immature in HS.

 

You know that you were a good BF to her. You can't control her behavior. Block her on social media. Don't run scared from her but do avoid her when possible.

 

Surround yourself with positive supportive friends. Throw yourself into school & other activities. In short try to forget about her because in the grand scheme she's unimportant. So hold your head up & live your best life.

 

I am but its difficult we go to the same college and I work there as a business apprentice, shes dating a guy that sells drugs, and is retaking exams lol, shes apparetly obsessed with him but that doesnt bother me at all I could careless what she does with him or whatever its none of my business... Its her unnecessary reactions... I was walking down the hall today and she was knocking on the door probably waiting for him, and she turned around and saw me and instantly turned her head around, I said hello to her classmate because we're cool with each other and I walked further and I started hearing someone laugh, it just doesnt end man

[aliveagain]

Ignor, ignor, ignor. Most of the people I have known who date drug dealers did it because they too did a lot of drugs. Once you start dating someone full time her bullsh*t will end. You dogged a bullet, stop giving her anymore space in your head, find other things to take her place. Your much better without someone like her in your life. You are who you associate with. She's not mature enough for you.

[Josh20]

Ignor, ignor, ignor. Most of the people I have known who date drug dealers did it because they too did a lot of drugs. Once you start dating someone full time her bullsh*t will end. You dogged a bullet, stop giving her anymore space in your head, find other things to take her place. Your much better without someone like her in your life. You are who you associate with. She's not mature enough for you.

 

Its weird because she never used to do drugs... She would smoke weed like everyone in our age group but very very rarely I dont know what the motive is behind this behaviour but its upsetting.

 

And you're 100% right

[AmyHershaw]

You think that might be why? I mean she did all of that behind my back and then already jumped into bed with him first day after breaking up with me are you sure?

 

Possibly, some people expect their ex to mourn and wish for them back while they do whatever they like. I've had an ex sleep with someone the day after the break up and then plead with me to remain in their life, even though they were making all sorts of accusations about me to others. Some people are just immature when it comes to relationships and like to play with others' emotions.

[ExpatInItaly]

Its weird because she never used to do drugs... She would smoke weed like everyone in our age group but very very rarely I dont know what the motive is behind this behaviour but its upsetting.

 

She is also only 17, and still in that phase of experimenting and growing up. It's not a positive step to get involved in drugs, but it's not unusual for kids her age to take a walk on the darker side.

 

Ignore her. A year from now, none of this will matter and you will have long moved on.

[Josh20]

Possibly, some people expect their ex to mourn and wish for them back while they do whatever they like. I've had an ex sleep with someone the day after the break up and then plead with me to remain in their life, even though they were making all sorts of accusations about me to others. Some people are just immature when it comes to relationships and like to play with others' emotions.

 

Damn, I jusst want her to leave me alone she did it again today... I was talking on the phone and they were talking together she looked at me and then looked away and as I was going up the stairs she started laughing again and pointed out at me to her boyfriend and he also started laughing this is soo boring at this point, its actually quite concerning now.

[Josh20]

She is also only 17, and still in that phase of experimenting and growing up. It's not a positive step to get involved in drugs, but it's not unusual for kids her age to take a walk on the darker side.

 

Ignore her. A year from now, none of this will matter and you will have long moved on.

 

Yeah that is true, but I've never seen someone leave a guy with a good job to someone that has no qualifications and sells drugs and the only thing he really got is a driving license thats all, i really dont know what she sees in him but I'm not here to judge its her life..

[ExpatInItaly]

Yeah that is true, but I've never seen someone leave a guy with a good job to someone that has no qualifications and sells drugs and the only thing he really got is a driving license thats all, i really dont know what she sees in him but I'm not here to judge its her life..

 

Give yourself time to learn more about the world; this sort of thing happens more often that you realize. It's just the first time you are seeing it. It doesn't make logical sense, but hey, not your problem.

[Josh20]

Give yourself time to learn more about the world; this sort of thing happens more often that you realize. It's just the first time you are seeing it. It doesn't make logical sense, but hey, not your problem.

 

Yeah now that i've experienced it its a good lesson... I dont get it tho, I'm better looking, I'm building my future and my life is looking good, and shes out there laughing at me with her failure of a boyfriend? What has this world come to man... Like I dont usually judge people but the fact that he looks at me and laughs is baffling.

[preraph]

I'm sure he realizes it's just her drama. You could always tell him, "Condolences."

[Josh20]

Give yourself time to learn more about the world; this sort of thing happens more often that you realize. It's just the first time you are seeing it. It doesn't make logical sense, but hey, not your problem.

 

I'm sure he realizes it's just her drama. You could always tell him, "Condolences."

 

hahaah, I'm sorry but what do you mean by that?

[ExpatInItaly]

Yeah now that i've experienced it its a good lesson... I dont get it tho, I'm better looking, I'm building my future and my life is looking good, and shes out there laughing at me with her failure of a boyfriend? What has this world come to man... Like I dont usually judge people but the fact that he looks at me and laughs is baffling.

 

Again, this is not an unusual as you might think. You will see this happen a lot in your life - not necessarily to you, but you will surely see friends get dumped for guys who seem to be a downgrade. Or your friends will break up with great girls to pursue someone you perceive to be of lesser quality.

 

The laughing part is because she's emotionally still a little kid. She thinks she's hot stuff but really, she's making herself look like a childish dipstick. Let her new boyfriend have her.

 

Continue to ignore. It will eventually stop.

[Josh20]

Again, this is not an unusual as you might think. You will see this happen a lot in your life - not necessarily to you, but you will surely see friends get dumped for guys who seem to be a downgrade. Or your friends will break up with great girls to pursue someone you perceive to be of lesser quality.

 

The laughing part is because she's emotionally still a little kid. She thinks she's hot stuff but really, she's making herself look like a childish dipstick. Let her new boyfriend have her.

 

Continue to ignore. It will eventually stop.

 

Yeah I hope man, it's quite sad tho because we ended on good terms even tho she left me for someone else but I didnt want to be enemies. But what can you do...

[kgcolonel]

Josh, look at it this way....how would it make you feel if your GF was paying this much attention to her ex and asking you to engage with her in this activity. Trust us here, it is bothering her to see you unaffected by the breakup and she is trying to get to you. The more you ignore the more she'll realize that she's the real loser here...and even worse, her BF is a bigger loser because she's the best he can do....lol you're good man...just keep on ignoring her that's the best comeback as she's no longer relevant in your world.

[Josh20]

Josh, look at it this way....how would it make you feel if your GF was paying this much attention to her ex and asking you to engage with her in this activity. Trust us here, it is bothering her to see you unaffected by the breakup and she is trying to get to you. The more you ignore the more she'll realize that she's the real loser here...and even worse, her BF is a bigger loser because she's the best he can do....lol you're good man...just keep on ignoring her that's the best comeback as she's no longer relevant in your world.

 

I guess so man, I'll just keep ignoring and I'll stop dwelling on it, I mean if she rather pay attention to me than her own boyfriend than she left me for then it's quite sad seeing him not realising that lol, She seems happy with him tho lol.

Edited December 20, 2018 by Josh20