BMWN52 Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 (edited) I went on a date yesterday with a gal who's 28,single mom. She suggested we goto a local bar for brunch. We met up, everything was going great. Conversation, even slight touching during our conversations. I was admittedly a tad bit buzzed, she only had 1 drink. She said she had to get home to take care of her kid. So we walked out in the parking lot together. We went to say our goodbyes, I hugged her and I went to give her a kiss on the cheek and she turned and locked lips with me. I didn't really expect that. It was a short and awkward kiss. I just replied and said " I didn't expect that afterwards". It seemed like she misinterpreted my advances. I just kinda smiled and let her know I liked it. She drove home. Few hours later ,I texted her I had a good time and we should set something up again. She responded " it was nice meeting you, I had fun. I feel like an idiot". With laughing emojis. I told her it was no big deal, not to over think it. It was a nice surprise. I haven't heard anything back from her. Thoughts? Edited December 18, 2018 by BMWN52
Highndry Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 ...I haven't heard anything back from her. Thoughts? Yeah, set up another date with her. 2
carhill Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 Yup, and make it specific, not 'set something up again'. Sell it.
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 She took your "I wasn't expecting that" to mean the kiss was unwelcome. She feels rejected. Call her -- do not text -- call & ask her out again. When you greet her hello, kiss her cheek. Drink less on the date & bring her a little something as a Christmas gift, unspoken apology. I'm thinking one of the poinsettia plants you can get at Walmart for $4.98. You can right this ship if you make the effort. 2
PRW Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 I was admittedly a tad bit buzzed, she only had 1 drink. Not good. Never be more drunk than they are. Myself, I just never drink alcohol and I never have to worry about that. She said she had to get home to take care of her kid. So we walked out in the parking lot together. We went to say our goodbyes, I hugged her and I went to give her a kiss on the cheek and she turned and locked lips with me. Kissing her on the cheek was a very weak thing to do. I'd rather not kiss them at all then kiss them like they are your grandmother. You're just lucky she was bold enough to take the initiative. I just replied and said " I didn't expect that afterwards". It seemed like she misinterpreted my advances. I just kinda smiled and let her know I liked it. Don't say crap like that any more. "Kinda smiling" doesn't tell her anything to "undo" a bad response like that. I haven't heard anything back from her. Thoughts?It's your job to make the date,...not hers. She is probably at home trying to sort out mixed feelings about the whole thing.
DrNo1962 Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 I went on a date yesterday with a gal who's 28,single mom. She suggested we goto a local bar for brunch. We met up, everything was going great. Conversation, even slight touching during our conversations. I was admittedly a tad bit buzzed, she only had 1 drink. She said she had to get home to take care of her kid. So we walked out in the parking lot together. We went to say our goodbyes, I hugged her and I went to give her a kiss on the cheek and she turned and locked lips with me. I didn't really expect that. It was a short and awkward kiss. I just replied and said " I didn't expect that afterwards". It seemed like she misinterpreted my advances. I just kinda smiled and let her know I liked it. She drove home. Few hours later ,I texted her I had a good time and we should set something up again. She responded " it was nice meeting you, I had fun. I feel like an idiot". With laughing emojis. I told her it was no big deal, not to over think it. It was a nice surprise. I haven't heard anything back from her. Thoughts? Physically romantic advances such as touching, kissing and even sex should be the guys responsibility. You kind of reversed roles here, she is acting like the guy and you are acting like the girl.
Author BMWN52 Posted December 19, 2018 Author Posted December 19, 2018 (edited) Physically romantic advances such as touching, kissing and even sex should be the guys responsibility. You kind of reversed roles here, she is acting like the guy and you are acting like the girl. I touched her just to clarify. The awkward kiss was in her part. She responded via text, obviously not as quick I got a " maybe next week". With a emoji. Lesson learned don't drink too much whiskey on a date. This whole thing took place near her car door as we were saying goodbye. I didn't expect for a kiss to occur at that setting. I guess I ****ed up. Usually I'll go for in the car or sitting somewhere. Not like the moment before she gets into her car. PRW, on the cheek is kinda weak. But i wanted a more modest gentlemen approach. Edited December 19, 2018 by BMWN52
Rocker71 Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 That wasn't awkward. You gotta be quick. Just as your lips are parting you stare into her eyes, half smiling and say " Now I'm ready to find out if you kiss just as amazing with your other lips. "
DrNo1962 Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 I touched her just to clarify. The awkward kiss was in her part. She responded via text, obviously not as quick I got a " maybe next week". With a emoji. Lesson learned don't drink too much whiskey on a date. This whole thing took place near her car door as we were saying goodbye. I didn't expect for a kiss to occur at that setting. I guess I ****ed up. Usually I'll go for in the car or sitting somewhere. Not like the moment before she gets into her car. PRW, on the cheek is kinda weak. But i wanted a more modest gentlemen approach. Maybe = Unsure. Do not accept maybes. There is no correct setting for a kiss. It can happen anywhere when the signs are there. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 I touched her just to clarify. The awkward kiss was in her part. She responded via text, obviously not as quick I got a " maybe next week". With a emoji. Lesson learned don't drink too much whiskey on a date. This whole thing took place near her car door as we were saying goodbye. I didn't expect for a kiss to occur at that setting. I guess I ****ed up. Usually I'll go for in the car or sitting somewhere. Not like the moment before she gets into her car. PRW, on the cheek is kinda weak. But i wanted a more modest gentlemen approach. It wasn't the location of the kiss. It wasn't who initiated. It was awkward based on your follow up words -- I wasn't expecting that. She thought you didn't want the kiss & that is why she feels weird & is slow to respond now. Since she did say maybe next week, see what happens next week. Do send a Merry Christmas text but get a date & time nailed down soon.
BaileyB Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 It wasn't the location of the kiss. It wasn't who initiated. It was awkward based on your follow up words -- I wasn't expecting that. She thought you didn't want the kiss & that is why she feels weird & is slow to respond now. Since she did say maybe next week, see what happens next week. Do send a Merry Christmas text but get a date & time nailed down soon. This. Exactly.
PRW Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 PRW, on the cheek is kinda weak. But i wanted a more modest gentlemen approach. That is how you finish last. There are a lot of 1st dates where I don't kiss at all, but it is usually because I either don't get the feeling that they want it, or I wasn't feeling it for myself and didn't think I was going to even want a 2nd date. But in any case kiss like you are supposed to or just don't at all. Cheek kissing is for mom and grandma.
PRW Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 She responded via text, obviously not as quick I got a " maybe next week". With a emoji. That is just a platitude. Don't take it seriously. Consider it a 50/50 that you will get a second date. Just contact her and offer her a date with a specific day/place/time. If you are going to get rejected at least give her something to reject. Being wishy-washy will drive her nuts and turn her off.
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 19, 2018 Posted December 19, 2018 There is a difference between saying "I wasn't expecting that" and "That was a nice surprise". One can be construed as low interest while the other leaves things open for more. I think the follow-up is where you were a tad weak as already mentioned. Some women need reassurance when they stick their neck out like that, especially on a first date. Reach out to her again via phone and nail down the next date ASAP before she grows cold second guessing her actions. That next date will reveal a lot. Good luck.
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