Saidar Posted September 14, 2005 Posted September 14, 2005 Hi, I got a little problem. There's a girl at my school who I'm starting to find very attractive. We understand each other and talk a lot. But the problem is she recently left her boyfriend. What should I do ? Just stay friends with her for now, and wait a while until she forgot about him ? We both are 17.
BonneChatte Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 If she did the "leaving" in her last relationship, then I think you should ask her out casually...to the mall or a movie maybe you've both been wanting to see. If she was the one who was dumped, you'd probably better to play it safe...she may not be over him yet.
HeartSprinkles Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 Don't let yourself be the rebound guy!
Author Saidar Posted September 18, 2005 Author Posted September 18, 2005 No she dumped him. We talked last night for 2 hours on the phone....
Copingsaw Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Talking on the phone for 2 hours is a pretty good sign. Ask her to do something casual or just ask her out. Based on the limited information you've provided, it sounds like she may be receptive.
BonneChatte Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 In that case, what were the reasons for the break up? That could give you some clues on how you should proceed. For example if she dumped him because she didn't want a relationship...then you'd better keep it friendly. But if she had a reason like infidelity on his end, then I'd say you're in the clear. But it's still better to wait at least a few weeks...she may give you some hints about her romantic feelings (or lack of) toward you now that she's sans boyfriend. You could still ask her out as friends…who knows, maybe she’ll make the first move!
Author Saidar Posted September 19, 2005 Author Posted September 19, 2005 I'm very unexperienced when it comes to dating and flirting.... So uhm.... I would appreciate some help... She always smiles at me, she touches me in a "playful" way, she calls me on my name when saying goodbye etc... It looks to me asif she likes me, but I'm not sure if she wants to go further than just being friends. But I got one problem, another guy also likes her, he invited her to the movies, and she accepted. But when she told me about him she didn't sound very enthusiastic about him, and looked down upon him.
Author Saidar Posted September 19, 2005 Author Posted September 19, 2005 Oh yes, she dumped him because he sort of cheated on her and he's not the person she thought he was. He faked everything
brittanyjean259 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 if he had cheated on her, than i think you should stay low for a little while reasons being....she could have been really hurt by this?....how long did they go out for?
fusangite Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Unfortunately, your timing is sucky. If you get together now, you risk being the rebound guy. But if you don't, you risk permanent exile to the friend zone. I think the second danger is worse than the first.
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