Drunk Behavior

[FMW]

Do you think if someone is drunk, or at least has had a lot to drink, their behavior toward other people is authentic and true to how they really feel or just an aberration from the drinking?

 

Specifically I'm talking about romantic interest that does NOT include simply trying to get laid and isn't just general affection.

[amaysngrace]

I think most drunk people lack good judgment. This whole idea of being more yourself while drunk is BS, unless yourself is a bumbling fool.

[d0nnivain]

In vino veritas, in wine there is truth.

 

Alcohol allows people to let the guards down. It doesn't generally fundamentally change their personalities. They may have the liquid courage to express romantic feeling they were too shy to express sober but the booze doesn't manufacture those feelings.

[snowboy91]

Alcohol lowers inhibitions and makes you less likely to consider the repercussions of your actions. So if you've got a crush on someone and you're worried about what will happen if you're rejected when sober, you won't be as worried after a few drinks so you end up expressing your interest in that person.

[DKT3]

Alcohol lowers inhibitions and makes you less likely to consider the repercussions of your actions. So if you've got a crush on someone and you're worried about what will happen if you're rejected when sober, you won't be as worried after a few drinks so you end up expressing your interest in that person.

 

This exactly. So many people love to use alcohol as an excuse for poor behavior and making them do what they otherwise wouldn't.

 

Alcohol amplifies your personality. So to answer the question, if a person is a liar then being drunk would likely cause them to tell bigger lies. If a person has a crush on someone alcohol would likely create the courage to confess the crush.

 

What alcohol does not do is change a person's overall behavior, it doesn't alter your brain chemistry like many street drugs.

[basil67]

Do you think if someone is drunk, or at least has had a lot to drink, their behavior toward other people is authentic and true to how they really feel or just an aberration from the drinking?

 

Beer goggles are a thing!

 

When someone looks attractive when you're drunk but when sober you're NOT attracted to them at all.

[elaine567]

What alcohol does not do is change a person's overall behavior, it doesn't alter your brain chemistry like many street drugs.

What about the guys who turn nasty and aggressive and start fighting as soon as they get drunk?

Is that just their core personality coming to the surface?

[major_merrick]

In vino veritas, in wine there is truth.

 

Alcohol allows people to let the guards down. It doesn't generally fundamentally change their personalities. They may have the liquid courage to express romantic feeling they were too shy to express sober but the booze doesn't manufacture those feelings.

 

 

This. When my husband was drinking, he was more likely to "tell it like it is" and express himself, although he's not exactly repressed about being critical. I think it is how he was raised - criticism is expressed authentically, but positive loving emotions are not allowed to come out freely. In general, alcohol loosened him up.

As for people who get nasty, that could very well be their core personality. My husband tells of his grandmother who, after drinking, would preface a tirade by saying "I've had just enough to tell you what I think...." and would then be even meaner than her usual self. Alcohol tends to amplify whatever behaviors you see normally. Kind/fun people get more so, and nasty people get worse.

[DKT3]

What about the guys who turn nasty and aggressive and start fighting as soon as they get drunk?

Is that just their core personality coming to the surface?

 

Yes, maybe sober, they dont display the behavior because of the consequences.

[FMW]

Beer goggles are a thing!

 

When someone looks attractive when you're drunk but when sober you're NOT attracted to them at all.

 

Ha! In this case I think it's a matter of the person wanting sex and so they end up with whomever is available and willing. But then they are still doing it because they wanted sex, so it's still not an aberration - just being less picky

[alphamale]

What alcohol does not do is change a person's overall behavior, it doesn't alter your brain chemistry like many street drugs.

 

you might want to rethink this statement

[preraph]

For some, it blurs their filters and make them less controlled. For alcoholics, it can make them do horrible things when drunk that just aren't acceptable. So two issues. One is how much and often does this person drink? Are they an alcoholic, which is like any other addict -- impossible to deal with. And is his behavior drunk and sober acceptable or not? Don't make excuses for anyone just because they're drunk. It's all in them.

[Mike800]

For some, it blurs their filters and make them less controlled. For alcoholics, it can make them do horrible things when drunk that just aren't acceptable. So two issues. One is how much and often does this person drink? Are they an alcoholic, which is like any other addict -- impossible to deal with. And is his behavior drunk and sober acceptable or not? Don't make excuses for anyone just because they're drunk. It's all in them.

 

Op is talking about strictly romantic intentions.

 

I’ve never said romantic things or confessed my love to someone while drunk if I didn’t mean it.

 

All being drunk did was take away my filter and lower my inhibitions to say how I really feel to someone

Edited December 17, 2018 by Mike800

[d0nnivain]

What about the guys who turn nasty and aggressive and start fighting as soon as they get drunk?

Is that just their core personality coming to the surface?

 

 

Yes. While sober then are more in control & cognizant of social norms. Drunk their brains don't work the same way & the prefrontal cortex doesn't filter them the same way

[lucky-girl]

Alcohol, or being drunk also amplifies your emotions. So if you're sad when drinking you'll become more sad, so maybe an aggressive person feels more angry than when sober.

 

As stated alcohol lowers inhibitions so you're more likely to express an existing interest in someone, but it can't always be taken on face value. I've also flirted with guys (mates) when tipsy, who I wasn't interested in dating. It was meant as a joke, a bit of fun, not to be taken seriously.

 

It's also possible that someone may be attracted to a person but have reasons for not wanting to get into a relationship (or bed) with them, but while drunk, those sensible reasons take a backseat to the more primal attraction so they might express an interest that while true, when sober they retract.

[basil67]

Ha! In this case I think it's a matter of the person wanting sex and so they end up with whomever is available and willing. But then they are still doing it because they wanted sex, so it's still not an aberration - just being less picky

 

Not my experience of beer goggles...but if that's what you're comfortable with, then run with it.

[LuckyM]

This reminds me of a story.

 

A couple are having a beer together and the man says "I love you."

Woman says "Is that you talking or the beer?"

 

Man says. "Neither. It's me talking to the beer!"

[FMW]

Not my experience of beer goggles...but if that's what you're comfortable with, then run with it.

 

Didn't mean to offend

 

My "ha" meant it was funny in a fun way, I wasn't scoffing.

Edited December 19, 2018 by Finding my way

[basil67]

Didn't mean to offend

 

My "ha" meant it was funny in a fun way, I wasn't scoffing.

 

Not offended. It's simply that what you explain isn't my experience.

 

It's all good

[Kitty Tantrum]

It's important to remember that alcohol impairs an individual's ability to accurately process and understand all facets of reality. Alcohol certainly cannot "manufacture feelings," but a person's impaired assessment of their own experiences might take some unexpected turns. I'd say it depends a lot on the individual. Lots of potential there for genetic/chemical variations from one person to the next in terms of which areas of the brain/body are most affected, too.

[Ronni_W]

Ha! In this case I think it's a matter of the person wanting sex and so they end up with whomever is available and willing.

But then they are still doing it because they wanted sex, so it's still not an aberration - just being less picky

That is definitely a thing! Discrimination goes out the window, and the sex impulse/drive takes over.

 

But, that is different than someone who, 'under the influence', is somehow freed to express deeper feelings and emotions -- in vino, veritas.

[FMW]

I tried to keep my post fairly general, but the situation that made me post the question involved a guy I've been friends with for a while now. I had never seen him have more than a few drinks, but he had much more than usual and exhibited affection toward me that he never had before and that others took note of.

 

He wasn't inappropriate or disrespectful whatsoever. I just wasn't sure what to make of it. He HAS been more attentive since that night but not to that extent again.

 

Interesting discussion, thanks