dateme Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 (edited) I had a woman pick me up at a bar last night. She bought drinks and food and had decent conversation all night. She had a little bit of an attitude but I thought it was just her testing. She flirted with other guys but I thought it was just her testing. I didn't care because she already told me she was taking me home. She proceeded to tell me how she always has these men beating her up. I was like well I'm not going to beat you up and that's wild. I should have known. She started being super verbally aggressive in the car. She was kinda drunk so I drove her car to her place. Then she went off when she told me to do something and I didn't and she went nuclear. We were at her place and I just told her I would sleep wherever she wouldn't to keep the peace so don't worry about me trying to get sex then I'd leave in the morning. I took a shower and she was still going off. I was like omg. I just said there's no way we can be friends or anything and whatever I did to make her upset wasn't worth all the fighting. And I'd just leave her alone when I saw her in the bar so there would be no issues. I would never hit a woman but I can see how she got into these situations with her mouth. So I went to sleep on the couch and she woke me up after two hours and said her son was coming home because he was sick and she needed to take me to my car. I thanked her for letting me stay the night and went to the car and now I'm getting coffee at the local Starbucks because I've had no sleep. I feel I handled it well. Except I should have known about the issues with her saying how she's always fighting and getting beat up by men. Super red flag I ignored because I knew she wanted easy sex and she was hot. Would never have thought on the first meeting a woman would show out like that. Edited December 17, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Mrs._December Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 (edited) If I'm being honest, it seems that the one who wanted 'easy' sex was you and that's why you continually ignored all the red flags. Edited December 17, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redact full quote of starting post 3
Simple Logic Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 You meet a woman in a bar, go home with her and that’s a date? Your title should read had a bar pick from Hell. 1
smackie9 Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 No more like ONS from hell..... meh it is what it is.
Els Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 You "handled things well"? Yeah, if "handling things well" means staying several hours longer than you should've.... Pro tip: Next time someone starts trying to fight with you in the car on your first "date", maybe don't try to sleep in their house? 3
Wallysbears Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 Step 1: Don't go hooking up with drunk chicks at a bar who are SO inebriated that you need to drive THEIR car somewhere. That is a recipe for disaster. 2
Author dateme Posted December 17, 2018 Author Posted December 17, 2018 And then she called me this morning to come get me and to hang out and hook up. I declined. I was polite but like really? I agree with you guys I didn't handle it right. She wasn't drunk at 9p when she came over but by 2:30 a she was. She was trying to get me to see she was a good person later today when sober. Oh well. I mean what else could you do in a situation. People hook up in bars after drinking.
Wallysbears Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 And then she called me this morning to come get me and to hang out and hook up. I declined. I was polite but like really? I agree with you guys I didn't handle it right. She wasn't drunk at 9p when she came over but by 2:30 a she was. She was trying to get me to see she was a good person later today when sober. Oh well. I mean what else could you do in a situation. People hook up in bars after drinking. Stay away from the sloppy chicks. This one sounds desperate and sloppy and those types are usually a mess in the entirety of their lives. 1
Author dateme Posted December 17, 2018 Author Posted December 17, 2018 Stay away from the sloppy chicks. This one sounds desperate and sloppy and those types are usually a mess in the entirety of their lives. I agree. I'll just have to pay more attention and see how they act around midnight.
Author dateme Posted December 17, 2018 Author Posted December 17, 2018 alcohol is a truth serum my friend Yes! Because I let her do 90% of the talking.
preraph Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 There aren't too many like that, but I remember one kind of similar. I guess fighting was normal to her growing up and she doesn't feel right any other way. Obviously needs to see a psychologist. You handled it as well as possible. You're lucky some ex of hers wasn't coming round to check on her!
