First love

[edweirdo]

I had a very short relationship in high school with my first love. She was my first girlfriend and I was her first boyfriend. I screwed it up and she broke up with me. We stayed friends and then she found someone else. We have always been friends even though she's been with this guy and I have been with other people (including her sister at one point).

 

After she started dating the other guy there were times when I would show obvious affection for her and she would push me away and there were times when she would show obvious affection for me but I would push her away.

 

She eventually married the guy and I married someone else. At my wedding she was very obvious towards me and I had to push her way again. Because of this my wife wouldn't let me talk to her anymore (she lived across the country at that point so it wasn't difficult to stay out of touch). We still talked every few years, though.

 

10 years later I got a divorce (last year). Now I am going out to see her for a week and I find out that she is unhappy in her marriage and talking about divorce also. This will be the first time I've seen her in 11 years (since my wedding) and our original relationship was 23 years ago.

 

She has always been the one I would want to be with, even over my ex-wife. She has never told me how she really feels about me other than the situations where she was very obvious to me. If, somehow, I ended up with her after all these years I would be very happy.

 

The question is, should I make a move on her/accept any moves from her or just try to stay out of it?

[whichwayisup]

You have nothing to lose here. Go for it and see what happens. If you don't, you'll regret it forever and always habour feelings for this woman.

 

You've been without the friendship for so long, so if she isn't into it then it's not like you're missing much, except finally getting closure...

 

If she is into it and it works out, then both of you will be happy.