Thisguy789 Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 Last post: So ran into her the other day. Went up behind her and touched her on the back and said hi. She didn't seem too thrilled to see me. Made a comment on how I was looking. I went to buy smokes and thought she would have left, considering when I call her she hang up straight away, but to my surprise she stayed and waited for me to finish. We then walked to our cars, but stopped and had a conversation. She brought up her new relationship, which I didn't ask about, so a bit of a **** test. Told her I was happy for her and that he seems like a good guy. Said it hurt to find out but I wasn't bothered. She continued to tell me she would cry to him about me all the time because of how i behanved and he's been really good to her, but it is just "different". She then began to bring up our relationship and why it went bad and how it made her feel. I explained some of my actions to her and apologised. The whole time she held eye contact, quite intensely as well. She asked how I was and saw I was doing really well. Excelling in my sport, up for a promotion, I now have friends, and mentally and physically very healthy. She is apparently doing better too, not drinking as much and is starting to see someome. Anyway we had a couple of laughs, so I decided to tell her I had to go meet a friend. She got a little jealous and told me to "win her heart" sarcastically. I just laughed and said I was hanging out with sport mates. Said goodbye and I went to shake her hand, and she pulled me in for a hug that lingered a little. I drove past her car as I was leaving and saw her with her head in her hands. So couple of questions One: her eyes told me she still had feeling but I'm not too sure, so what do you think? Two: they are now "official" but from what she said it doesn't seem that serious. Thoughts? Three: should I just continue giving her space and let it all play out? Or should I make steps to reconcile somehow? And last, what would her reaction while she was in the car mean? Tl:dr, ran into ex, went well but left me feeling a little confused as to what my chances are and what I should do
PegNosePete Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 She has a new boyfriend. You should LEAVE HER ALONE. 1
TheBetterPerson Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 You are on the path to recovery, why would you damage that, keep going and dont look back! She has someone therefore you need to move on yourself... you can do it, if it didnt work then, it wont work now!
Author Thisguy789 Posted December 18, 2018 Author Posted December 18, 2018 Just to add a bit, she started seeing him a week after our breakup, she called it off with him once already to try again with me, but because of lies about me she had been told she left me again. Yes I know she's with someone, but I really do have a gut feeling it isn't real
PegNosePete Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 Well if that's what you want to believe then go for it. But I think you're just going to get hurt more.
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 You are reading what you want to see. She was polite but because she told you that she has a BF, nothing about her eyes signals a desire to reconcile on her part. It was random that you ran into her not some divine coincidence. You were both polite & mature. Take that as a victory & move on.
TheBetterPerson Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 If you read into things you will get hurt because that disappointment feeling is real. If it was meant to be she will contact you so in the meantime put her from your mind and carry on with moving forward! If she has someone else, its really good for you to not dwell
sparkler1956 Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 I agree with others here it feels like you’re seeing what you want to see. I’m sorry x
Fekenaws Posted January 4, 2019 Posted January 4, 2019 I agree with everyone else here. When a girl, even your ex, tells you she has a boyfriend its time to let go and move on. However, I think you did a great job regardless. You showed her you aren't bitter toward her and you made her laugh a few times. If she wants to reach out in the future, she will, but I certainly wouldn't hold my breath.
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