RecentChange Posted December 17, 2018 Posted December 17, 2018 Yeah ..... Let's see, drunk woman in a bar acting erratically, fliting with other men, and "testing" you - while announcing she is going to have sex with you tonight. Nope, no red flags or concerns there. Then you leave your car and travel to this woman's house, and proceed to shower there, and attempt to sleep on the couch while she is acting all sorts of crazy?!? Do they not have taxi cabs, Uber or Lyft where you live? You should have high tailed it out of there the moment she started acting even more strange than she was already acting at the bar. You know what they say, nothing in life is free. Sounds like you thought you were going to get some free sex, but got a healthy helping of crazy instead. 3
Highndry Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 You ignored red flag after red flag after red flag. You're lucky you didn't wake up to a knife in your gut, or worse.
snowboy91 Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 Actually I'm going to go against what everyone else has said and say you handled it OK given the circumstances. From what I gather you had no clue she was going to blow up the way she did when you got in her car to drive her home. Seriously she should be thankful you did drive her home, if she wants to drink in a bar she should have a plan to get home. Although I certainly would have ran once you got to her place. A potential ONS partner ranting at me for things other people have done is a huge turn off, and you're causing yourself way too much drama by sticking around. You were right to decline her offer the next day - it's really not a good first impression.
Author dateme Posted December 18, 2018 Author Posted December 18, 2018 There aren't too many like that, but I remember one kind of similar. I guess fighting was normal to her growing up and she doesn't feel right any other way. Obviously needs to see a psychologist. You handled it as well as possible. You're lucky some ex of hers wasn't coming round to check on her! I know right.
Author dateme Posted December 18, 2018 Author Posted December 18, 2018 Yep, should have called a cab. No way would I have tried to sleep at her place. Maybe her hotness affected your judgment a bit there? You should have done a smash and dash. I didn't even want any. I didn't try.
chillii Posted December 18, 2018 Posted December 18, 2018 I didn't even want any. I didn't try. Probably why she was going off her nut, or she was spoiling to be beat up again , at the very least she def' wanted a good argument l was wondering if she was actually saying getting herself beat up was one of her things and she liked it. Whatever though l'm amazed you even went inside by then with her by the time you got back to though the writing was well and truly on the wall already. Once back in my 20s l picked up this chick hitching a ride and she reminded me of her. At first she was all nicey wicey, started going fkg crazy back ta her place later , sounded very similar. She turned out a major bong head though, druggo, needed her 10 or 15 cones a day from the minute she woke up to a last before sleep. So in between she;d start going off her nut when she needed another hit, once she got it she was all nice again. Crazy b@tch. Must admit she was a hottie too and l stayed at her place that night , l wasn't touching either though. Wouldn't have minded if she obviously wasn't half crazy but that was becoming more and more obvious. Her nice side was actually really nice , she dressed really well talked about all sorts of things we got along quite bloody well actually. But that was only in about 30minute spands, then she start going off agian.
Author dateme Posted December 19, 2018 Author Posted December 19, 2018 Probably why she was going off her nut, or she was spoiling to be beat up again , at the very least she def' wanted a good argument l was wondering if she was actually saying getting herself beat up was one of her things and she liked it. Whatever though l'm amazed you even went inside by then with her by the time you got back to though the writing was well and truly on the wall already. Once back in my 20s l picked up this chick hitching a ride and she reminded me of her. At first she was all nicey wicey, started going fkg crazy back ta her place later , sounded very similar. She turned out a major bong head though, druggo, needed her 10 or 15 cones a day from the minute she woke up to a last before sleep. So in between she;d start going off her nut when she needed another hit, once she got it she was all nice again. Crazy b@tch. Must admit she was a hottie too and l stayed at her place that night , l wasn't touching either though. Wouldn't have minded if she obviously wasn't half crazy but that was becoming more and more obvious. Her nice side was actually really nice , she dressed really well talked about all sorts of things we got along quite bloody well actually. But that was only in about 30minute spands, then she start going off agian. Yeah that's how this girl was. There's some crazies out there. I'm moving on. Glad I found out in a span of 6 hours than to get involved with this person.
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